To my mother-in-law: Don't always consume your daughter-in-law's kindness. If you treat her badly, you will be returned to the old man. Why?

It has been like this since ancient times: raising children to prevent old age.

No parents regard having children as "playing games". Although they regard children as the continuation of their own lives, they also regard children as the crystallization of love in marriage.

But they also have a little "selfishness", that is, they will raise their children without fear of difficulties and hope to support themselves when they are old.

Many people can do their best to support the elderly, but only a few people will make us look contemptuous.

However, on the issue of providing for the elderly, some paranoid parents will be reluctant to give their children trouble, because they feel that their children are their own, and they will feel distressed if they are embarrassed. Therefore, they focus on their daughter-in-law or son-in-law. They think that a daughter-in-law marries her son to take care of his food, clothing, housing and transportation. Of course, it is reasonable to take care of yourself by the way.

As for the son-in-law, they think that they have worked hard to raise a good wife for each other, and the other party should be better to themselves. I don't know what you have to say about this paranoid idea.

In fact, Xiaobei does not support this idea. I think it is sons or daughters who should try their best to support their parents, not daughter-in-law or son-in-law. Although both the daughter-in-law and the son-in-law are partly responsible, more is still on the children.

As we say, "it is the duty of a mother-in-law to help her children, and it is the duty not to help them." Daughter-in-law and son-in-law can do their best in mutual affection, but they are not qualified to ask others to fulfill their obligations.

What's more, there are some old people. Good things always think of their children, whether they are sons or daughters, and bad things always think of daughter-in-law or son-in-law. Nannan is thirty-eight years old and has been married to her husband for ten years.

At first, Nannan really didn't live with her in-laws. When they first got married, Nannan was a city girl and didn't want to go back to the countryside with her husband. Nannan's husband grew up in the countryside and never went to college. However, he is also a craftsman. He can repair cars. After knowing Nannan, he stayed in the city to work.

However, Nannan's husband's family is in poor condition, so it is definitely impossible to expect his husband's family to buy a house for themselves when they get married. Fortunately, Nannan is an only child, so when they got married, they lived in the house bought by their parents.

But I don't live with my parents, because Nannan's parents have two houses. Nannan also has a sister-in-law. In the second year of Nannan's marriage, her sister-in-law also got married. It's also because sister-in-law and in-laws don't get along well. After only half a year of marriage, the young couple actually moved back to their parents' home.

Nannan doesn't care about this. She doesn't live with her in-laws anyway. If they want to live with her sister-in-law, she's fine with it.

After Nannan got married, her husband worked in a garage. Although very tired, but the salary is very high, and Nannan works in a clothing store. It's no problem for two people to make money.

When they got married, they never had children. After three or four years of marriage, Nannan finally got pregnant, so she stopped going out to work and took care of the baby at home. Nannan stayed at home to take care of the child until it was born. Husband doesn't earn enough money, Nannan's parents can make up for it.

Originally, Nannan didn't consider her mother-in-law's pension. Her father-in-law died three years ago and her mother-in-law still lives with her sister-in-law.

Later that winter, my mother-in-law had a backache. At that time, my sister-in-law called Nannan's husband and said that her mother would live in the city. After all, the living environment in cities is much better than that in rural areas.

At that time, she said she would spend the winter, but Nannan didn't say anything. Her mother-in-law got it and didn't go again.

The reason is that my mother-in-law is coming. In less than half a year, she had a stroke in a few years. The first attack was particularly serious. Although she is not paralyzed, she can't take care of herself completely.

This disease, sister-in-law said that the rural environment is not suitable for her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law subjectively does not want to go back to the countryside. Seeing her husband means leaving her mother-in-law. Nannan didn't want to, but looking at her mother-in-law's illness, she couldn't open her mouth and wanted to get rid of her mother-in-law.

After all, the husband has to work to support his family, and the family can't afford a nanny. The burden of taking care of her mother-in-law falls on Nan Nan.

