My daughter is one and a half years old! Want to go out to work next year! But I don't trust my mother-in-law to take care of the children.

"When I feed, I chew it in my mouth and spit it out for the children to eat." This is how your husband was brought up by your mother-in-law. Isn't he fine now? If you think she is dirty, she will think that you can't take care of the children, which means nothing to you. She will think that "you bring all men to me like this", and there will be conflicts between you. Either you don't let him take care of the children at all, or you won't say in front of him that you don't trust him to take care of the children. The child is only one year old and you are ready to go out. Then you won't be at home when he is 3.4 years old. It will take a long time. Where did you put the children? Let him accept it honestly. Few of his teeth are real, and he chews them for your daughter. She loves your daughter so much, although you don't like the way he loves her. You are lucky to have a mother-in-law who has no grandchildren.