There are many things in front of the widow's door. Why is there such a saying in history?

The traditional vulnerable groups in China include the old, the weak, the sick and the disabled, as well as the widowed and lonely. Among them, the old man who has no wife is widowed, and the wife who has lost her husband is widowed.

Being old without a wife, lonely and helpless, this kind of person is generally sympathized by people, and being widowed with a wife is actually as pitiful as being old without a wife. However, people's narrow-minded psychology often leads to curiosity and voyeuristic ridicule for widows. Over time, there is such a saying: "There is little smoke on the roof of a widower, and there are many things in front of the widow's door." There are many things in front of the widow's door, that is, "there is less smoke on the widower's roof."

At first, a widower meant to be old without a wife, and also to be old without a wife, mostly referring to a man who has lost his wife and never married. Today, it generally refers to a man who has lost his wife or divorced and never married. There is little smoke on the widower's roof. An old man, without his wife, is left unattended at home and neglected to take care of himself. He often has no food during meals, and he can't sleep alone. Smoke billows from the roof three times a day, and there is also a smell of rice, which is even more full of family and warmth.

In a widower's house, one person is full and the whole family is not hungry. However, without the other half, there is no meal, and the last meal is not followed. It is rare to have a fire once a day, and the roof is rarely smoked once, which is cold and desolate. This is relatively rare and worthy of sympathy in a society with the family as the basic unit.

Compared with the widower's deserted roof, the widow's front door is quite different. "There are many things in front of the widow's door". How did the right and wrong come about? Of course, it is brought by people, of course, it is brought by people's footsteps, which shows that there are many people and footprints in front of the widow's door. "There are many things in front of the widow's door", and the widow's door is so lively.

A widow refers to a woman whose husband has died. Once a woman dies her husband, right and wrong will follow. Neighbors will change their friendly eyes before and describe the widow with different eyes. Think about it, why did she die? How to die? Was it death or accident? What does it have to do with her? There are two answers according to different situations, one of which dies normally, then this woman is a husband; Second, if she dies abnormally, this woman will harm her husband. This has the first layer of right and wrong.

When a widow loses her husband, the shackles of marriage are in name only. The prodigal son will wander in front of the door without going through the front door, trying to go through the back door. If he has something to say, he will have nothing to do, and people will come to harass him from time to time. This is beyond the widow's control. You can refuse people to enter the door, but you can't stop the steps of the apprentice. The desire is always stronger than the obstacles of language and ethics, and the obstacles can't be stopped. Newcomers will still come. This is the second layer of right and wrong.

Although my husband is dead, the shackles of marriage are intangible, but they are binding women. In the traditional society of China, in many cases, women's remarriage is not advocated, but chastity is advocated. It is the most important marriage and ethical code that widows should adhere to in their lifetime. However, once a woman has her own choice and remarries a person with a heart, the discussion is rampant. In her later life, she is often accused of losing her virtue, and people stay away from her, but she is still behind her back.

widowhood is officially advocated and praised by the society. Like Qin Shihuang, the widow Qing in Sichuan was praised by Qin Shihuang as a living teaching material because she was widowed all her life. Commendation is also a kind of shackles. Men can have three wives and four concubines, but women have to hang themselves in the name of a dead person for a lifetime until the loess is waist-high. This is actually very inhuman.