What kind of girl is a good wife?

First, a woman's mentality is very important. When you marry a woman, you should tell yourself that she also has a mother. Whether it is hearsay or hearsay, don't treat your mother-in-law as a scourge. Always be vigilant and be careful every day. Just because someone else's family situation doesn't mean you want the same model. Think of her as an elder, just like all the elders around you. You can be polite to an outsider, not to mention that she is your husband's mother and your future son's grandmother. You have a lot to worry about in the future, a close relative who works hard for you. If there is a problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, remind yourself that she is an old man. What can't humble an old man? So it's important to respect your mother-in-law. Second, use strength to prove that all mother-in-law have such selfishness, and hope that the daughter-in-law is diligent and does not need her son to serve. Daughter-in-law has no temper and wants to listen to her son. Parents, mostly like this. How many years later, we may also be this version. My mother often mentioned that a woman should have something to be a wife. What my mother said was that she could sew and embroider at home at that time. Although the concept is different now, this thing still needs to be there. Nobody likes lazy people. So when you are ready to get married, you must pay for this family and manage it with your heart, just like managing your love. Never mind who does more and who does less. Proper housework is also beneficial and harmless to the body. Why not do it? Think about how clean and tidy you have made this home, and how emotional it is. No matter how unhappy you are, it will disappear. Not for others, for yourself, isn't it also a happy thing? Learn to buy food and cook. Although it is not necessarily so delicious, it must be extremely delicious if you make it with your heart. Let her mother-in-law teach you a few tricks of her private cuisine, keep her husband's stomach and hold his heart, which not only exercises her cooking skills, but also pleases her mother-in-law. Wouldn't it be better to let my husband be fat for nothing and kill three birds with one stone? So don't be afraid to give. Prove with strength that she is not a daughter-in-law who will only coquetry and sleep late. My mother-in-law may seldom praise you, but she will praise you when she sees this in her heart. She will change, too. Third, do your best in everything and do what you are best at. As long as you try your best, why care about others? Sharing a room is inevitable, but we must treat things and people differently, and we can't get entangled because of a little thing. You should know how to let go, and when things are over, you will never mention them again. Relax your mind. Although you are wronged and helpless, as long as it is not a matter of principle, just laugh it off. Don't haggle over every ounce, don't calculate. This is extremely stupid. If you think about how bad others are all day and always think about yourself from the other side's point of view, this behavior is undoubtedly unfavorable to yourself and does no harm to others. If this continues, the mentality will become abnormal. Therefore, you have done what you can, and it is enough for you to have a clear conscience. You should never guess what others think. Honest questioning is always more effective than doubt. Fourth, don't complain. Without exception, many daughters-in-law have complained to their husbands, just to let them judge and talk about their mother's mistakes. However, how can you tell him the answer you want? One is the closest and the other is the favorite. What do you want him to choose? So don't ask him if you are right or his mother is wrong. It's ten times better to complain to him calmly and let him hug you than to complain. Because a good man knows how to put out the fire, and he knows the importance of silence and tolerance in the cracks. How to balance two women who are very important to him is an important course for men to learn, and it is precisely because of this that they are mature, rational and understand the importance of family and their responsibilities. Therefore, women should also learn proper forbearance, learn to digest by themselves, learn to handle by themselves, and be able to handle family conflicts calmly and rationally. Although it will be difficult at first, you must learn. Fifth, trying to communicate this has always been something I want to do. Whether on the sofa at home or on the street where I buy food in the afternoon, I always think of two people sitting together, talking about my husband's naughty things as a child, talking about some trivial things in life and listening to her mother-in-law telling stories. Feeling is a very enjoyable thing. It can be completely like forgetting the turn of the year, and I am free, or talking about the dishes to be cooked at night and the layout of my home. Really, I don't think it should be a difficult thing, but few of us can do it. . So, try to get close to your mother-in-law, tell her what's on your mind, treat her as your closest relative, and like your mother, she will repay your mother's love. Sixth, stay away from money. Many disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are caused by money. Some daughters-in-law are eager to take up all their mother-in-law's money, as if they are in debt to their daughters-in-law, never ending, giving, not giving, giving less, and endless. I have seen this situation many times and I am disgusted. The reason why I finally stayed away from money is because I am the person who despises money the most. Although it is very important, it can't replace family ties. It's really sad if the family is together because of money, not because of money. Mother-in-law has no responsibility or obligation to be responsible for you. On the contrary, as a daughter-in-law, what kind of responsibility should we bear? That's all that matters. There is a skeleton in the cupboard. I'm just talking about my own feelings. Having said that, what should I do to be a good wife? In fact, I am ashamed that I may not have done my best. I'm also surprised that I can put a lot of the previous ones aside and write them down calmly. Being a daughter-in-law for many years, that kind of taste may only be understood by us as daughters-in-law, and no one can understand it. It's just that there is really no need to see a lot of people having heated discussions because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A woman must learn to love herself, learn to be tolerant, be willing to give up and be grateful, so that she can be clear-headed and not be troubled by trivial matters. Treating the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is just like treating friends and husband and wife. The management and care may not be satisfactory, but as long as we try our best and work hard, we can smile at ourselves, even if it is only a compensation.