Although I don't want to take care of my mother-in-law, I have to say that Nannan takes good care of her mother-in-law.

In fact, my mother-in-law is usually mean. Nannan takes care of her, but she is always in a bad mood. If Nannan wipes her body, she will either throw away cold water or hot water. Nannan cooks, either the food is not delicious or the oil is too big.

Nannan was not happy to hear these words, but she didn't care too much when she thought that her mother-in-law was a patient.

Nannan usually doesn't vent to her mother-in-law when she is emotional. The doctor also told her family that her mother-in-law was afraid of getting angry in a hurry, so Nannan really didn't dare to provoke her mother-in-law, especially now, because she had been paralyzed several times.

After all, Nannan is a kind girl. Even if I am not satisfied with my mother-in-law, I have been taking care of her wholeheartedly. Usually if my sister-in-law visits her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will never let her take care of her.

If aunt does something for her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law is unhappy, she must take care of Nannan. Regarding the performance of her mother-in-law, her husband and sister-in-law explained that her mother-in-law recognized Nan Nan and her mother-in-law adapted to Nan Nan's care.

The thought of this, nan nan's heart, even some pride.

But just a few days ago, my sister-in-law went home again. Seeing her sister-in-law coming, Nannan went out to buy food. Nannan went to the vegetable market to buy many dishes that her sister-in-law likes to eat, as well as dishes for her mother-in-law. But when she came back, she heard something she shouldn't have heard.

When I came back, my sister-in-law was massaging her mother-in-law. My sister-in-law asked her mother-in-law, "Mom, I'll take care of you. Is taking care of you really better than my sister-in-law? "

At this time, her mother-in-law said, "Girl, my mother loves you dearly. You are my mother's daughter. How can my mother let you wait on her? " Your sister-in-law is different. She usually has nothing to do at home. She is counting on your brother to make money. If she spends my son's money, she should take care of me. "

Nannan listened to her mother-in-law's words, and on impulse, she dropped all the dishes she bought.

Then, she rushed into the bedroom and saw Nannan come back. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law were dumbfounded. Then just as my sister-in-law wanted to explain something, Nannan grabbed it.

Nannan said directly to her mother-in-law: "I won't care about you anyway." I spent your son's money, as it should be. He is my husband, my son's father, and the money he earned should be given to me. Besides, the house you live in is mine. "

This time, Nannan completely ignored her mother-in-law's feelings and said whatever she wanted. She felt very happy in her heart.

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In fact, people should learn to take care of each other. In theory, Nannan did a good job. As a mother-in-law, she always feels that she has no obligation to help her daughter-in-law. On the other hand, since she has never raised a daughter-in-law, why should she expect others to take care of you?

If your daughter-in-law really takes care of you, you should be grateful, not feel that you deserve others to suffer.

As for what Nannan does, I think her mother-in-law should bear it.

In fact, even if her mother-in-law is not ill, if she keeps treating Nannan like this, although Nannan will be patient and accommodating, there may still be some "enemies" coming back to find her when she is old.

Therefore, here we should advise those mothers-in-law who don't know how to cherish their daughter-in-law: don't always consume their daughter-in-law's goodness.

Of course, for those mother-in-law who always treat their daughter-in-law as an outsider, I also want to persuade her: don't always treat her daughter-in-law as an outsider. You are not good to her, why should you expect others to be good to you?

Nannan is a good daughter-in-law, but her kindness has not been rewarded.

Some mother-in-law may feel that the daughter-in-law should not "retaliate" herself like this, as long as she does not obey, she is unfilial.

You have to understand that you have never had a family. What's more, some daughters-in-law can even treat their biological parents equally, but some paranoid in-laws don't know how to cherish them.

There are also some daughter-in-law who have no good ideas in their hearts, so they must treat their mother-in-law who is kind to you well.

As the saying goes, leave a message and see you later.

Therefore, I hope all the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be kind to each other!