Don't always be a "good person", okay?

We will always meet such people around us, or we are such people, called "good people."

Others don't take the initiative to pay back the money they owe, and they are too embarrassed to ask for it, for fear of hurting the peace; I am embarrassed to refuse someone's request for help to do something. Put aside your own affairs and help others. ......

The typical performance of this kind of people is: in order not to hurt harmony, they are worried about destroying relationships and blindly taking care of other people's feelings. Everything is endured and borne by themselves.

Do you think they have temper and resentment? Can you really achieve such "selfless dedication"?

At least most people can't do it; In fact, everyone is irritable, aggressive and equally irritable, but they just don't express it or realize it. If there is an opportunity, they will definitely let go, or at least complain behind their backs.

When it comes to "aggression", people may first think of destruction, which is not a good word. But in fact, aggression is our nature. If you deprive it, you deprive yourself of your own nature. In fact, you lose your true self.

One of the notable people here is children. It is very important for parents to discipline their children in this respect. Because children are young and have never experienced the world, they will show all-round narcissism and aggression. When they see a lot of unfortunate or bad things happening around them or at home, they will naturally think that everything is caused by them, and then begin to suppress their aggression, please people around them, or become "thugs" who release destructive attacks everywhere.

Therefore, parents should pay attention to the ways and means when disciplining their children, and we should tell them that these bad things are not caused by them. Parents should not blame their children for the misfortune at home, because this is a very bad way of education.

In fact, if you sometimes express your anger, you may find that it is actually very comfortable. The other party is not as overreacting as you think, and even feels more direct and harmonious. In fact, this is one of the benefits of correctly expressing aggression.

Teacher Wu mentioned that "without aggression, there would be nothing. Of course, with aggression, it is easy to go wrong, especially after it becomes destructive. At this time, you need to learn how to transform destructiveness. The method is simple-just see it. "

Aggressiveness is considered as bad energy and is not liked by everyone. So if a person is aggressive, is it hopeless? Of course not, and the so-called "love can affect everything and create miracles" is not empty talk.

When a person shows "aggressiveness", if he is seen and understood by his parents, lovers and friends, and allowed to get along with them with their tolerance, his "aggressiveness" can be transformed into a good life force and passed on to him.

Of course, some people may not have the ability of this transformation, or the "aggression" of the other party is a bit beyond their tolerance. At this time, don't be patient, don't be embarrassed, and don't escape. Just tell each other the truth sincerely. You can tell him that your ability is limited, and some of them can't stand his attack, but it's not his fault, it's your limited ability. Or you can tell the other person that you can help introduce someone with better ability to help him.

In fact, we have been constantly pursuing our true selves and hope to express ourselves better.

We often see some people living in their own personalities and selves. When they want to express something, they will express it directly without reservation. It stands to reason that such people may not be tactful and sophisticated enough, which will cause some people to hate. But in fact, when everyone knew her personality and acting style, she was less disgusted and even praised her truth.

However, some people don't say anything or refute anything they are dissatisfied with or don't want to do. On the surface, they cooperated actively. In fact, they are miserable in private, complaining repeatedly and even maliciously slandering. This is actually very bad. If you are unhappy, then you have to do it. The other party doesn't know that you are unhappy.

These are two different states, which do you prefer? I think most people like the former, because the former is more real, exposed and attractive!

2020, be a better self!