How to accompany elderly parents?

I spent a lot of time with my parents. First, emotionally: respect parents and understand their mentality that they still treat us as children.

As parents, especially after retirement, they will face a meaningful change. They are more like adolescent children. On the contrary, adolescent children turn their interest in family to society, while the elderly turn most of their social interest to family. Therefore, the elderly in the transition period are psychologically and emotionally fragile and need the respect and recognition of their children to make them feel important. At least in the eyes of children, they still hold the blue sky.

Especially the retired old people, some of them have more needs for society and less needs for their families all their lives, so their life after retirement will be more difficult. The loss of parents' sense of value when they retire may require more compensation from their children. As children, we need to learn to understand and recognize their position and importance in the family.

Because, no matter how old you are in front of others and how high your position is in the workplace, psychologically speaking, you are still their child. If possible, we might as well talk more about your wishes and your little troubles with your parents, talk about your thoughts, listen to their views and talk more. Maybe your parents can be your growth partners.

Second, in life: different ways of companionship make parents feel more valuable.

As the saying goes, old children, when they are old, tend to be dependent on their children like children, or even "unreasonable". So why do parents who once relied on us become dependent? In the face of parents' dependence, what should children do and how to appease them? Will you help your parents regain their independence?

Many friends should have such an inner monologue: accompany me to the hospital when I am sick, and pay for the renovation when the house is old ... but as soon as I receive a phone call from my parents asking when I will go home, I feel guilty. They worked hard to raise you, and now they are retired. I hope you can spend more time with them. This is normal. However, you really don't have that much time. Often you just want to fall asleep after working overtime and spend little time with your boyfriend or husband ... Do you feel helpless when you mention your parents?

Indeed, one day, we will suddenly feel that our parents have become like children-just as we expected their love and dependence in those years, now our parents are so eager to get our care and dependence, hoping to reconnect with us in their lives. Parents' dependence on us, on the one hand, will bring us warmth, but it will often make hard-working children feel invisible pressure.