My boyfriend scolded me for spending the night at my uncle's house.

My boyfriend and I have been married for two years. We only had a wedding and didn't get a marriage certificate. I fought a big war for two years and quarreled constantly. What I can't stand most is that his mind is too small, which really makes me breathless. I once chatted with my male classmates on WeChat. I just added my classmates. They said, "Who are you?"? I said, "I'm Lily". The classmate said, "Lily? Give me back my apple! " Actually, he knows who I am. My name is not Lili. We're just kidding. When my boyfriend saw these simple words, he called my classmate names. He was jealous of my father. For example, I wash my father's clothes. If the boyfriend doesn't wash it for him, he will say, "If your father washed these clothes, they told you not to wash them, so you must wash them." My home is a fully automatic washing machine. Washing clothes is just pressing a few keys. Whoever presses it is different. My uncle's mother had a birthday the other day. She is my old wet nurse. After dinner at the old nurse's house, I took my uncle's car back to our city. Aunt was not at home that day, and she went to attend the wedding in other places. She can't come back that day. My uncle said to me, "Don't go home, stay at my house." Your aunt is not at home, and I'm afraid of being at home myself. "Then I went to his house for a night. Boyfriend works in other places and doesn't live at home. When he called me in the morning, I told him that I didn't live at home. Who knows, he was unhappy when he heard it, swearing! He also said, "What are you doing in his house? Your aunt is not at home. You live in his house. "The relationship between the two of you is quite unusual? As the saying goes, what's the difference between an uncle and a father? I really don't know what he thinks. Is he sick? Please help me. What should I do? I'm not good at telling others and making people laugh.

First of all, I need to remind the confidante in the case that although you had a wedding with your boyfriend, you can't be considered a husband and wife in a strict sense without a marriage certificate. I don't know why you didn't get the license. Is it because of the age or local customs? As far as I know, this situation is more common in rural areas. You live together without a license. Although you are husband and wife, in fact such a marriage is not protected by law. You must know this.

Secondly, talk about your emotional confusion. Say your boyfriend is too petty, jealous and likes to care about the little things you think. For men's narrow-mindedness, I think there are two situations: one is that men are narrow-minded and care about women's performance. Because he cares about his wife very much, he always keeps her in his heart, so he pays more attention to the other half's every move and is more sensitive; Conversely, a man's narrow-mindedness is really narrow-minded. This man's narrow-minded character determines that he doesn't trust his woman enough. Essentially, I am not confident in myself, so I am prone to insecurity. Only in this way can I show my narrow-mindedness and doubt about my wife.

Therefore, judging from the situation of the confidant in the case, the boyfriend is indeed a bit too narrow-minded, and his personal cultivation is also problematic. When he didn't like his girlfriend's behavior, he swore at her instead of solving the problem through normal communication. This is very troublesome, and it is easy to accumulate emotional contradictions and cause emotional breakdown.

Of course, the problem is by no means one-sided, and the confidante should reflect on his behavior. When you clearly know that your boyfriend is sensitive and suspicious, you should pay more attention to his daily behavior and try not to do behaviors that are easily misunderstood by your boyfriend. Try to avoid these situations and see what else your boyfriend can find wrong. Besides, you should pay more attention to him. The reason why he is in this critical situation may be that he doesn't feel more concerned about you.

Many times, when two people are together, it is to improve their feelings by perfecting some details. Don't ignore the importance of details. Your seemingly insignificant behavior may be a misunderstanding and injury to the other half. Of course, the feelings of two people need to be cultivated, run-in, understood and tolerated, but they also need the unity of personality. If two people's personality habits are too different and they often quarrel and make conflicts, it is necessary to re-examine your feelings. Are you suitable for living together? Can you only stumble through life?

It's a good thing you don't have a license now. If it's hard to accept each other, it's easy to separate. Of course, life is also easy, that is, to control your temper and learn to compromise with each other.