What is an incompetent mother?

In children's mind, mother is often the most loving and amiable person, and children always regard mother as the object of learning and imitation. Children are the shadow of their parents, and all good and bad behaviors are learned from their parents, especially from their mothers.

Unfortunately, however, many parents have not noticed this. They always make all kinds of demands on their children, ordering them to do this and not that, but never refuse to correct their words and deeds first.

In life, there are many "sharp-tongued and cruel" mothers. They love their children deeply and take good care of their lives. But when children don't study or listen, they have no tolerance at all, as if they were happy after scolding. They often scold a little too much: "How can there be such a stupid child as you?" Can't do any homework. You are really stupid. So stupid, it is better to die! "After scolding, I lost my breath and took care of the children as before. But she didn't know and never realized how much harm she had caused to the child's mind!

Take criticizing children as an example. I know such a mother who loves her son very much and tries to meet his requirements materially. However, as long as her children don't do well in the exam, they are often scolded, sometimes they are really angry, and they will fight several times. Afterwards, she always thought it was helping the children. However, it turns out that she was wrong. Her son not only failed in school, but also made some bad friends. In the end, he didn't even go to school. He ran around all day and became a real punk.

In fact, everyone is eager for respect, and no one likes to listen to others giving orders to themselves, whether adults or children. Instead of ordering children to learn, it is better to guide them to look at learning correctly and let them fall in love with learning and learn independently.

The most taboo thing in educating children is to give him an order: don't do this, don't do that. The clever way should be: ask him to do something, it goes without saying that he can do it consciously; If he is forbidden to do something, let him consciously not do it. Although it's hard for parents to do. But at the very least, children are not educated by scolding.

It is true that a careless mother who ignores her children is definitely incompetent. But those mothers who spoil their children, indulge them, or rudely adopt the wrong way of education, no matter how much she loves and thinks about them, are also dereliction of duty in my opinion.

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