As the saying goes, "there are three things in the family, and the family is ruined." What do these three items mean? Does this make sense?

If there are these three items at home, then the home is definitely not good. I don't know which three items you think it will be. Let me tell you which three will lead to the destruction of the family. See if it makes sense.

The first item is gambling.

This kind of gambling includes both traditional playing cards and mahjong, as well as modern gambling methods, which will be discussed later. However, no matter what kind of gambling, it is fatal. If you don't have enough to eat and clothes to keep warm, gambling may make you lose everything, or even lose everything. I have a friend whose family used to have good conditions. Because they have a little business at home, they are much richer than the average family. After getting rich, they also bought big houses and luxury cars. A family of four, one son and one daughter, is really happy. It was really enviable, but great changes have taken place since then. The couple borrowed money everywhere. I heard that the woman wanted to divorce the man because the male friend fell in love with a "game", which was actually a game. Just because its form is different from traditional gambling, more accurately, it should be keen on gambling, losing a lot of money, losing all the original money, and borrowing money everywhere to pay off debts, which led to divorce. This kind of gambling is really harmful.

The second is drug abuse.

Speaking of drug abuse, it seems far away from our lives. Usually everyone smokes. Who does drugs? This is really careless. In fact, some people around us may take drugs without knowing it, especially young people who don't understand the world, and it is easy to go downhill. It costs a lot of money to get drugs, and it is also harmful to your health. If you look back at how "opium" entered our country, you will know how harmful it is to your health and it is quite expensive. If you are infected, you will definitely lose your family instead of running away.

The third item is cheating.

Whether it is an affair or a man's cheating, it is a heavy blow to the family. This kind of crack has appeared in family of origin with Mei Mei, which will not only bring disharmony to the family, but also cast a shadow over the growth of children. Some people can't take it easy, and they will do extreme things. The end result is a broken family and a separated wife.

People will always take some detours in their life, but it is correct to grasp the general direction, so as to have a relatively beautiful, stable and smooth life.

Three short stories show you the rural proverb: there are three things in the family, and the family is ruined. "Let everyone feel what these three items are and whether they are meaningful. We must put an end to these three items in our later life.

Yang Si is a notorious glutton in the village, and his crops are growing well. He has to find a way to secretly move his crops to his home for at least half a year. Whoever puts the sheep in the mountain at home will steal it for him when he sees the opportunity. Yang Si is not only greedy, but also vicious enough to bully honest people in the village. In the words of the old people in the village, that is the Lord with sores on his head and pus on his feet. It's terrible!

Bad people will naturally get bad news. It's not that they don't report it, but that it's not time. That year, a beekeeper came to the village. Yang Si took his 13-year-old son to see a beekeeper cutting honey. As the saying goes, when Yang Si was chatting with the beekeeper, Yang Si's 43-year-old son sneaked out a bucket of honey. The child was also evil. A bucket of 50 kilograms of honey was moved to the grass forty or fifty meters away.

The beekeeper is a businessman. He always cares about his own business. He soon found that a bucket of honey was missing, so he hurried to look for it. When he saw Yang Si's son hiding in the grass guarding a bucket of honey, he just taught the child a lesson and wanted to go back with honey. Who knows that Yang Si's son is as virtuous as his father, and he won't stop when he gets it, crying and shouting that the beekeeper beat him.

Yang Si robbed honey for the reason given by his son, saying that it was compensation after hitting people. The beekeeper was angry because three people were arguing. The fire was an impulse. He drew a knife from his belt and simply fought with Yang Si. In the fight, Yang Si's son fought with him, but one of them was accidentally stabbed in the chest with a knife. At that time, the face turned white, and someone called the emergency number and the child died.

I once heard old people say that you can't get rich by stealing. After his son left, Yang Si made a living by petty theft, but life became more and more complicated. Finally, his daughter-in-law divorced and went back to her mother's house, leaving the sad place, and finally the Yang family was destroyed.

Sister Liu is clean and beautiful, and her husband is an honest man in the village. Sister Liu is not only beautiful, but also an expert in life. She has the ability to work, and she will say that it is not good at all. She is too competitive.

That year, when my daughter was in junior high school, Liu Jie nagged every day: My best friend's child was admitted to a key high school, so you have to win face for your mother. We also entered a key high school. My daughter was nagged by her mother and couldn't sleep well. She listens to her mother every day and gets upset every day. Finally, one day, Liu Jie was called to school by the school teacher and told that the child was in a bad mood and seemed a little nervous. So I quickly went to the hospital for examination, and the child got depression.

