What kind of man deserves a woman's life?

I just saw an interesting question on Zhihu: What kind of man is worth a woman's life?

This is probably the question that all girls want to know.

02

To tell the truth, this problem is quite big, and it is a typical student thinking problem.

What is the student's thinking? They like to think according to their own subjective wishes, that is, they think that there are templates in all aspects of life. As long as it is solved according to this template, it will be solved.

However, the cruelty of life is that there is no template at all. It needs your wisdom and understanding of the world more. Smart people can get full marks in exams, but the standard of happiness is different for everyone.

03

I want to talk about my own thoughts on the feelings between men and women.

Like most girls, coming out of the traditional China family, the love for men and women still stays in the fantasy heard and heard through the media. I hope there is a boy, preferably older than me, not too handsome, who can play basketball and get better grades than me. Of course, the most important thing is to understand me, rely on me when I am weak, and be obedient to me.

That's it. I'm really picky. Later, when I was taking the postgraduate entrance examination, I met a boy who was two years older than me. He is not very handsome, but his grades are good. He eagerly told me that I don't like him very much, but I intend to try the feeling of love for a long time.

I was a junior at that time. He just graduated from college, resigned from his job, and prepared to take the postgraduate entrance examination wholeheartedly.

It is worthy of being a schoolmaster of 985. He works very hard. His handwriting is beautiful and his notes are careful. I admire him more and more, even though he is emotionally dull and confused.

He did all the advanced math problems several times, and then taught me by hand. My English is poor, and he keeps urging me to recite words and sentences. Never make fun of me because of my poor grades, and never be impatient because of my poor foundation.

Later, he went back to his hometown to review, and I reviewed in the school library.

Not long after, I found that he deleted me quietly. I was so angry that I asked him what was going on. He faltered and couldn't explain clearly, so I proudly ignored him.

This short-lived relationship ended quietly. At that time, this kind of anodyne relationship was a kind of unwillingness for me, because I was a little proud at that time and was inexplicably deleted by my boyfriend. My heart was more of a feeling of being played.

Meet love rat cursed in my heart.

After a few months, I still feel uneasy. I secretly registered a trumpet to search his QQ number and found that he had a new girlfriend. In a word, he praised his new girlfriend. She is the best girl in the world, with good personality and kindness. He should work hard.

The space is also full of photos of new girlfriends, a very simple girl, bookish and not bad in education.

My heart is full of unconvinced. Where did I lose? Education, face?

I didn't understand until I graduated from the society and learned to live alone, facing the great pressure of life alone.

At the beginning, I was too strong and hurt his self-esteem. He didn't scold me severely, but quietly quit, leaving a little dignity.

At that time, I would laugh at his native land, and Mandarin was not standard. He will laugh at his ignorance of amorous feelings and girlish heart. I will laugh at him. This is not good, that is not good, he is picky everywhere.

I naively think that men's infinite tolerance for women's work is love, but in fact it is only to satisfy women's selfishness.

You can't be so selfish

I realized in hindsight that men are not as strong as they look. At that time, the work was not smooth, the future was uncertain, the family conditions were not good enough, all the pressure was on my shoulders, my major was not good for employment, and I had to change careers. Postgraduate entrance examination was the last stop for him, but I didn't feel it at all, and I couldn't feel it.

I took advantage of his affection for me, so I began to be mean and hurt his self-esteem, and he didn't lose his temper. Until he left.

04

Many boys are just ordinary people like you before they become men.

He has no super ability and talent to understand what girls in different places are thinking. He goes to the same school as you, and his cognition is similar. He won't know much and understand much just because he is a boy.

You have turned your requirements for your boyfriend into a knowledgeable person, an emotional warm man, a helper in study and work, a warm harbor when setbacks come, and infinite tolerance when small emotions come out. This is completely serving an ancestor.

05

When I work hard alone, I deeply understand the secular requirements of the world for boys.

Only then can I feel how hurtful those words that I don't understand are, how helpless they are when the unit is excluded, and how proud they are when they are uncertain about their future.

I realized that a good relationship and a good marriage must be managed well. It takes two people to rely on each other and warm each other, not one person to pay unconditionally. A person will be tired after taking the initiative for a long time, and no one can guarantee that it will be smooth sailing.

Life is more like two good teammates upgrading together and facing the ups and downs of this world together.

To be realistic, even if someone changes their mind and goes their separate ways later, you don't have to feel lost, because you can be completely independent.

If you want a reliable man, please be practical;

If you want a warm-hearted man, please be considerate.

If you want a romantic man, please take some time to surprise your lover.

If you want an enterprising man, don't be lazy, but work harder.

Which one do you want, turn yourself into that one, and the same kind will sing.

Times are hard, and men and women trust each other.

If a sensible girl meets love rat who will only oppress you and bully you, please stop in time.

If a kind-hearted boy meets a girl who is playing with feelings just to take advantage of you and is extremely selfish, please stop in time.

A good man and a good woman will have a happy and beautiful future.