Naive to mature, realistic, 200 words

Maturity and innocence

From childhood to adulthood, we all have to go through a difficult and complicated process from childishness to maturity. Children are naive, curious about things around them and ignorant of everything. This kind of feeling can keep us happy all the time, which is a natural feeling that human beings are born with. Over time, we began to have a deeper understanding of the things around us, forming one memory frame after another in our minds and storing it to prepare for the future use of things. At home, parents are their first teachers. They will teach us the most basic knowledge of life, which is right, which is wrong, which should be done and which should not be done. We will always keep it in our minds. At a certain age, we should accept and learn new things, constantly update the knowledge in our minds, discard the useless and update the useful. At the same time, parents began to exercise our ability to do things and solve problems, and taught us all the methods and experiences they knew, so we must observe them one by one. These are all social skills that we must learn in order to survive. We must learn them, which will be good for ourselves in the future. A person's naivety is because he doesn't know the real world, true philosophy and true meaning in society. In this society, there are often many unknown worlds hidden, dirty, messy and evil. One thing, we can only see the superficial side, superficial side, deep understanding is not easy to be perceived. In the learning stage, we met many classmates at school, made friends with some like-minded classmates, and exchanged learning experiences, experiences and emotions. School is like a small society. We should study actively and make new friends. In this process, we began to change slowly from a simple and naive mind. Everyone has gradually changed from a "nobody" who knows nothing to a "big man" who knows everything. With this process of change, we gradually form an independent self-awareness and learn to solve problems in life by ourselves. Because our brains control our actions, we know what we want because of our contact with people in society. Most of our character and temper are inherited and imitated from our parents. Because they are our own people and have a logical relationship like father, son and mother. From kindergarten to primary school, from primary school to junior high school, from junior high school to senior high school, from senior high school to university, and even all along, on this long and changeable learning road, we have met all kinds of people and seen all kinds of environments, which can make us develop from naive to mature. To make yourself independent, from naivety to maturity, first of all, you should learn to live independently from your parents and cultivate your independent ability at a single-digit age close to double digits. Each of us belongs to the society and has the right to choose, learn and dominate. Innocence is the symbol of boys and girls, and maturity is the symbol of men and women. A naive and mature person can easily be experienced from his body image, witnessed by others and proved by his words and deeds. A mature person has a self-cultivation connotation, which is shaped by his parents' education and himself. A mature person can understand the etiquette and communication language in daily life. When he meets a familiar person, he will take the initiative to say hello. When he sees what he can do, he will take the initiative to do it. When he sees that others are in trouble or need help, he will take the initiative to help. A person needs to experience setbacks in life, try hardships in life, and experience life and death parting, in order to learn to have his own signs of maturity, adhere to the feeling of maturity, and let himself know and enjoy life. A mature person will store certain knowledge, social experience and social interaction experience. Maturity can make a person calm, consider things comprehensively and treat things thoroughly. Maturity may be a sign that an adult controls himself, but this is not the case. Being able to speak deeply can also reflect maturity, being proactive can also reflect maturity, being able to see through society can also reflect maturity, and being able to understand some worldly wisdom in society can also reflect maturity. In life, we will meet many different types of people and use the advantages of others to make up for our shortcomings, thus changing ourselves. Over time, I will refer to others and compare my own personal characteristics. When I find my own shortcomings, I will prescribe the right medicine to correct them. When I find that I have advantages that others don't have, I will keep them for a long time, use them and improve myself. Sometimes there will be a zero mentality, so that they can re-learn and learn new things. When different viewpoints point to it, the same thing will produce different results. this

