How to improve a person's EQ?

In school, IQ may be more important than EQ, but in society, EQ must be more important than IQ, unless your IQ is too high to be ignored. People with high emotional intelligence are good at being masters of emotions and can have a more harmonious mind and harmonious interpersonal relationships.

Let's talk about the performance of high emotional intelligence, which roughly includes these aspects:

Maintain respect and patience for people you know;

When quarreling with someone you care about, the words that can make TA completely collapse are on the tip of your tongue, but you can't hold back; When I am in the worst mood, I will still eat on time, add clothes and still love myself;

No matter how good the relationship is, you can't directly say the shortcomings of the other party, especially in front of others;

Control the situation, leave room for the future, tolerate others and restrain yourself;

Understand that nothing is taken for granted, friendship, affection and love should be managed and maintained with care;

Can distinguish between occasions, don't joke, say appropriate words, when breaking up is a foregone conclusion, say goodbye calmly and stop contacting;

When you speak, make others feel comfortable, know how to listen, and are not self-centered.

So how do we do this? Today, I will share with you eight effective ways to improve emotional intelligence.

First, speak in a caring and self-blaming tone, blaming yourself first and then blaming yourself.

When you encounter a problem, don't blame others first, put the blame on others. But to find problems from yourself and talk to others in a caring tone, so as to get along well. Especially as a superior leader, this should be done, rather than blindly blaming others.

Second, do something, and never make excuses.

When encountering a problem, the solution is like the key to the door. You can open the door as long as you have the key. As long as you have a method, you can solve the problem. Don't keep your mouth shut, that is, blame others first, which makes you look particularly irresponsible and low. A person who can only make excuses has low emotional intelligence and IQ.

Third, listen attentively and don't interrupt others.

Knowing how to listen is a particularly good habit. Listening carefully to others and not interrupting them is the minimum respect for others. Knowing respect will win more applause. In a group of people, often the most silent person is the most capable.

Fourth, never say impossible.

Saying doesn't mean you are incompetent, it's a sign of cowardice. Everything depends on people. As long as you do it, you can certainly do it. If you give in to something, you feel that you can't do it, which is also a sign of low emotional intelligence.

5. Praise others consciously and sincerely for more than three times a day.

Praising others is a virtue. Praise is not perfunctory, not exaggerated, but heartfelt praise, and it is also an ability to discover the beauty of others. Maybe some people really don't have any advantages, but you can also praise them through one or two small things.

6. Always smile at others.

Smile is the most beautiful language, and a person who smiles all the time will give a good impression. Of course, your smile is from the heart, not a fake smile. And a smile can infect everyone. Your smile will affect the people around you. Smiling at others is the best recognition for others. Never forget to smile at others at any time.

Seven, remind yourself to record inspiration at any time.

Knowing how to take notes is a very useful ability. Keep a diary and write essays. When you are alone, you can improve your emotional intelligence and make your life better.

Eight, plan everything in advance, try to visualize the goal.

Emotional intelligence is reflected in many aspects, not only in words and deeds, but also in your attitude towards things. If you have a goal, you won't get lost and life won't be bad. Don't be a lost eagle.

Ok, that's all for this issue. what do you think? Welcome to leave comments, likes and forwards at the bottom of the article. The content of this article was written by Bian Xiao himself, and the pictures came from the Internet. If there are similarities, it is purely coincidental!