Community gratitude sharing

Come and share in the morning: What wonderful help and promotion has gratitude brought you? Share at least three points (upper, middle and lower).

First, the subtle changes in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, realizing the reasons behind her mother-in-law's personality, eased her past emotions.

English: this sharing has only one word: give up! That is, let go of obsession.

As everyone knows, something must have appeared with the house in the past. But what I want to say is that I didn't think about taking part in gratitude practice this time …

Bottom: Face the reality clearly, be a better self, recognize the reality and recognize yourself. On this basis, constantly correct yourself.

1. Relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

The practice of gratitude diary began the day before her mother-in-law was admitted to hospital. This is my third time to participate (the first two were interrupted), and I have a lot of heart to write, read, feel, think and change …

I'm glad to be discharged tomorrow. At the same time, I also thought about it. It seems that my mother-in-law and I are closer this time. Why?

My mother-in-law is one of those impatient people. She has never been to school, can't read or express herself. She often complains, accuses and abuses her family, except me …

A few years ago, I also found that she was sometimes annoying, especially when she swore and nagged. She didn't say a good word. Although she has never talked about me, it makes me reluctant to go back, and there will inevitably be emotions in my heart …

Through these gratitude and awareness, I have more thoughts on some of her daily words and will think about why she is like this. Why is this?

For example, I shared her nagging this morning, the changes I made immediately after I realized it, and the details of washing her feet two days ago.

(PS 1。 Tell me about it: I heard Sister Tong say that she misses her mother. Now I'm sitting in the hospital bed, listening to my mother-in-law's ramble, and thinking about my mother … my relationship with my two mothers ~

Yesterday, my mother-in-law was still chanting, and the people who came in and operated together will be discharged tomorrow. Why didn't you inform her to leave the hospital?

I usually talk less in life, she says I listen, but the less I talk, the more she talks. While listening to Tong Jie's sharing, I looked at her and thought, why did she say this sentence repeatedly?

Haha, what a simple thing. She just wants to go home and let me check with the doctor. After I figured it out, I went to see a doctor. Are you sure I will leave the hospital tomorrow? )

(PS2。 wash sb's feet

The first night after her operation, when she returned to the ward from ICU, I was wondering whether to wash her feet …

As a daughter-in-law, I have never had such close contact with my mother-in-law, and there are all kinds of small voices in my head.

Finally, I shook my hand and dispelled the small voice. I'll fetch water and wash her feet.

Not only I am not used to it, but also my mother-in-law is not used to it. The moment I washed her feet, I almost burst into tears ... All I thought at that time was gratitude, without any resentment)

Actually, neither of us is used to it, but it seems that both of us have changed. In all these processes, there are both the practice of gratitude diary, the practice of awareness, the practice of fighting against the small voice in my heart, and the practice of deliberately breaking the routine with my mother-in-law;

A lot more touching and understanding, and because of these, our relationship will be better. My mother-in-law said before that she couldn't guess me, so she was always afraid of me. Because of this, I became an exception in my family.

(PS3。 The naivety of mother-in-law

In the last two days, she seems to be "presumptuous". As soon as she saw someone eating next to her, she was greedy and couldn't help it. Let's talk about it first I won't give it, I'll just say it and keep saying it. If you eat it, you will become a child.

give up

When I woke up at noon, I seemed to suddenly realize that a word flashed through my mind: her.

This reminds me of the gift that brother Peng Fang said on the live broadcast last night, the gift that I shared in the group at noon, and the gift that I was thinking about myself …

This sharing has only one word: give up.

As we all know, in the past, something must have appeared with the house. But what I want to say is that I didn't think about taking part in gratitude practice this time …

Have to say, in the past, even now, many times, I will still think more about what I want, or maybe this is Zhang zhen's obsession, just like the book that Sister Tong said. Now, if you can see this obsession, you can let it go.