It is a mature and changeable process. In this rapidly changing society, in order to adapt to it, we have to constantly change ourselves, constantly learn and constantly update our knowledge. Sometimes we have to accept new ideas and abandon old ones. Life will be forced by reality most of the time, forcing yourself to mature and survive the fittest. Therefore, the process of self-maturity is that an outsider is prevented from being eliminated by society because of continuous progress, which makes him have to adapt to the development of social humanities. In life, it is inevitable that many unpleasant things will happen to you. Don't lose your temper easily, but control your emotions. Emotion is the highest product of human beings. It is a protective shield for self-protection, which can restrain your temper that you are about to vent. When your temper is vented, it will cause an uncontrollable situation and have a bad influence at the expense of others. Don't do it for small good, don't do it for small evil. In life, every complex thing is made up of one simple thing after another. Every little thing, we should deal with it or improve it without hesitation. Every simple little thing is the most important thing for complex things, and sometimes a big thing can't be completed because a small thing is not done well. So some things are small, but we should pay attention to them. A selfish person tends to be self-centered, making choices for his own interests, completely ignoring the feelings of others, which is a unique feature of an immature person. A mature person is easy to be accepted by others, while a relatively naive person may be rejected by others, because mature people are easy to attract people in all aspects and build a deeper communication platform, while naive people think things are superficial and easy to disagree on the communication platform. From the common sense of life, a mature behavior is more graceful, cultivated, thoughtful and determined than a naive behavior. A mature person will have a tolerant heart to treat others and will tolerate the little things in the world. Some things are too small for you to care about or be stubborn. There are many things in life that are actually no big deal, as long as you live a healthy life. A tolerant heart can resolve contradictions, save friendship, affection and love, and promote mutual harmony and harmony. Tolerance is a good medicine to get rid of mistakes, and it is an opportunity to correct mistakes and turn them into nothing. Maturity can reflect the individual's unique sense of self-confidence, which is formed by the cultivation of individuals by society and is not worth it. Everyone has a sense of social self-confidence, which is irreplaceable by others. Can be attached to the owner to assume due social responsibilities, fulfill due social obligations, dare to admit mistakes and face reality. Reality is not transferred by one's own thoughts, but by the will and attributes of society. This change can sometimes be said to be resigned. Finding a job that suits you needs to be realistic, pursuing people you like needs to be realistic, interacting with people needs to be realistic, and integrating into social survival needs to be realistic. Social reality will be everywhere around us. Reality is sometimes bad for us, but we must face it. Reality really tells us that we are not qualified to escape or get rid of it.

In high school, I studied and lived in a completely closed environment. At school, I mainly want to exercise my independent self-care ability, washing clothes, taking a bath, folding quilts and putting shoes. At that time, it was the most basic thing to learn at present At that time, I didn't realize the difference between childishness and maturity. There is no choice but to study and communicate with classmates. At that time, because I was too introverted, I didn't know how to interact with people at all. In my normal study life, except for one or two students who can talk, the rest of my classmates basically adopt a completely closed attitude. When I saw other students talking and laughing, I should have been able to talk to them. Because of my psychological function (I didn't have the courage to let myself talk, even if I did, I didn't know how to interrupt), my desire turned into disappointment, and I lost the opportunity to communicate with others. For this reason, I put all my thoughts on my study and don't want to pay attention to other things. From then on, I knew I needed to learn to stand on my own feet. At that time, I was quite naive, unable to understand the profound truth in life, and some things were superficial to think of. I remember a classmate in senior three said to himself: nothing will change. I don't even know what he means after listening to it. Looking back now, I know that he said he couldn't see, and I know the hidden meaning. I remember once in my hometown, listening to my mother and grandmother talking about themselves in front of me, and seeing that "the second brother" is very mature now, while "I" is still very naive (relatively speaking). As soon as I heard this, I suddenly felt inferior to my two younger brothers. They were interpreted positively and I was interpreted negatively. On another occasion, my mother said: In fact, he really wants to make friends with others, but he just doesn't know how to communicate with others. This is ...

From naivety to maturity.

