Ten simple rules for interpersonal communication

1. People must learn to pretend to be grandchildren, so that they can go further.

No matter who you are in front of, don’t expose your abilities and abilities easily.

No one can calmly accept that there is such a powerful enemy around them. If you insist on showing off, you will be greeted by endless work and unpredictable hostility.

2. It is very important to take care of your mouth.

Whether it is diet or daily life, the most important thing is to take care of your mouth. Eat less greasy, non-nutritious, and irritating junk food.

Say less hurtful, exaggerated, offending, and baseless nonsense.

3. Don’t take politeness seriously.

Someone says "I'll treat you to dinner another day". This is just a polite remark, don't take it seriously. If you really ask him to treat you to dinner on a certain day, then your friendship will be ruined.

The same kind of polite words include "Why don't you tell me when you encounter difficulties?" In fact, if you tell him you encounter difficulties, he will not help you.

4. Always retain the mystery of 30.

Whether you are in love or making friends, never expose all aspects of yourself to others. It is best to retain a sense of mystery of 30.

Doing this can make you more attractive, more interesting and fresh that makes others want to know you, and make others respect you.

5. You should be glad that you still have value.

Working overtime in a company is not a bad thing. This at least shows that you have good abilities and can provide value to the company for a long time.

If you are idle at the company and this situation has lasted for more than a month, let me tell you bad news: you may be fired soon.

6. Learn to speak softly and do hard things.

When you have conflicts with others, don’t use harsh words, because people’s mouth is the easiest place to attract hatred.

Leave some room for speech, and it will be good for everyone in the future; however, when safeguarding your own interests, you must be tougher, otherwise no one will dare to step on you.

7. Don’t label others at will, but learn to label yourself.

People don’t know him any better than each other, and making the wrong comment just offends people.

On some occasions, taking the initiative to introduce yourself and your "label" will help others understand you better, and it is also an invitation to make friends with people who have the same interests and personality.

"Programmer who loves tennis" is easier to remember than "programmer with no personality".

8. Precious friendship never requires deliberate management.

A real good friend is someone who walks together and sometimes plays together. He won't feel embarrassed when he speaks again.

However, those intentional relationships require you to keep looking for topics, attracting his attention, entertaining and dressing up, and all you end up getting are polite greetings and supportive smiles.

When neither party feels pressure to choose the other, it is a friendship worth cherishing. It has no status tendencies, no one-sided flattery, just simple and pure happiness.

9. Don’t lend money to others, and don’t lend money to others easily.

Relationships between adults are damaged by borrowing money, and even more damaged by asking people for money. If we have to borrow money, we will see how fragile many relationships are in the face of money and interests.

So, unless you have to, don’t put friendship on the dissecting table of money.

10. When you are dissatisfied, speak up in time. Don't let problems and emotions linger overnight.

Most of the time, conflicts between two people come from one person's careless mistakes. Sometimes, the best option is to express your opinions and feelings first.

Solving problems in a timely manner is the best way for two people to maintain effective communication for a long time. The cold war between lovers is terrible. After days and nights of fermentation, many small conflicts will turn into big troubles.