The night before yesterday, I watched kazuo inamori's Heart before going to bed. 》

I wanted to read this book last year, but as soon as I opened it, I talked about giving up. At that time, I should have wanted it in my heart. When I saw giving up, I resisted, so I never read any more.

Now that I think about it, even if I read it at that time, I may not understand it.

That's why I didn't follow the first two exercises. At that time, Xi Chun said, don't be forced to follow your heart. I just let myself go and leave it alone. This time, whether writing or reading, I came on my own initiative. Before the official start, I'll start!

When writing ten blessings, if you can't finish it at once, you can't put it down and think about it before writing. There will be small voices in the middle, such as writing letters to hospitals, doctors, nurses, patients and mother-in-law ... There will be small voices in my heart, and I will try my best to let myself write down what I agree with, without getting emotional.

Back to my mother-in-law, when I wrote these in my top ten blessings, I really changed myself and the people around me.

I have been saying that I am the root of everything. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is awkward. I realized it before, but it was not enough. I always feel that she doesn't understand, and obviously her consciousness is invalid.

It was last night or the night before yesterday, the TV series "Human Life", the conversation between Zhou's father and boss, and I also thought of myself.

In fact, as early as when we got married, if I knew this … I remember the attitude at that time was to see how she treated me and decide how I would treat her in the future …

God, I don't know who taught me.

But like my usual style, my attitude towards anyone is this: I won't commit a crime unless someone else commits a crime against me. Now that I think about it, this may also be a sequela after middle school.

(PS: Zhou Dad said: When your parents start to be afraid of you, it means you should grow up.

In other words, it's time for you to take care of your parents.

I cried countless times after watching this TV series.

In fact, my mother-in-law was puzzled by me from the beginning. After all, she is a stranger. It's been more than ten years, and it's still the same.

Uncertainty, in her case, can also be understood as fear. This can be heard from her daily words.

My own parents, I changed and grew up a few years ago; In-laws, wake up later.

From the beginning of taking care of parents, it is extreme abandonment ... just like taking care of your own children, you don't think about anything in return.

Take your time, yes.

In the TV series, the three husband and wife files of the three brothers and sisters all have similar personalities:

Boss and Dong Mei: Responsibility and Ideal

Second child and Feng Huacheng: Self-worth

Lao San and Zheng Juan: Family values and hard work.

Last night's National Day roar:

It's not all negative energy, it's useful, it's really crying!

It's the pain in everyone's heart. Everyone has their own worries, but they have to keep pretending.

Not confused, never thought about pretending; At least dare to uncover it now)

3. Be a better self

This sentence was inspired by Geng Wen, the official account of WeChat, a handsome sister of Wendy Wang, who read it a few days ago. It mentions being a better self and being a better self.

Said the difference between them, instantly awake.

I remember that I was not afraid of death in the group of Big Brother's East Palace before, shouting that Peng Fang and I are the same kind of people, and we should look like her in the future (how to say I forgot).

But watching her live broadcast last night, I suddenly had an idea of recognizing reality and myself.

Before, being a better self, like a slogan, was on my lips. However, what is a better self? I don't know. Without standards, it always feels far away. Inevitably, it will fluctuate like the ebb and flow of the tide or the electrocardiogram.

To be a better self is to face the reality soberly, and on this basis, constantly correct yourself. Less imagination, more landing.

(PS: Whisper: What does this have to do with gratitude? )

Facing the reality soberly is the change brought by gratitude.

In the past, really, it was always troublesome not to face it. Now, go for a walk, and you will always come back.

Remember last night: all roads lead to Rome. Whether it's the Daoism of Heaven, the Daoism of Big Brother, or Teacher Zhou Wenqiang and wangtong …

In the end, everything converted to religion.

(PS: recommend planting grass.

1. The magical Thanksgiving community of practice

2. TV series "Human World" or books

3. kazuo inamori's heart

4. Early Wendy Wang fashion younger sister.

5. Wealth flows into the sand table

6. Peng Fang, the queen of copywriting marketing, is called big brother)