Liu Jie has been living in comparison all her life. When others buy refrigerators, she also tries to buy them. What others have, her family has to have it, even if she doesn't eat or drink. If she can't compete with others, she will be particularly angry. She lives in comparison every day. She is very angry, so she is in a bad mood. So at the age of 46, she got stomach cancer, her daughter was depressed, and stomach cancer. All the money in the family was used to treat the disease. Later, she died in her early fifties and her daughter became mentally ill. It is no exaggeration to say that her family is ruined.

There is such a person in Gaojiazhuangzi. Who wants his help is more difficult than going to heaven. The villagers called him a traitor. At that time, there was a slightly stupid person in the village who couldn't push the cart when going uphill. This man is in front of him. How can a slightly stupid person ask him to help pull the cart? He refused to help and was spurned by the villagers.

Later, one night, he came home from work by bike. It was just dark. When the man rode to a cornfield two miles away from the village, he heard a girl crying for help in the cornfield. He didn't even get off his bike and went straight home.

When I got home, I sat there watching TV. The wife who is cooking in the kitchen is cooking and looking at the dark sky. She asked the man, didn't you see my wife on the road? She went to her classmate's house this afternoon and should be back by now. As soon as the man heard the girl's cry for help, his face turned white and he quickly rode to the cornfield.

However, when he got to the cornfield, only the girl was lying in the field and the criminal had run away. That girl is his precious daughter who grew up in the palm of his hand, making him regret having broken his intestines. Later, his wife and daughter denied him because of this incident. His wife divorced her and left with her daughter who was physically and mentally injured.

Three short stories tell us that it is not a family's eating, drinking, whoring and gambling that can ruin this family. Excessive greed, excessive comparison and excessive selfishness are also the main reasons for the family's ruin. It is normal for a family to have these three things!

The first is gambling. It certainly makes sense. If there is a person who is addicted to reading blogs at home, how rich his family will be. There are many cases seen on TV. There are also many cases around me. For example, my relatives lost more than 100 thousand in doctoral studies and escaped (more than ten years ago); My college classmates lost all their tuition fees on the train. ...

Second, the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious. That makes sense. The emotional disharmony between parents first affects the healthy growth of children, and secondly, the ancients said that "a big family business" and "harmony is precious" are all reasonable. You can recall the cases around you.

The third is lax family education. One child can really drag down the whole family. Good education is like "Meng Mu's Three Movements". Poor education leads children to spend too much money, which leads to loans jumping off buildings everywhere. Parents ignore the concern that their children are bullied on campus.

There should be four projects:

First, the family style is not correct

It is often said that parents are the best teachers for children, and their words and deeds will affect the healthy development of children. As the inheritor of the family, children play a connecting role in the prosperity of the family. However, some parents neglect the discipline of their children, which makes them become arrogant and often do something out of line. Instead of correcting mistakes, parents protect them again and again. This is not loving children, it is hurting children. Some parents even do some arbitrary and unreasonable things in front of their children, which affects them invisibly. Sometimes children learn from their parents. If children grow up in such an environment, it is estimated that they will not achieve anything when they grow up, and may even go astray. It is not Jinshan Yinshan that is left to the children. No matter how much wealth there is, it will be spent one day. We hope they will inherit a good family style. This is a family heirloom.

Second, get into bad habits.

There are many bad habits, but gambling is the most harmful one. Gambling is not only illegal, but also ruined his family. How many happy families, because of gambling, eventually become bankrupt. People often think that they can get rich overnight at gambling tables because of curiosity and greed. This kind of money is easy to come by, and finally they are addicted to it, unable to extricate themselves and suffer greatly. Instead of getting rich, he became penniless, lost all his family's money and was heavily in debt. Gambling is a bottomless pit, that is, if you don't come back for a day, once again warn those friends who are addicted to gambling to give up early and return to the prodigal son, otherwise it will be too late to regret.

Living at home, what people expect most is home and everything. If a family is often not harmonious, it will eventually hurt more than one family. The causes of disharmony in some families are mainly caused by some external and internal factors. Today, let's talk about this rural proverb, "There are three things in the family, and the family is ruined." What do these three things mean? Are they reasonable?

The bad habit of gambling is the first thing that drags down the family.

A gentleman makes money in a proper way. There is nothing wrong with people liking gold and silver treasures, as long as they get some money through proper means. But some people always want to get something for nothing, and want to get more money in a short time through some partial ways. So gambling has become a way for many people to make quick money, but as the saying goes, "Ten bets and nine losses", there are only gamblers who often lose.

Some people are addicted to gambling all day, from childhood to big gambling, and finally to old age. However, things did not develop in the way that some gamblers imagined. Instead, many gamblers lost money again and again, and finally lost their savings and houses for many years. Sadly, it has made a beautiful family, and the chicken flies and the dog jumps, and the wife is separated. So, there are three things at home. The first is gambling.

Cheating is the second cause of family separation.

