Three principles that should be adhered to in socialist life

Adhere to three principles (Part 1)

Introduction

When communicating with others, you must pay attention to adhering to the following three principles: self-confidence and respect for others, seeking truth from facts and anti-self Benefit.

Confidence

Confidence may not necessarily lead to success, but self-confidence is a necessary condition for success. If you are not confident, you will definitely fail. During a job interview, if you behave hesitantly, not decisive, and have no confidence, and keep emphasizing that you have never done it before and try your best to do it, your boss will be worried. If you act sincerely, speak firmly, and emphasize that you like this job and will do a great job, you will gain the trust of your boss. Chinese culture emphasizes modesty, and children should be trained to be modest and prudent from an early age, so try to leave room for reservations when speaking and doing things. Humility makes people progress, pride makes people fall behind. But any truth is relative. We must be humble when we should be humble, and we must not be humble when we should not be humble. People must learn to promote themselves and sell themselves. If you yourself say that you are not good enough, others will think that you are not good enough. Westerners regard self-confidence as the core of personality. Whether a person can withstand blows, sarcasm, sarcasm, and jealousy is closely related to self-confidence.

Case

Potluck

When the reform and opening up was just started, Chinese people would often politely say when entertaining foreign guests: "Let's have a potluck today, just eat whatever you want." As a result, the foreign guests were very curious and asked privately: "Why don't you give me the best food? Are you using it to entertain more important guests, and I don't deserve to enjoy it?" In fact, we can tell the foreign guests frankly: " I have tried my best, and this is the best thing. "In this way, foreign guests will think that they are respected, so there is no need to be too modest all the time.

Comments: This is the habit of Chinese people. They must be modest in everything, but in the eyes of foreigners, this is often a sign of lack of confidence.

Respect

A person must be confident, but not arrogant or domineering. He must trust others and respect others. Respecting others is reflected in many aspects, such as being punctual during business negotiations or appointments with friends, listening patiently during conversations, and not interrupting others casually. There are the following rules of interpersonal communication abroad:

The golden rule of interpersonal communication: Treat others how you want others to treat you.

The anti-golden rule of interpersonal communication: how I treat others, how others should treat me.

The Platinum Rule of Interpersonal Communication: Treat others how they want you to treat them.

Case 1

The boss who remembers the names of employees

Every time a boss visits the office or workshop, he asks his secretary to prepare information about the employees. information. During the inspection, the boss could call everyone by name accurately and even asked: "Master Wang, I heard that your child is going to college soon. How is it?" or "I heard that your child is going to college. Congratulations." You!" In this way, employees will feel that the boss is familiar with them and respects them, which feels very good.

Comments: Respect is reflected in many details. It is very important to remember other people’s names. If necessary, make some effort and prepare carefully.

Case 2

Helpful conductor

On the bus, there was a woman holding a child who was shaking unsteadily. When the conductor saw that there were no empty seats and there was a young man sitting next to the woman, he walked over. The conductor held the child's hand, patted the young man's shoulder gently, and then said to the child: "Kid, thank you uncle for giving me your seat." As a result, the young man stood up immediately and said quickly: "Sit down quickly! Hurry up!" Sit down! "

Comment: This is the power of respect. Respect itself can convince others. If the conductor directly said to the young man: "Get up, get up, give me your seat, don't you see the one holding the child?" The young man might not pay attention, or even get into a quarrel.

Case 3

The young man eating melon seeds

There was a young man who lacked social ethics. He ate melon seeds in the public car and vomited melon seeds everywhere. Skin. The conductor said politely: "Sir, please don't eat melon seeds. You can't spit melon seed peels on the bus." As a result, the young man not only didn't stop, but also spit in the conductor's face. The conductor found a newspaper and held it with both hands for the young man to pick up melon seed skins. Everyone in the car looked at him angrily.

In the end, the young man blushed, felt embarrassed, and got off the bus in despair before reaching the station.

Comments: The conductor did not quarrel with the young man, but chose the method of respect. Facts have proved that the power of respect is great.

Case 4

Customer who stole clothes

In a supermarket in the United States, a woman bought clothes. After buying one piece, she wanted another one. But he was reluctant to spend money, so he hid one in his clothes. Supermarket staff found out through surveillance footage. When she paid the payment and was about to leave with two pieces of clothing, the supermarket manager stopped her and said, "Please stay, please come." He took her to an office, then turned on the monitor, and the monitor began to play her Shots of stealing clothes. The supermarket manager said: "You are my customer and my God. You were negligent just now. You bought two pieces of clothes and forgot to pay for one. Just hand over the money. And you bought two pieces. This one I'll give you a few bucks at a discount." Then he let her go happily. The supermarket employee was very unconvinced and believed that the manager should not have let the thief go but should have sent him to the police station. The manager said: "It is not my task to catch the thief. She is my God and I cannot afford to offend her. I believe she will patronize my store again in the future and will never be negligent and forget to pay again."

