Age is no excuse: it's never too late to change if you want to.

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We are no strangers to these words, and even in many cases, these words come from family members.

At the age of 28, Xiaoxue finally made up his mind to resign as a civil servant, plunged into the e-commerce market and started a business in full swing.

Xiaoxue's biggest dream has always been to open an online shop of her own, so she can do what she wants without punching in from nine to five. Now 28 years old, this goal has been achieved.

But her mother is very opposed, because in the minds of all mothers, when a woman reaches the age of 28, the important thing in life is to get married and have children, not family stability.

Xiaoxue's mother told her every day: "Good civil servants do nothing, I don't understand. You are 28 years old. You don't get married and have children. Do you have to do this? " I see, you want to piss me off ... "

Yes, for a woman who is almost 30 years old, dreams are a luxury. In the eyes of others, we are already past the age of fighting for our dreams, and we should not even have dreams.

However, Xiaoxue disagreed. She insisted on the dream of opening an online shop under various obstacles at home, and later opened a commercial house with the money she earned from her own business.

Her story tells us that other people's gossip has never been a tool to trap us, and age is not a cage to stop us from pursuing our dreams.

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I have to admit that if the world gives young people a little tolerance, then when we get older, we will become more and more harsh and sometimes even have no pity.

I always think about how old I am, so I subconsciously deny myself that this is impossible and that is not suitable for doing. For those who have this idea, I want to ask you, when will you get up the courage to live for yourself? Don't listen to others

Age is just a number, but many people around us are too used to putting themselves in the framework of age. On the one hand, they are chased by the list of what kind of life should be completed at what age, on the other hand, they are limited by their age, dare not overstep the rules, and are afraid of becoming different in the eyes of others.

Zhang Xuefeng, a graduate teacher of Wonderful Congress, planned his life early-be a good son at the age of 25, get married at the age of 30, be a good husband at the age of 35, and be a good father at the age of 45 ... At every stage of his life, he must control his own decisions and not exceed his original plan.

The most incredible thing is that a month before his wedding, the bride changed, and his reaction at that time was this: I must get married on the date I set, no matter who the bride is.

Everyone feels that their behavior is unacceptable, but it is someone else's choice. If he thinks this girl is his partner for a lifetime, who are we outsiders to judge? In addition, in fact, what we can see from him is that under the pressure of age, Zhang Xuefeng began to constantly compromise his inner expectations. He set limits on his life, deluded himself and called it "enjoyment".

Whether it is psychological pressure or the discouragement of people around us, internal and external factors make us feel involuntarily, and even forget that life is our own. If you are not really happy, what's the point of doing so? Is it just to meet the expectations of the secular and family?

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Obviously, this society has actually given us many established rules, especially for women. For example, college students aged 65,438+08 should focus on their studies and not fall in love. 24 years old, must make a boyfriend, take home. Before they are 28, they must marry themselves. I'm 32 years old and have to have a second child. .....

Secular prejudice, like hanging a clock on our heads all the time, will pop up a villain from the wooden box at a fixed time and point at you and say, it's time to do XX!

This makes us feel that the pace and rhythm of life seems to be completely controlled by age. If we don't do it, another villain will accuse us: Why are you different from others?

The most puzzling thing is, why does aging become a reason for being humiliated? Age is just a number. Is it necessarily related to who you are? Can't a woman pursue beauty and love when she is old? You have to live like a secular rule to be satisfied?

There is only one life, and being afraid or avoiding risks is not an excuse to go with the flow. Those women who live a full and free life simply don't care about other people's gossip. They will always be themselves and live for themselves.

In this regard, Maggie Cheung once said: "It is useless for a woman to be young. Adding things such as taste and dreams is a complete life. "

Therefore, the stage of life is so big that our life should not be copied. There are so many possibilities and so many wonderful adventures that we shouldn't miss them easily, let alone suppress ourselves and make life difficult for others' comments.

If you have the ability, pay for your dreams when you were young, pay for your unfinished goals, pay for a better tomorrow, live a different wonderful life and be your truest self. I believe that at that time, you will not regret turning around and going retrograde, but be glad that you escaped.