What the ancestors said is very reasonable. "Only when the family is harmonious can everything prosper." If two people in a family are of one mind and one mind, you can overcome the immediate difficulties and have a colorful life in the future. But from ancient times to the present, there are always some people who "can't stand loneliness and temptation", resulting in "affair" and serious family separation. There were Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing in ancient times, but now there are managers and brokers, and such things have never stopped.

In this regard, the author believes that it is fate that two people get to know each other, and it takes thousands of years for two people to form a family. "Cross a hundred years' boat and sleep for a thousand years." In a family, only two people can understand each other, stand the temptation of the outside world, respect each other and tolerate each other, can they live a richer life. Whenever one of them leads a restless life, a "sugar-coated cannonball" is captured by the outside world and eventually leads to derailment. But according to many examples, people whose families are separated because of someone's infidelity have a hard time in the end.

Laziness is the third cause of family division.

A family's life is inseparable from money, which is the foundation of life. But now some young people often divorce, and the most important reason for young people's divorce is "being lazy." Compared with the post-80 s, post-90 s and post-70 s, post-80 s is far from hard work. Especially for some post-90s generation, people who disagree are always absent from work, and if they disagree, they leave.

Although some young people have left their jobs, for newly married young people, food, clothing, housing and transportation all cost money. However, due to the laziness of young people, in the real society, a good family is separated by laziness.

The rural saying: "There are three things in the family, and the loser will die" is also very reasonable. And these three things are beyond the reach of rural people and urban people. Only by restraining yourself and not being tempted by the outside world can we manage this home harmoniously. If one person in a family has one of the above three reasons, it is doomed to be disharmonious in the future. I also want to persuade some people who get something for nothing that nothing can be achieved casually.

As the saying goes, "there are three things in the family, and the family is ruined." What do these three items mean? Does this make sense?

I am deeply touched by your question and think this proverb is very reasonable.

I heard this proverb from my grandparents when I was a child. At that time, I was too young to understand. Now that I have grown up and a family, I feel that the three proverbs are like stealth bombs for a family.

Any one is a fatal fuse, which will really lead to the consequences of family destruction.

The first item:

Is tutoring. Parents' education of their children must not be ignored and let go; There must be no unprincipled indulgence.

Dzerzhinsky said, "Parents love and pamper their children and satisfy their willful demands. When I grow up, I will degenerate and become a weak-willed and selfish person. Therefore, parents' love should not be blind ... "

A family that fails in education is the sorrow of children, parents and families!

I know a couple who like their children very much. Leading children to develop a bad habit, lazy, lazy, and doing nothing in adulthood. Borrowing money and spending money everywhere in the name of parents, all kinds of bad habits.

It has brought great harm to the thoughts and spirits of elderly parents, and the family is heavily in debt. At this time, it is too late for parents to regret!

There are also all kinds of bad family situations of educational failure: brothers and sisters are not close and amiable, family members have disputes, fights have serious consequences and so on.

Such a family is like a battlefield filled with smoke. Without affection and warmth, where is home? Such a family exists in name only!

The second item

Just a bad hobby.

This proverb is about gambling. Warn future generations not to have gambling hobbies. Because once gambling is addictive, you will lose everything at home. Is a home surrounded by walls still a home?

When I was a child, there was a neighbor in the village who loved gambling. His family was not rich, and he lost all his money. His wife quarreled with him and went back to her parents' house.

He still doesn't want to repent. If you don't quit gambling addiction and continue gambling, what if you have no money? He went to the nearby forest farm to cut down trees and sell them for money. Later, he was caught by the police and sentenced to prison. The family is ruined!

The third item

Is the harmony between husband and wife. Husband and wife must treat each other with mutual respect and love. If there is a contradiction between husband and wife and they abuse each other, they will accumulate hatred over time. You can't live like this. Can you stay at home?

I watched the news the other day: a couple quarreled while driving on the highway. It should be a heated argument. The husband kicked his wife out of the car and drove away by himself. My wife was walking alone on the highway, but she was found by the police and saved her life.

What a terrible moment! Many tragedies can happen! A crumbling home is insecure!

This proverb has been passed down from generation to generation, a proverb about the rise and fall of the family!

"Home and everything are prosperous". Family harmony can flourish!

The first thing is that wild flowers enter the home. In the past, people used to call their married daughters wild flowers, so the wild flowers that entered the house represented the son-in-law and her daughter to go home and share the same room. The ancients thought that such a thing was unlucky and would bring disaster to the family, so there was also a saying that "the son-in-law went to bed and the family was ruined." Later, it gradually evolved into the saying that there are no wild flowers at home. The wild flowers here represent the women outside. No matter ancient or modern, people admire home and everything. A harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the basis of ensuring family stability, so if you bring a woman to your home from the outside, it really proves that the family is broken.