Comments: This is a kind of respect for people. People should always put themselves in someone else's shoes and understand what they encounter from the other person's perspective, instead of being sarcastic or sarcastic.

Chapter 2: Unlimited use of limited resources

Adhere to three principles (Part 2)

Seek truth from facts

Seeking truth from facts means saying one thing and saying the other. Two words, tell the truth, the most important thing is sincerity. The so-called sincerity means consistency in thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, that is, consistency in words and deeds, and consistency in appearance and appearance. If you say one thing and do another, say one thing to your face and another behind your back, you are being insincere. To seek truth from facts, we must have a dialectical attitude and look at things in two parts: ourselves, others, and our own products and services. Sometimes it is appropriate to tell some well-intentioned lies, because sincerity is based on the principle of not harming others. For example, we cannot directly tell a cancer patient: "Oh, you still have three months to go. This is cancer, an incurable disease, and everyone is hiding it from you." Instead, we must encourage him: "No problem, you have to He is confident that his body can still recover. "In this way, he will gradually become optimistic.

Case

A packed acrobatic performance

When the Beijing Acrobatic Troupe of China visited the United States for a performance, something went wrong and the bicycle fell. The group leader thought that no one would watch the next few performances because the performance was not high enough and the performances were terrible. The result was beyond everyone's expectation. The performance was full and the audience was even larger. Because the audience thinks that the performance of Beijing Acrobatic Troupe in China is real kung fu, and if it is not done well, it will fall and break. Real kung fu is beautiful.

Comments: Exposing a small flaw can increase the credibility and realism of the matter.

Anti-self-interest

What is anti-self-interest? It means opinions and content used to promote or persuade others, which are contrary to one's own interests. This anti-self-interest perspective is the most easily accepted.

Case 1

Student Representatives

In the 1980s, a leadership group was responsible for the graduation allocation of college students, and there must be a student representative in the leadership group. In a poll to recommend student representatives, most classmates in a class recommended the same person. The students believe that if there is a quota for the border area, he will definitely sign up by himself and will not mobilize others. Because this person is not afraid of suffering losses and is willing to suffer losses, he has a high prestige and everyone supports him.

Comments: If a person's behavior is often against self-interest, then he can be effective in persuading others.

Case 2

A unique tea stall

There is a tea stall in Zhangjiajie. Next to it is a sign that reads: Life is difficult to survive. Many people are cheated everywhere. Please have the courage, spend a dollar, drink a cup of tea, and be fooled again! When tourists see this sign, they find it funny. One dollar for a bowl of tea is too expensive, but people clearly tell you that you are being scammed, so everyone happily pays one dollar to be fooled.

Comments: Although the stall owner does not understand psychology, he unconsciously applied the principle of anti-self-interest and achieved surprising results.

Case 3

Crisis of Faith

After the 1980s and 1990s, a so-called crisis of faith occurred in China. Many young people lacked communist ideals. and belief that ideological and political work is obsolete. When the Communist Party of China was founded, there were only a dozen party representatives and more than 50 party members in the country. But in the end it achieved revolutionary success. What did it rely on? They rely on establishing connections, visiting the poor, holding street rallies, distributing leaflets, and posting slogans to mobilize the masses, and mobilizing the masses relies on ideological and political work. So why does a crisis of faith occur decades after taking power? Before liberation, Communist Party members who promoted Marxism-Leninism and communism were against self-interest and could not bring any benefits. Instead, they faced imprisonment, beheading, bloodshed, and sacrifice. When the people saw that Communist Party members shed blood and sacrificed to eliminate exploitation and oppression, they would of course follow the Party. Therefore, the Communist Party of China was very prestigious at that time and could mobilize the masses. Nowadays, a small number of party members engage in corruption when they become officials. They do not believe in communism at all, but demand selfless dedication and hard work from others. When some people see this, they will doubt the party and their faith will be shaken. , resulting in a crisis of faith.

Comment: To overcome the crisis of faith, we must start with anti-corruption. If the Communist Party can endure hardship before enjoyment as it did in the past, worry about the world's worries first, and rejoice after the world's happiness, there will be no crisis in faith, and the people will definitely follow the party firmly. This is the embodiment of the anti-self-interest principle.