My mother spoke her mind, and I think this is my long-term confusion. After graduating from high school, I continued to study in the university. When you go to college, you will go abroad to study, and you will have a chance to see the outside world. At that time, I was full of curiosity and novelty about the outside world, thinking that I would gradually mature outside. In the first month of college life, I naturally chatted with a classmate in my class, became friends, and took a walk after class. Whenever I have dinner, he will call me and ask me to come down from the dormitory to accompany him to the dining hall. After a month in college, it's really different to go back to the local area. This feeling comes from seeing a lot of things in other places than in the local area. The night I came back from abroad, my family and I went to my uncle's house for dinner. When I walked into my uncle's house, I saw many relatives sitting together, chatting and watching TV. One of my cousins looked at me head-on and told me that she felt much more mature after coming back from abroad. Indeed, I can't see the outside world here, and she has a sense of identity with what I said. But when I came back to school after the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday a month later, I felt very strange. Why didn't he invite me to play? I found him talking and laughing with other students, and gradually alienated me. I feel very uncomfortable and want to cry. I thought it was easy to make friends when I was studying in a university in a big city. How do I know that a cold reception makes me disheartened? But in any case, I still need to face such a cruel reality. I asked him why he didn't continue to associate with me, and he told me directly that I have nothing to say with you but to be your friend. I was whispering in my heart at that time. I took a fancy to a sister's online chat number in computer class, so I wrote it down for online communication and always chatted with her online, but she was also very happy. I met her several times at school, and I was very excited. It's naive to want to go back to myself at that time. But after a long time, I was misunderstood by her friends. I often chat with her online and pursue her, but I don't think so myself. After a date for dinner, she cut off contact with each other and said they were just passers-by in life. At that time, she was so caught off guard that she didn't know what was going on at all, so she took the initiative to cut off contact with herself. Alas, the facts are in front of me, and I have no choice. After a while, I got to know some people because I joined a so-called business alliance. These people are very friendly, but I thought it was only a superficial phenomenon at that time, and it could only be a small experience of college life, but in fact, this incident really made me know some people from other schools. At that time, I felt that the more people I knew and the more friends I made, the more mature I would be. In the outside world, it is full of complicated environment. If you are not careful, it is easy to fall into some unknown events. In some complicated societies, there are often many hidden rules and regulations. In a big family, I am a relatively naive person compared with my younger brother. At ordinary parties, I will hear my brother speak confidently and boldly to the public. In my opinion, they are mature and humorous people. Compared with me, they know more knowledge, more truth, more society, initiative, more manners, and are more flexible and agile than me. And I am just the opposite of them. I am often said, scolded and looked at. Alas! These are all of my own making. Now, great changes have taken place since I came out to work, and some relatives no longer regard me with special respect. I used to be an evasive attitude towards life, afraid to face it, speechless with questions raised by others, and escaping from the test of reality. Escaping from life is a cowardly act and an excuse that you can't face yourself. When you are tortured, you will become speechless. But now, I have to really face the reality of life. Reality is cruel to me sometimes. I have to lower my dignity and obey. Sometimes when shopping in some bakeries and some large shopping malls, the shopping guide will take the initiative to call her husband (do you need help? ). In this title, it shows that I am an adult, reflecting my mature side, and I can have my own choice, right to speak and opinion. When I was in college, I made friends with a girl with broad vision, extroversion and charm because of a chance encounter and many meetings. I have been in contact with her for a long time and feel very happy, showing positive energy in her. In my opinion, she is a cheerful and sociable person. I feel that she can keep a happy mood to face life and study every day, and she has a mature boyfriend to accompany her in the dating stage. I really have to envy her. It's really hard to make friends with her. I have to sigh that I am so lucky. She also encourages herself to be happy, to meet every day's life with an optimistic attitude, and not to be pessimistic. Having said that, I can be happy in a short time, and most of the time I am in a sad state of mind. Later, in the second half of the year when I met her, she soon went out to work and became a girl.

