Stay at home and make good use of the "3C principle" to arrange your daily life!

Even if there is no city closure and no epidemic prevention order at home, more and more people in Taiwan Province Province work at home, or go out less after work or on holidays. It is an unprecedented new challenge to complete tasks such as work, child care and housework at home for a long time, and let family members and couples live in harmony under the anxiety and pressure of the epidemic.

The child shouted, "daddy, here we are ~". The low voice next to him said, "Not now. Dad is answering an important phone call. 」

This is a common scene in the homes of many Canadian prime ministers recently. Because his wife was diagnosed with COVID-19, he was isolated from his three children aged 6, 1 1 and 12. Due to isolation and no helper at home, Trudeau had to do all the cleaning, cooking, watching the children attend classes and play from a distance ... Only shopping was put outside the door with the help of the staff. Adults go to work remotely, children learn remotely, and family affairs increase dramatically. He also postponed the conference call because he helped his youngest son bathe.

Although all this is hard, he appealed at the press conference in front of his house that it doesn't matter to let the children run around and watch as many movies as possible. He thanked the parents who took turns to take care of their children while working in the kitchen, living room and dining room, and also thanked the children for working with their parents at home and doing their homework at the dinner table.

The scene that 3.9 billion people in the world have to stay at home has become the daily life of more and more people. Although there is no home ban order or foot ban order in Taiwan Province Province as of April 6th, more and more people who cooperate with epidemic prevention or compassionate employees in enterprises have joined the ranks of 3.9 billion people living at home in more than 90 countries around the world. According to the survey of Orient Online, compared with the past, 42% people spend more than one hour at home on weekdays and 54% on holidays, and the average time at home has increased by as much as four hours.

The whole family will stay under one roof for several weeks, even more than a month, for a long time, even all the time, maintaining their original duties and activities. This great change in a short period of time not only challenges education, study and work, but also challenges personal physical and mental balance, husband and wife getting along, and even family relations.

This makes people's pressure rise instantly. According to a poll conducted by the Kaiser Family Foundation in the United States, in the week at the end of March, 72% of people reported that COVID-19 had disrupted their lives; More than half of the people are worried that the family economy will be affected; 74% people are worried that the situation will be worse; More than 45% people think that COVID-19 has brought them trauma.

24-hour couples, parent-child relationship is about to collapse. "Working from home involves educating children and taking care of the family. No one is good at these things because no one will be prepared for these things." Colleen Curtis is the head of the Mom project, which helps mothers cooperate with enterprises and advocates family friendliness. She expresses everyone's feelings.

In addition, there is friction between husband and wife, and they must finish these things together for a long time. The Associated Press reported that under the pressure of raising children, working, managing the family and worrying about the epidemic at the same time, every little thing, from the division of housework, whether to buy online or go out, what to buy, how much to buy, and whether to hoard recklessly, will set off a big war. There is also an "isolated parenting" community on Facebook, where parents encourage each other and share resources.

Although on the verge of collapse, Catherine Lewis, a therapist at the Ackerman Family Institute in new york, said that this was just the beginning.

Parents care about epidemic prevention at home and their children's study, but they should take care of themselves and each other.

The "3C" principle in extraordinary times makes life go on normally. In this extraordinary period, the most important thing is to live as normal as possible. Curtis used three English words beginning with C to summarize the principles of this period: communication, cooperation and culture.

Communicate in everything. There are many things to communicate, including not only family members, but also colleagues, customers and bosses. The premise is that we must realize that this is an unprecedented period, but we need to cooperate with each other and keep flexible adjustment. Moreover, everyone will experience it and have to compromise with each other.

Many experts and personal experience suggest making a family calendar to communicate how to spend each day and how everyone cooperates with each other. The couple are 35-year-old and 36-year-old Otto family, with three children under 4 years old and a dog. Every morning, they confirm the shift time of husband and wife, taking care of children and doing housework. When there is an important phone call, they let the children watch flat-screen TV. With a timetable, plans often can't keep up with changes. In order to have an undisturbed corner, his wife, Lola, used to work in the children's game circle, making video calls in the open closet and answering emails on the washing machine. Although there are accidents every day, the days are progressing steadily every day. Lola told the Chicago Tribune that she lives on Wilson Philip's song "One more day" every day.

Family cooperation, division of housework. Division of housework and temporary changes are a big test for every family. Most couples will list the duration of their actions, and also think about what housework they have, such as cooking, washing clothes, cleaning, helping their children with their homework, shopping and so on. And how much time you need to avoid underestimating the amount of housework and causing disputes in haste.

Michael Horn, a proté gé of Clayton Christensen, a master of subversive innovation, also warned that children can also be good helpers. Because the whole family will spend the critical period together, everyone should share the extra housework burden in this transformation.

Divorced families also have different challenges. The American Association of Marriage Lawyers and the Family Reconciliation Court Association also advise divorced couples that during this period, their jobs and necessary activities that can be allowed in various places may change. * * * When raising or visiting children together, it may be necessary to adjust flexibly with the requirements of epidemic prevention and isolation, family order or pace of life, and be more tolerant of each other, and everything is based on maintaining health.

At work, parents can also discuss the flexibility of working hours with enterprises to make everyone more efficient. Curtis allowed his subordinates to spend a complete period of time in the morning and evening dealing with official business instead of a whole day's trip, which made them unable to concentrate.

Establish a harmonious culture. These things need to be adjusted, but it won't be long before everyone finds the new normal.

Family life should be as usual as possible. Hard-working parents should cheer up, make their lives regular and full of vitality, and set an example for their children. Since mid-March, similar reports and suggestions have been published in major media almost every day, reminding office workers to take care of their appearance a little even if they work at home, and not to be messy, untidy and wear pajamas just because they stay at home. Suggestions include regular work and rest, trying to stand up or sit still, not lying on the sofa or bed, combing your hair, changing into clean and tidy clothes (especially during video conference), and not eating junk food all the time because you are lax at home. Career counselors and psychologists also suggest some rituals to make you more efficient, such as exercising and stretching every day, having a fixed lunch time, concentrating on eating and intermission, or coffee time, but don't always look at your mobile phone or deal with business.

Rethink the priorities of life. Although epidemic prevention at home is to keep social distance, don't become alienated in communication with the crowd, because at this time, it is even more necessary to cheer each other up, find someone to talk to, express all kinds of worries, and remind each other to do things that they can control. Leirion Gaylor Baird, the mayor of Lincoln, Nebraska, has been under the pressure of epidemic prevention these days, but she insists on calling her mother and friends every day to care about each other and see if there is anything that can help each other. If it's not too late to go home, insist that the family sit at the table together, talk about each other's feelings and experiences that day, and solve difficulties together.

The Associated Press also shared many people's experiences to remind people to be more introspective and take this opportunity to rethink their priorities in life. You can't go out often or reduce working hours because of the economic downturn, but you can take this opportunity to cherish the time with your family or study more. "In short, it just slowed down," said Jeff Larson, a psychotherapist in San Diego. When you are anxious, you might as well pick up a book that has been dusty for a long time and watch a movie or TV that you have long wanted to watch. Most importantly, it is always a good thing to help us feel relaxed and simplify our lives during this time.

Louis reminded the couples who came to consult her to talk it over, and found ways to relieve anxiety and uncertainty through division of labor, placing hobbies, relaxing, and setting rest time in turn. No matter how sad the day is, husband and wife should not collapse at the same time. "If you are unlucky today, then I will be depressed tomorrow, and we don't want to break out at the same time! 」