Should you go out to eat with your date for the first time?

Young men and women work and live at the same time, and blind date has become a necessary way to understand the opposite sex. Coupled with the constant urging from parents, it is difficult to think of a blind date. Dating and socializing is inevitable, and so is spending money to socialize. This issue will talk about consumption during blind dates.

Eating may seem simple, but in fact it involves legal relations. There is a food and beverage service contract between the customer and the hotel. Although we can’t see it or touch it, it does connect the claims and debts between customers and hotels. This form of transaction in which both parties do not sign a written contract but perform their respective obligations through actual actions is called a de facto contract. When a restaurant cooks and serves food, it fulfills its contractual obligations. Correspondingly, customers will pay the bill. So, who pays? In the absence of a clear meaning, according to folk custom, whoever treats the guests pays the bill, and whoever orders the food pays the bill.

We can’t see in the video whether they told their boss when they reached an agreement. If they don't have it, the money is considered a debt in the eyes of the boss. Subtext: I don’t care what your relationship is, as long as someone pays the bill. Therefore, the unsuspecting boss has the right to demand that the young man pay the entire amount, and the young man will then recover half of the money from the girl.

Dating is still in the stage of tentative contact between men and women. If you follow tradition (listen to your mother), you will always get an active invitation from the man, while the woman will be more reserved and passive. Just like what is written in the ancient poem "Guan Ju", "Choose left and right. My beautiful lady, friend of the piano and harp." From a material point of view, the man's treat will inevitably suffer.

Treat: A typical manifestation of friendship behavior, one party gives a favor and the other party enjoys the benefits for free. The purpose is to establish, maintain, and enhance friendships with others by inflicting harm on them. An act of friendship is different from a civil act that actively pursues legal effect. Both parties have no intention of establishing a legal relationship or being bound by the law, which means there is less rationality and seriousness under the legal framework, but more emotional romance in the interpersonal relationship. AA system: On the occasion of mutual consumption, everyone shares their own expenses, each other is only responsible for themselves, does not owe each other, feels at ease, and maintains financial independence and personal self-esteem.

Western countries have a long tradition of AA system, which is closely related to the geographical discovery and the development of maritime trade. Explorers, merchants, sailors, and pirates were all very mobile, traveling to different areas all day long and finally staying ashore for a few days. The most pleasant pastime is to find a pub and have fun. Several strangers meet by chance, but they may never see each other again in their lifetime. In order not to suffer losses, the AA system came into being. It is not only a microcosm of the Great Ocean Age, but also a vivid embodiment of the Western legal tradition of "private property is sacred and inviolable".

When it comes to blind dates in China, AA consumption seems to be unpopular. Talking about money hurts feelings. Macho men say talking about money hurts face. It’s not just about a meal. How can a man make a woman look down on him? Some girls have already acquiesced in the unspoken social rules that women are superior to men, and think that it is enough if you are willing to come out. The ultimate goal of courtship is destined to be unequal in the relationship between men and women in blind dates. It is really difficult to pursue fairness in consumption. When a boy meets a girl who takes the initiative, he must cherish it.