Adult love: stop loss in time

When I was a student, I liked someone, even if it was wishful thinking, I didn't hesitate, even if I broke my head, I didn't complain. The kind of effort that touched me was vigorous, beautiful and pure.

In adulthood, before we love someone, we learn to weigh the pros and cons in order to stop loss in time, because we are no longer willing to spend precious time and energy on things we can't get. Adults care more about equal dignity.

Xiaolong and CC are my high school classmates. Xiaolong is tall and handsome, much like Zhongji in Song Like. CC is gentle and sweet, petite and lovely.

Like most student lovers, I wrote a review and invited my parents. They didn't fall behind, but in the end, no one could break up the mandarin ducks. After three years in high school, they are all bored.

At that time, I thought, even if it is a big hurdle, I firmly believe that they can pass. After all, they are the only couple I have ever met who have insisted on puppy love throughout their high school career.

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After the college entrance examination, I went to the northern university and lost contact with them. Until May of this year, CC added my WeChat. After catching up with the past, I couldn't help asking how she and Xiaolong were.

"I don't know how he is now. We broke up in the second year of graduation. "

I stared at the screen of my mobile phone for a long time, as if something suddenly collapsed.

"At the beginning, three years were like one day, inseparable. How can you say that you are separated? " I asked.

"At that time, we were all possessed. We only think he is very good, but we can only see him in our eyes. We don't have to consider too many factors. As if he was the only one in the world, he went to school together, ate together, and wrote a vow to grow old together under the old locust tree at school. He is my motivation and belief. But after the college entrance examination, we went to the same city and lived together. Slowly, we often quarrel over trifles. Over time, we lost our initial sweetness and happiness, and finally we separated. "

I really can't believe that puppy love, once such a "model", was so easily erased by reality.

I asked CC if she would like to, and she said that instead of torturing each other, we should stop and get along well. After all, we were all too young at that time to extricate ourselves from the taste of first love. Since we know it's inappropriate, there's no need to force it.

I think it is a good thing that they just waved goodbye because they were "inappropriate" and embarked on a new journey of finding a new life.

And my other female friend Wei Wei, her love story better explains the theme of this article.

Weiwei is a lively and cheerful little nurse. Her family is relatively well-off and completely lazy to manage money, but this does not mean that she can be self-sufficient. After work, her parents broke her capital chain, but it still beat her "cleverness".

Because she never lacks a boyfriend, and she is a boyfriend who is willing to pay for him. I have to admit that letting a man pay for you silently is also a manifestation of ability.

She has been in love since I met her, but she never mentioned a word about "marriage". Even if her boyfriend mentions it, she will prevaricate on the grounds that they are still young and unable to support a marriage.

I know. She's just not ready. Her concept of love is to meet a better "gold master". I don't judge girls' money worship. After all, in this materialistic world, everyone wants to get something for nothing, and ordinary people want to live a glamorous life, exhausted physically and mentally, not to mention those girls who can't eat the bitterness of life and advocate drunkenness.

So every boyfriend of Weiwei loves her very seriously and hard. They are all boys who simply want to have a future with her, and she just wants to win a carefree love.

Some time ago, I heard from a friend that Vivian had a new boyfriend, but she still didn't wait for the one she wanted.

There is a passage in Pride and Prejudice:

"Marriage that only considers money is absurd, and marriage that does not consider money is stupid.

The so-called true love of adults is not only love itself, but also contains the material basis to support love. "

Nowadays, most love can't be separated from material things. Cars, houses and bride price have crushed many marriageable young people. I think the most sober person in the world is still rational when facing feelings, so whether you marry money or love, you should think twice before you act, because you regret not taking medicine.

As an adult, I know how ugly compromise is. Many friends around me live freely because they don't have time to get in touch with love, but under the arrangement of their families, there are no fewer blind dates with the right people. Wave after wave, WeChat added a lot, but few posts.

Probably every adult has another person in his heart, and he may not let go or get it. Besides, he will make do. We always have 10,000 myths about marriage, love and life.

Bit by bit, like fish drinking water, is self-conscious of temperature changes.

This is the normal state of contemporary people and the present situation of our lives.

It's easy to have a relationship.

But it's really hard to find the right person.

If one day you meet the right person.

Then please be sure to put down the idea of stop loss in time.

Because all the waiting before was worth it.

If true love comes at a price.

Then accept it bravely!