A kind of social person. A friend of mine, who has been in contact from high school to college, went to another campus for further study. During that time, there were no more friends on the local campus, so there was only one person left. At school, I often feel lonely, so I often go out by bike alone to relieve my depression. Without company, my heart is like being cut by a knife. I feel I will face the despair of interpersonal communication. I have no choice, I have no courage to communicate with others, and my troubles have nowhere to vent. I want to talk to her, but I'm embarrassed to disturb her life time. Therefore, I have to call her often to chat, so as to solve my depressed mood. Later, because the limit relationship of friendship was not taken into account, it had a certain psychological effect of disgust and had to have the opposite effect of being scolded. In this case, she had to admit her mistake. Looking back on my college days, I really want to sigh: I really don't know how to face my college life without the support and encouragement of her friends during that time. Every time I think of her, I will be full of vitality in my present life, so as myself, I am very grateful for her appreciation and would like to be friends with me. At that time, I naively thought that the same effort could be exchanged for the same return, and the effort was directly proportional to the return. As long as you pay a certain amount for your friends, the same return will come to you. But in real life, it is not so ordinary. If I pay for you, you must pay me back. It depends. If I pay for your friendship, I will get your friendship, but not necessarily the same amount. I pay for your love and you pay the same love for me. In the naive and mature ideas of some things, it is only in this difference. In life, keeping a happy mood can make people optimistic, and vice versa. Long-term emotional love can make a person move from childish to mature. A happy mood can stimulate the generation of self-confidence and enterprising mentality, which is a true feeling from the heart and a good mood of good health. When we were young, we were happy children without any burden. When we are adults, we are mature and socially capable people. So some people will say that the more children, the happier they are, and the more they grow up, the less happy they are. That's true, because we will encounter many bumps, obstacles and difficulties in our life. In life, everything is not smooth sailing, just like a straight line, there are always phenomena one after another. We must have the ability to resist pressure and strike, which will become some burdens for ourselves, otherwise we would have died long ago, but when good things happen to us, we should learn to learn how to grind more. Our sadness is the pain caused by subjective and objective factors, such as falling out of favor, losing relatives, falling in love, losing friends, losing feelings, losing jobs and losing virginity. Sadness only happens in times of adversity, which is not enough to become a big deal. A person can be tempered into a mature person through a sad experience, and sadness is only an aid to his victory. Perfectionists tend to feel sad. They often pursue perfection, but they can never achieve it smoothly, which leads to their dissatisfaction with objective requirements. So that they have a feeling of great discount (glasses dropped). At that time, I was in a semi-naive and semi-mature psychological feeling, which was a normal psychological state during the transition period of college. For a period of time, I have been living in loneliness, being left out by my roommates, and my will has been low and lifeless (sometimes I go to the dormitory to sleep at night, and in bed, my roommates chat with me, and sometimes I ask questions and have a good chat. By the next day, my roommates didn't like talking to me, except for having classes with me. This psychological change is so different that I can't adapt myself. The reason why I have become like this is verified by the words of my friend who left our campus not long ago, because I don't want to communicate with others, which contradicts him. I think it's right, he thinks it's wrong, but I stubbornly insist on my own point of view, so I even degenerate to the psychological tendency of wanting to end my fresh life. This shows that the authorities turn a blind eye to outsiders. I didn't expect to be known by my parents, so I called to ask about the situation and told myself to go home on holiday. I chatted with my mother at night, only to know that no one wants to communicate with me because I am immature, talkative, slow or closed, with narrow interests and no attractive highlights, which is also the reason why I feel lonely and helpless for a long time. Another thing is that I realize that my emotional intelligence is low. Sometimes, I feel that my friends around me are much more mature and a little depressed. One is a dead man and the other is a lively and cheerful person. Everyone knows in their hearts who they live with to have sunshine and motivation. She knows herself best and advises herself to look at everything with an open mind, hoping that she can grow up. At that time, I began to realize the difference between childish and mature. After successfully completing my college studies, I will

We should go out of school and enter the society to develop ourselves. In society, it is not easy to find a suitable job, because I have no social practice experience and don't know where to find it. Later, I went to find a job according to a certain major and soon found a job that suits me. Working in a company is different from studying in the past. Here, I want to deal with people around me, so as to give full play to my ability to get along with others. Internship for more than a year. During this time, I constantly changed, constantly reflected on myself and faced different setbacks. During this time, I found myself gradually becoming mature, but I still have a certain distance from others, alas! I still need to work hard. Now, I have to face the problem of finding a partner. I am always thought by people around me that my mind is immature. I don't know how to face such a dilemma. I am at a loss and can't find my place in my heart. I believe that everyone can find a girlfriend of their own and be happy for themselves.

The second article: "Talking about maturity"

Talking about maturity

I overheard a financial story told by Liang Hongda and got a general understanding of Jobs' private life and personality characteristics. Jobs is actually a very "twisted" person. His jaw-dropping behaviors, such as not seeing his real father until his death and refusing to pay alimony to his illegitimate daughter, all highlight his self-centered, cold and selfish side. On the eve of the end of his life, he was extremely open-minded and wanted to talk to his lifelong opponent Bill Gates, which showed that he had fully recognized the situation. I think Liang Hongda's statement that men's maturity is divided into three stages is very reasonable. First, they leave their parents and go to society independently. Second, form a family and shoulder the responsibility and mission; Third, experience the test of life and death?

There are too many definitions and explanations about maturity, but generally speaking, it is relative to naivety. A person is physically mature, but not psychologically mature; As a person grows older, he may be sophisticated, but he may not be mature.

