How to treat the double standards of mother's understanding?

My mother is very fashionable, so she basically understands the double standard from her own point of view. She knows someone who is zhuyuchen's mother. As a mother, she paid too much attention to all her son's behaviors and was criticized, condemned and even attacked. It can be said that almost no one recognizes her, this way of loving her son. Although my mother doesn't agree with her radical approach, as a mother with a son, my mother can understand how much Zhu's mother loves her son.

My mother thinks that such a mother is not a person, but a person. And with the post-90 s and post-00 s, the main force of the only child is slowly moving towards middle age, and such old mothers will have more and more trends. They have the same characteristics: too good health and too few sons; Too much energy; Born too strong; Super diligent, pursuing perfection. They have the potential qualities of successful people.

If they treat their daughters in the same way, few people accuse them of cultivating "mother and daughter" (there is no such word). In other words, society can tolerate mothers doting on their daughters, but it does not accept mothers doting on their sons. Is this a "double standard"? Some people explain: do society and family have different definitions of a good man and a good woman? So it is not a "double standard".

To be fair, my mother admires this kind of person. What she lacks is this indomitable spirit. Because there are a large number of procrastinators in society now. They are not proactive, irresponsible and muddle along. It's just that she didn't adjust herself in time with the growth of her children. But we can't completely deny her efforts and success in giving birth to children.

If you just want rights, then you will "feel wronged" when you do your duty, complaining about others' unkindness and lack of responsibility. Even if others think they have fulfilled their obligations, but they do not meet my requirements, I am still dissatisfied and will not accept them. Some things want to be done according to traditional customs, and some things want to be done according to modern thinking. I think my mother understands the problem accurately and looks at it from different angles. I can learn a lot from my mother.