Parental bias is "robbing the rich to help the poor"

0 1 is not biased, which is easier said than done.

In the 87th TV series A Dream of Red Mansions, there is such a passage:

On the Mid-Autumn Festival night, Shi Taijun often said to everyone: "It doesn't matter if I am partial, I object. Do you remember the story told by the master? " Xiangyun, Tanchun and other maids quickly begged the old lady to say something.

The old lady smiled and said, "A son is the most filial in the family. His mother was ill and could not seek medical treatment everywhere, so she invited an acupuncture woman." The old woman didn't know the pulse, saying it was a heart fire. Now that there is acupuncture, acupuncture will be fine. "

"The son panicked and asked,' See the iron and die. "How can you get it?" "

"The woman said,' You don't need a needle core, just a rib.' "

"The son said,' The ribs are far apart. What can I do?' "

"The woman said,' Why not? You don't know, the wind of inheritance is biased, and there are still many.' "

Hearing this, everyone laughed, and the old lady smiled and said, "I just need this woman to give me an injection."

A bowl of water is flat, which is easier said than done. As long as you are not an only child, you have more or less felt the partiality of your parents.

Sometimes it is a fight between two people when they were children, which is an unfair judgment. Sometimes it is son preference, and the treatment and upbringing are different.

Sometimes it is parents' exhortation, love and concern for different sizes. Sometimes, it is the quality of study that leads to preference and neglect.

Sometimes, when you grow up and work, your parents always hope that you can help your dependent sister-in-law and bear a burden that you don't have to increase for him/her with weak ability.

Sometimes your parents are sick, and your hard work and personal efforts are not as good as a distant phone call or an occasional home visit.

Doing more is not necessarily the best.

My uncle gave birth to two sons and two daughters. This time, he was admitted to the hospital for surgery, married to his eldest daughter and took turns to look after his three sons at home.

The boss has been taking care of the children at home and has plenty of time. After sending the children to school, he came to the hospital to wait on his uncle to eat and drink Lazar.

The third child goes to work during the day, picks up his sister's class at night, and keeps vigil in the hospital, which is also dedicated.

The second daughter and the youngest son, one married to another province, the other worked in a bank in a nearby city, and almost never appeared in the hospital.

The day after the operation, I came back to see the old man with a bunch of nutrition.

My uncle who had just been anesthetized saw it and shouted, "Dad, Dad, how are you?" The two of them said happily, "I'm fine. What are you doing back here? And your brothers and sisters, they are fine. "

"It is very important for you to go to work. Don't delay your work. " I sent them back soon.

After leaving the hospital, my uncle told everyone that the two little dutiful sons came back to see him on special leave and bought a lot of nutrients and so on.

I haven't said a good word to the other two who have been around, which makes my aunt and uncle feel a little bitter and unspeakable.

I heard from my old sisters in the department before, but I don't believe it. Now I am deeply convinced.

"After working in the hospital for so many years, everyone can see that the children who are sick and cared for are usually not the most favored people in the family, but the most favored people. After a long time, the old man is very happy."

In addition to eccentricity, time cost and value cost are also indicators for many people to calculate and consider emotions.

Parents' consideration for their children is no exception.

My friend ODA got pregnant five months before her brother's wife.

There is no old man here who can help her mother-in-law. The young couple with two employees are eagerly counting on Oda's parents to take care of them.

But what made her sad and anxious was that her parents came to help her for more than four months and waited for her brother's daughter-in-law all her life without saying a word. She was forced to leave her grandson who had been less than five months to take care of her grandson.

"A married daughter always pours less water than her son," she told me indignantly.

You can imagine how resentful you were to your parents' partiality in those difficult days.

But recently, there was a little thing that made her forgive her parents and understand the family line.

During the Mid-Autumn Festival this year, she took her children to her younger brother's house for the holidays. Her married daughter always gives some gifts to her parents, but her parents refuse to accept the money she wants.

The family went out to eat, and watching her mother's heroic order also refreshed her previous cognition.

I used to go out to eat and order when I was helping her with the children. My mother always said, "Just eat enough, don't order so much, don't eat too much, and eat less."

This time, my brother paid the bill, but my mother said, "Call more people, eat more, and call something delicious for your sister."

When she got home, her mother called again and said, "There is 3000 yuan in your red coat bag. Don't wash it off. "

You say, parents' heart, which side is she on?

Before she bought a house, got married and had children, her brother had nothing, and her parents felt that she should take care of her brother.

Now my brother's business is getting better and better, and his life is hectic because he asks someone to take care of his children. Parents feel that their daughter is the one who needs more care.

In fact, parents' partiality, more often, is biased towards the "weak."

They are like chivalrous men who shout when they see injustice on the road. They are full of blood and "rob the rich to help the poor."

They swing between their children, more often as dispatchers, hoping to help the relatively poor one in their minds and lend a helping hand to the "weak" side through their own mediation.

Plain is true.

Some time ago, Ms. Xue in My First Half Life was a typical representative of "robbing the rich to help the poor".

She was a typical Shanghai old lady when she first debuted. When I was shopping, I brought my own knife and cut off the roots of broccoli. Sweep the toilet paper in the office building when you go to the toilet. Seeing a famous car and mansion is like grandma Liu entering the Grand View Garden, and even her daughter wants to block her mother's mouth.

Seeing her eldest daughter's designer bag and scarf, she put it on herself without saying a word and took it away.

I thought I left because I loved beauty, but I found out that I wanted to go back and give it to my poor two daughters and sons. And lied that my sister wanted to give it to her.

For his second son-in-law, who only knows how to eat soft food, he hates iron and does not produce steel, but after he drank too much, he secretly gave Zijun a card and asked her to give it to the sub-group.

Knowing that the eldest daughter was going to divorce in the old way, she went to the company to make a scene and persuaded her son-in-law to eat well, hoping that he would change his mind.

Even watching hundreds of millions of viewers cry, I left all the money I saved to my daughter and made a final effort for their beautiful life.

Actually, so are our parents.

It's just that they don't have a dramatic life, just ordinary people.

Their love is sometimes very narrow, and many times they are ignorant and have quirks that make people laugh and cry and get angry.

But just, they are using their own efforts to maintain this family and try to run their own eccentric "love".

In fact, the old saying "if you are poor, you will think about change" is absolutely correct.