The second thing is to add a wall to the wall. This statement refers to the old house that has been used for many years in the process of building. If we only build on the original basis from the economic point of view, the foundation of the old house is likely to be unstable and collapse. How high the house is, how thick the foundation will be. This kind of covered house has great potential danger. In case of heavy wind and rain, it is easy to collapse, which will bring bad influence to the family.

There is also a saying that fruit trees go to the house, which means that the fruit trees planted in the yard can't be higher than the house. If the fruit trees are too high, it is easy to block sunlight from entering the room, resulting in insufficient indoor light and affecting the mood of the residents. Moreover, the roots of trees that are too high underground are also complicated, which easily affects the foundation of the house, so there is a risk of family destruction.

In China, "home" means a lot to us. As the saying goes, everything goes well at home. We all want to have a harmonious family, but the sentence "there are three things in the family, and the family is ruined" is so serious. What do these "three things" mean?

Item 1: Gambling

Everyone knows that "small gambling is good for your feelings, big gambling is harmful to your health", which has been confirmed by countless people since ancient times. However, gambling has been repeatedly banned. Gambling is always ten to nine. How many people gamble, sell their children and girls, lose everything and break up their families. Contaminated with "pornography", how can this family be together?

Item 2: marital disharmony

Husband and wife are two core figures in a family, bearing the responsibility of supporting the elderly and raising children. If the relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, parents are worried and their health is difficult. Children will also be worried because of their parents' endless quarrels, and they will often lack self-confidence when they grow up. This kind of family can't live in harmony anyway, and it can only end in tragedy.

Item 3: Lack of tutors.

Family education is of great significance to children's growth. If you want your children to become talents, you must let them receive a good education. Parents' words and deeds are the deepest and longest education for their children. The quality of family education is very important to the cultivation of children's character. Without a good tutor, children will easily go astray when they grow up.

Of course, there is also a saying that these "three items" refer to "pornography and gambling".

Either way, the saying that "there are three things in the family, and if it is broken, the family will die" has some truth. The wisdom of the ancients should never be underestimated!

There are three kinds of homes, and the family is ruined. What are the three items of family?

First, it is easy to gamble, small gambling leads to mistakes, big gambling leads to family and country mistakes, and even leads to the tragic situation of family destruction and death.

Second: lazy, a family of old and young men and women have nothing to do, running around and not having a proper job and career. Not singing, but playing cards. If you don't do business all day, you will go to the game room of the ballroom to find excitement and enjoy the beauty of life paradise. In this way, you will soon lose your home in a big family.

Thirdly, family quarrels and fights are also a precursor to family failure, which is the cause of family and everything. As the saying goes, pigs quarrel and sell, and people quarrel and lose. A noisy family has the heart to work and earn money to support their families. In addition, noisy is not good for children's growth. Without a harmonious and warm family, children will not grow into useful and intelligent talents.

In short, these three items will not have good results in every family, which is not conducive to the harmonious development of families. It is not difficult to get rid of these three items. What is difficult is those who insist on walking in the mountains knowing that there are tigers in the mountains. This is hopeless.

I have the honor to brush this topic today. Let me answer it. In fact, when I was a child, I often heard my father talk about this topic, but not three, but five, namely, whoring, bandits, theft, gambling and teaching.

Prostitutes and robbers bet on religion,

I suggest you remember,

If there is a crime,

Disaster is inevitable.

Prostitute: refers to a man whoring. In the past, there were brothels in society, which were places where some romantic men had fun, also called kilns. If a man is involved in prostitution, it is hopeless. If his family is rich, he will also be defeated in prostitution. Once a man enters a brothel, he will be addicted to drugs, so everyone knows what the consequences of drugs are.

Bandit: I used to be a bandit in the mountains, killing people and robbing money. If I had a political purpose and background, I would call it so-and-so rebel or so-and-so army. With strict discipline, the government must not let go. One man is a bandit, and the whole family is destroyed. If one person in the family acts as a bandit, he will be hacked with all the doors.

Thief: A thief, not a petty thief. He is not allowed by society. In the past, if thieves were caught in society, they would not be sentenced to several years in prison as they are now, but they would be beheaded and copied by the whole family.

Gambling: It is gambling. As the saying goes, traitors gamble with their lives, and there is no winner for a long time. Many gamblers are jailed for losing everything.

Finally, talk about teaching: this teaching is the most important. As parents and elders, a family is very important for the growth of children. As parents or elders, they set an example. Every word and deed of parents and elders is an incentive for children's growth.

Some parents and elders don't pay attention to their words and deeds, style, manners, bad habits, bad comments and incorrect views in front of their children, which leads to the children not having a correct life goal when they grow up. Even to crime, or to a dead end in life.

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