What can't a husband and wife say when they quarrel?

There is a poisonous tongue in the world, and every word kills the heart. No matter how loving a couple is, it is inevitable that they will quarrel over trifles after marriage. Husband and wife always get along like this. A quarrel, a quarrel, a laugh, a coax. Quarrel is about eloquence. Only one person is willing to "admit defeat" can both sides win.

Today, let's talk about the four most hurtful words when couples quarrel. The third sentence is more cruel than a knife. I hope you didn't say that.

1, "Are you bored?"

Many couples will say this sentence when they quarrel. When this sentence appears, it is usually blurted out when one of them is wrong and the other is chattering. The emotion expressed in this sentence is impatience and anger. When this sentence appears in the communication between two people, the ensuing quarrel is inevitable.

When husband and wife get along, everyone will inevitably make mistakes. It's your first time as a father and her first time as a mother. If it is not a principled mistake that violates the bottom line, please don't cling to it and talk endlessly.

2. "How did you become like this now?"

In most couples' quarrels, women dominate. Maybe when a man says a word, a woman can think of the old things a few months or even years ago and say another laundry list. Men like to talk about it when they quarrel, while women like to chatter when they quarrel. If there is too much bitter water in their stomachs, it is inevitable to pour it down. When women pour bitter water, men often say: How did you become like this?

This sentence is full of man's helplessness and disgust, as if his wife had done something unforgivable, which led to his disappointment. In fact, she has always been like this. What was she like when she married you, and what is she like now? You said she had changed, but didn't you change your mind?

It is easy to change, and it is also easy to change.

3. "If you can pass, you will pass. If you can't pass, leave. "

Think back, when did you start talking about the word "divorce"? When the contradictions in the quarrel can't be reconciled, one party will throw out the topic of divorce to end the quarrel, but I don't know that this is the stupidest thing to do.

If the other person really loves you, then divorce can only make him chilling and make him compromise. You are just using these two words to hurt the people who love you. If the other person doesn't love you, the moment these two words are spoken, everything will be irreparable. Even if you win a quarrel with these two words, you lose the other person's love for you.

4. "If you think so, I can't help it."

In a quarrel, both men and women have their own killer. A woman's killer is: don't you dare kill me! A man's killer is: I can't help it if you think so.

When a man cares about you, he will try his best to make you happy as long as he feels the slight change in your tone. When he doesn't love you, he becomes an annoying mosquito. No matter how sad and angry you are, he doesn't care. I can't help it if you think so. I refuse to explain and comfort. I don't care about all your grievances.

Sometimes, the quarrel between husband and wife is actually a process in which both sides pour out their dissatisfaction and make demands. If you can learn to keep silent and listen when arguing, then this quarrel will end soon. And the four most hurtful words in the quarrel above, I hope you will never say them.