My father is too strict with me. Is this the so-called fatherly love?

I remember when I was a child, my father was very strict with me, both in life and study. At that time, I was still young and didn't understand my father's strictness. I am also very resistant in my heart. Seriously, since I was conscious, I seem to have been against my father. Because of his severity, I always want to escape from his clutches; Because of his conservatism, we are always reluctant to confide in him; Because of his disapproval, I feel deeply frustrated, so we have to resist him and fight with him. However, with the passage of time, I didn't know that my father was strict with us for our own good until I grew up and stepped into the society. I think your father is strict with you out of love for you. Try to understand and consider it from his point of view, and you will understand that this is the so-called fatherly love.

Speaking of fatherly love, I also want to talk about my father, who is a typical "China father". I still remember when I was in the second grade, I studied calligraphy. Because of inexperience, the hand holding the pen has been shaking, so that the written calligraphy is crooked. My father stood by, his serious eyes rested on the rice paper, and he said slowly, "What are you painting peach symbols for?" At that moment, there was something in my heart, which seemed to be peeled off and hurt. I did hate him a little at that time.

Now every time I happen to pass by his bedroom, I will look at him hunched over in his chair and writing something. I didn't knock. I walked in quietly, stood not far from him, and looked at him as he looked at my writing. I saw that his hair was no longer thick black, but mixed with many white hairs. His grip on the pen is no longer strong, but a little loose. But his handwriting is still so natural and unrestrained, but the end of each word is not as vigorous as before. I suddenly found that he was old. I choked back and joked, "Dad, your handwriting is not as good as before!" " "He slowly put down his pen, turned his head and looked at me with a slight smile." How is that possible? Otherwise, you can write, and I'll see how much you've grown! "I took the pen soaked by his sweat from his hand, and the warm touch made me suddenly want to cry.

When did my father and I become distant and indifferent, separated by a thick barrier? Since when do you quarrel constantly and always disagree? I probably don't remember. All I know is that in this father-son war, no one won.

Then why, why are we struggling in this fruitless war? But it ignores the most important thing, father-son affection. Maybe I just want to get an affirmation from my father, maybe I just want to surpass my father and make him stop looking down on himself, or maybe I just want my father to be frank and say whatever he wants to say to himself. It's that simple, that's all. But we both complicated such a simple matter and caused such a big fight.

Many people grew up in this struggle with their parents.

Once, there was a sincere feeling in front of me, and I didn't cherish it. I regret it when I lose it. The most painful thing in the world is this.

Why can't we realize all this earlier? As long as you understand it earlier, you will have less regret and less pain. Why do men always fall into the quagmire of memories?

"Time passes slowly, and I won't let you get old again. I am willing to exchange my life for your long stay. Am I your pride? Still worried about me? The child you care about has grown up! " Dear father, maybe I can feel your affection. Then, let's have less wars and leave more warm memories, shall we?

So in general, no matter what, your father is also good for you. There is a certain difference between fatherly love and maternal love. Motherly love is gentle and makes people feel warm. Father's love is often reflected in his strictness to you, so his strictness to you is actually a sign of loving you. Cherish it. At the same time, I hope my story can give you some inspiration.