Is breastfeeding really as long as possible?

Any mother who has a prenatal examination in the hospital will see the slogan of the hospital: promote breastfeeding!

Yes, everyone knows the benefits of breastfeeding, so I won't repeat them here.

However, some mothers fall into a misunderstanding that the longer they breastfeed their children, the better. They even have their own reasons, such as: the nutritional content of breast milk is incomparable with milk powder or other foods; Breastfeeding can strengthen the parent-child relationship between mother and child; Breastfeeding saves money and effort; Wait a minute.

The actual situation is that feeding time is too long or too short, which is not ideal for children.

Aside from the so-called nutritional status, here I just elaborate my views from the perspective of children's growth and psychology.

According to Freud, human biological instinct is the motive force of psychological activities, and he named it "Libido".

"Libido" drives people's sexual psychological development in infancy. From birth to the end of development, there are three stages of development: oral desire stage (about 0- 1 year), anal desire stage (about 1-3 years) and genital stage (about 3-6 years).

In the period of mouth desire, children's happiness mainly comes from mouth, lips, hands and so on. Their happiness comes from grinding their teeth after teething.

According to the psychological point of view, it is a necessary and sufficient condition for mental health in the future to spend each stage of the development of "sexual psychology" reasonably. If you are stimulated too much or too little at a certain stage of development, the development of "sexual psychology" will be frustrated, which will lead to the "immobilization" of the development of "sexual psychology" and will never cause personality abnormalities in the future.

From this point of view, it is not difficult to understand that children should not be stimulated too much or too little during the craving period, that is, the feeding time should not be too long or too short.

It has been pointed out that children who breastfeed for too long or too short may be abnormal in different degrees and ways when they grow up because of the "fixation" of "sexual psychology" development. For example, when girls grow up, they tend to gossip and gossip behind their backs. When boys grow up, they will become addicted to smoking or drinking.

Therefore, it is very important to choose a suitable weaning time. It is not recommended that some children should not drink breast milk at birth, or only drink it for three or four months (of course, some mothers are born without breast milk, which is beyond our control, and some should be overcome, such as going to work and traveling. , so that breast milk will not be broken), and it is not recommended that some children drink until they are four or five years old, or even six or seven or eight years old.

So when is the best age for a baby to wean? As has been analyzed above, 0- 1 year-old is the child's mouth desire period, so it is ideal to wean at around 1 year-old. Of course, there are also floating factors to consider. For example, 10 month weaning, which is nothing. For example, now some people say that I can feed it until it is two years old. Because every child does not necessarily follow a step, some children's craving period may take about two years to pass.

What I want to tell my mother is that as long as you find that the child has not explored the world with his mouth and has not picked up everything and stuffed it into his mouth, it means that the oral desire period has passed, and it is not recommended to continue breastfeeding to avoid being "fixed" by too much stimulation.