Think of an anecdote about Leslie Cheung. Once, after the concert, Zhang was surrounded by fans. The excited fans accidentally cut his arm and shed some blood. Back at the hotel, he cried for a long time for this little thing. The reporter who broke the news said that he was wronged like a child who was not weaned, even though Leslie Cheung was over 40 at that time. Fragile at this point, it is not difficult to understand his suicide, not to mention that he has been in the play for so long.

Put down the psychology bag:

The basic concept of maturity in psychology is defined as: the change of people's concept, from naive to higher level, and the more rational view of things, and this process is often accompanied by changes in the surrounding environment, including the influence of others.

It emphasizes rationality and objectivity, and also attaches importance to the role of surrounding environment and influence. But the mature nucleus

What is the heart? Is it compromise and obedience, drag out an ignoble existence, mercenary? I'm afraid this is a kind of bourgeois philosophy, but it must be admitted that this is probably the mainstream of society, and it is also a universal standard that China people usually use to judge whether others and themselves are mature.

From this point of view, maturity seems to be a cruel thing, which deprives the dream of youth and dulls the colorful ideals; It forces people to face the gloom and cold they don't want to face, and to cheer up and have sex-does maturity mean hypocrisy and disguise are inevitable? No, this is actually a misunderstanding.

My phototaxis makes me agree with the explanation that true maturity is the unity of reason, wisdom, innocence and morality. Maturity requires a healthy and free social environment, independent thinking ability and frequent self-reflection.

Maturity does not exclude innocence. If some people scoff at the petty bourgeoisie's "light lovesickness and light sorrow", it is because they are only pure gestures, not innocence itself, or artificial innocence. The online language is called "pretending to be pure" or "selling cute". Although it is indecent, it hits the nail on the head. Naivety is the emotion and ideological instinct that we naturally reveal when we look at primitive things with primitive mentality. The most typical and popular examples are the baby's smile and the first love of boys and girls, as well as the heartfelt admiration when facing the splendor of nature and so on. After vicissitudes of life, I still believe in truth, goodness and beauty, still shed tears, still don't want to associate with falsehood, ugliness and ugliness, refuse to go along with filth and evil, and still maintain my true colors? The original intention of these essences has not changed, which is the innocence covered by maturity.

Maturity requires reason and wisdom. Ernest Hearst, an American psychologist, listed 10 development tasks: 1. Be able to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships with peers in daily life, including same-sex friends.

Friends and friends of the opposite sex 2. Be able to play an appropriate gender role in behavior. 3. Accept your body and appearance. Don't show off your strengths, don't hide your weaknesses, and give full play to your potential. 4. Emotional expression is becoming increasingly mature and independent. Everything no longer depends on the support and protection of parents or other adults. 5. Have confidence in economic independence. 6. Be able to choose a career that suits your abilities and interests, and be willing to work hard to prepare for such a career. 7. Seriously consider choosing a marriage partner and start preparing to form a family and live an independent family life. 8. In terms of knowledge, ideas, etc., you can meet the standards needed as a citizen. 9. Willing to participate in social activities and being responsible for their actions in social activities. 10. In personal behavior orientation, you can establish your own values and moral standards. I think, no matter from any angle or cognitive angle, these ten development goals of Horvis can be used as one of the criteria for judging "maturity" because they are reasonable and conform to the basic development law and running track of life.

Rationality requires people to face life with an objective perspective and a calm attitude; Wisdom includes IQ and EQ, which complement each other and do not constitute a mature element of wisdom. Great wisdom gathers mature results; Small cleverness is dwarfed by great wisdom at best.

Maturity is the direction of life and a peaceful and happy life. Mature moral measurement needs to be based on public morality. Back to the topic of Liang Hongda, there are several criteria for men's psychological maturity, such as attaching importance to commitment, being knowledgeable and reserved, being broad-minded and not self-centered, being brave in admitting mistakes and being firm-willed. However, cognitive differences will always affect the deviation of general theory in practice.

Both men and women, a sign of psychological maturity, must have a sense of responsibility and tolerance.

Two aspects * * * save this. Thanksgiving life, positive; Don't complain when you are frustrated; Don't get carried away when things are going well; The so-called humiliation is the maturity and freedom of freehand brushwork. From naivety to maturity