Children's "flying away"

Father is teaching his children English sentence by sentence.

The daughter said to her father, "Dad, I have learned English very well, and I will go to the United States to study in the future."

Her father said, "You don't have to go to America. There are also good schools in China, especially now that China's economy is developing so well. When you grow up, I hope Americans will come to China to study. "

The daughter said, "Why does my mother let me go further and say that I can see the world?"

His father said, "I don't want you to go that far, and it's not necessarily good."

Most parents have the expectation of "expecting children to succeed and women to succeed".

But children will "fly away" and leave their hometown after Jackie Chan becomes a phoenix. From rural areas, to towns, to cities, to big cities, and then to go abroad. If we are incompetent, we will go to the provincial capital, which is far from the capital. At this distance, I can only go back to my parents during the holiday.

Many relatives around us, like us, don't beg for food in their hometown and go out. But there are also many people who work and live with their parents in their hometown.

I didn't think their lives were much different before. It's not a taste these years. First, my brother, his daughter is my high school classmate, and her academic performance is very good. She was admitted to a university in Wuhan, then stayed in Wuhan to work and got married in Wuhan. His parents were in the township and his mother died. It is rare for her to come back for a few days. The eldest brother talked about the feeling of his only visit to his daughter's house: the house was cramped and he went out early and returned late. Like he earned work points when he was young, he carried a lunch box in the morning, prepared lunch and came back from work at night. Plus the traffic time, he didn't get home until after seven o'clock. From my hometown to Wuhan, I have to change trains, and I have to change trains specially. I'm tired of traveling, I'm not used to life, and I don't have the financial ability to help her buy a house and a car. I feel like raising a daughter for nothing.

This is the resentment of a left-behind old man, like raising a child for nothing.

But his daughter's major has not developed greatly in her hometown. She studies hard just to go out and go further and higher.

Later, I found out that my dad was not close to us either. He is closest to his nephew, my cousin, and he has to talk to his nephew, Doby's nephew, every night. My cousin taught him how to use his smart phone. Even if we go back, he is used to going out for a walk, and there are not many languages in common. This makes me feel a little sad when I think about it. The fate between children and parents is so deep and so shallow.

Parents whose children work and live around are the happiest. A few people in a family, who have worked hard in one place for decades, usually have some money. They are not residential buildings. In the worst case, they can buy a big house to live in, or buy multiple houses to live nearby. They have lived under the same roof for three or four generations, and family happiness can be seen every day.

Is there any way to stop children from moving forward and stay with them?

I think there are also many examples of parents following their children to live in their children's cities. This situation is generally that parents have a family background, not only can they give up everything in their hometown, update their ideas in real time, keep up with young people, but also can afford to rent or buy a house in their children's "big cities".

Or, for the sake of children, as parents, go to a slightly larger city where they can go first, and children can stay in a slightly larger city to find a job anyway.

In this way, parents should strive to create conditions before they get old, so that they can also have the opportunity to keep up with the pace of children when they get old.

Otherwise, we look forward to the prosperity of the country, the balanced development of provinces and cities, and the promised land everywhere, so that no matter where we work and live, there is little difference, we can give full play to what we have learned and have a happy family together.