In love, there should be only one spare tire, and that is yourself.

Recently, there was an argument about the self-made program "Qi Pa Shuo" by iQiyi. Should there be a spare tire? Through this topic, I want to talk about my own views.

When I was lovelorn for the first time, I couldn't extricate myself, crying to sleep and waking up. At that time, I was also wondering why there was no spare tire that could be topped immediately. During the long empty window, I thought for countless times that it would be nice to have a spare tire. At this time, I can express my emptiness and loneliness by phone, and I can also have someone to accompany me to dinner. I can't dial him every time I pick up my mobile phone, and I don't want to complain to my friends all the time, and I don't want to tell my family, but there is no such thing as a spare tire. It's not that no one wants to listen, just don't want to leave the impression that there is hope for each other.

All rejections, crisp and neat. I don't know if this is good or not, but I just feel that if it is not good, it is a disrespect for each other's feelings. In this way, it is better for everyone to be friends in the future than to drag others away from each other in the end. At that time, the damage was irreparable, and there was no room for the two sides to meet again. Of course, it is also possible, just because I have low emotional intelligence and little charm, and I have no ability to maintain the spare tire.

Now, I still won't keep a spare tire, or simply refuse. After falling out of love, I didn't pour out much everywhere. I chose to digest this sadness and frustration by myself. If we extend the time to a few decades later, what we are experiencing now will not be insurmountable. Looking at it from this angle often will make our hearts struggle out of the quagmire. After all, this time we are not afraid of losing what we love, but we are afraid that there will be no more love.

Slowly, I feel I need to grow up in love. From the experiences of people around us and ourselves, from books, from film and television dramas, and even from the emotional posts of Tianya, we can see that it is wonderful for two people to meet and be together, but only through self-improvement can we obtain and maintain this beauty.

Really, the more independent you are, the more you can get a good impression. Good feelings should be flexible, and an independent and moderate self is the reason to remain flexible. So sometimes I am grateful to Tianya Emotional Post, which makes me happier and more at ease when I am getting older and still single. Because I know that no one can love themselves instead of themselves. Even if 1000 people,1000 people love you, you can't satisfy the emptiness inside. This pit can only be filled by yourself.

I remember reading in a magazine that the columnist said that "every spare tire has a price".

If you know in your heart that so-and-so will still be your choice, then it is difficult to guarantee that you will devote yourself to this choice. Falling in love is a waste of energy. 100% investment can make you 100% happy. There are always two people in my heart. Even if I split it into 28 and 19, this love experience will eventually be discounted. What's more, in most cases, the spare tire is painstakingly maintained, which inevitably takes time and energy. Naturally, I spend less time on "positive pregnancy", which can be said to be a discount to this love. Besides, how sensitive people in love are, can't they see if they don't concentrate? The other party will give you a feedback, don't discount too much.

Now that you know that the person who loves you the most is yourself, even if your lover leaves, it will not deprive you of this love. There is a price for a spare tire, so what is the need to raise a spare tire?

I want a spare tire only because of my confidence in love, not because I can, I am satisfied, but because you see, you don't like me, and naturally someone likes me. Can I say that this is actually vanity and comparison? The tire is flat and you can't continue on the road without a spare tire; A person has walked a long way, and he can walk again in the future. Besides, some cars don't have a spare tire. In case of a flat tire, you can walk dozens of kilometers to the nearest repair shop. People should still have this ability to repair.

Some people will say: I don't want to keep a spare tire, because it is good enough, and some people volunteer to be my spare tire. These are two kinds of problems. Your car has enough tires, except for an emergency one. In case the main tire bursts, you won't be able to drive. You think that's a spare tire, that's a spare tire. Similarly, in love, you regard that person as a last resort, and when he is a spare tire, he is a spare tire. If he insists on waiting for you, it is his insistence on love, but it has nothing to do with you.

In love, as long as you have a spare tire, you are yourself.