In Su Jin, what do women say that men just want to hear?

To be obedient, one must first learn to speak. In normal life, you should not be temperamental, you should use your brain and mind, and the most important thing is to control your mouth. The following is some information I have compiled about what women say and how men like to hear, for your reference.

Men love what women say (1)

Women's speaking skills: in marriage, a talking woman will never lose her marriage.

Poor communication is the most destructive cold violence in marriage.

A wife told me that she and her husband couldn't go on, and their marriage was over.

I asked: Why?

She said: We quarrel every day.

I asked: Is he quarreling with you?

Answer: Noisy, he won't let me at all. This is what bothers me.

I said your marriage is still full of vitality, far from dying. If one day you don't even bother to quarrel, it's really dead.

Although quarreling affects the feelings of husband and wife and is not good for maintaining marriage, its lethality is dwarfed by lack of communication. As long as two people are still talking, there is still room for marriage to be redeemed, and when two people are silent and ignore each other, there is no room for marriage to be redeemed.

Nowadays, with the improvement of people's cultural and educational level, physical domestic violence is less and less, but cold violence is increasing day by day, among which poor communication between husband and wife is the most destructive domestic cold violence.

Marriage should be happy and sweet, but sometimes it is not as happy as imagined. Two people who were very much in love before marriage seemed to have endless words when they met; When you can't meet, you can talk for hours unconsciously by picking up the phone. But once you step into the marriage hall, as the days go by, in the symphony of pots and pans, the two people who were inseparable gradually lost their words, and the warmth and romance of the past also went with them, all because of poor communication or poor communication between married couples.

28-year-old Shanshan works in a street office, and her husband works in a large enterprise with good welfare. The fly in the ointment is that her husband often has to work at night. Often she has to go to work, and her husband just got back from work. She hasn't left work yet, and her husband has gone to work. This often makes Shanshan feel lonely at home. After a year of marriage, they have a lovely son. The birth of a son makes the originally dull world of two people suddenly lively. The husband loves the child very much and tries his best to take care of her, but compared with before marriage, the communication between them is less and less, and it seems that they are always busy with their own affairs.

? Let's talk about it tonight! ? Let's talk tomorrow! Whenever Shanshan wants to talk to her husband about her heart and lesbian family, her husband always treats her like this. Even when I want to talk to my husband more at dinner, my husband will say with no interest: Oh, let's talk after dinner! ? But after dinner, I don't know what to do. The topic I want to talk about on a whim is stranded, which always turns her kindness from sunny to cloudy.

In this way, the young couple who have just been married for more than a year have less and less language. Gradually, home has become a rest inn, just a place where you can stay when you are tired and sleepy. She doesn't understand. They had a good relationship before they got married and talked about everything. What's the matter?

? If you do this again, we'll get a divorce! ? Finally, their contradiction is on the husband again? Tomorrow? When it broke out. Shanshan's words surprised her husband and made him sad. As a husband, he feels that he loves his wife and his family. He doesn't understand why his wife divorced him for a trivial matter. ? We have to go to work separately, pay off the mortgage, take care of the sick old people and share the housework together? I am also working hard for this family. What did I do badly? Shanshan's husband is full of grievances.

Shanshan no longer has any hope for their marriage. She said that this suffocating atmosphere made her life worse than death, and she didn't want to continue this life.

Like the Shanshan couple's marriage, there are many seemingly uncontroversial families around us, and many quiet and friendly birds dissolve automatically, all because of poor communication. There are many reasons for this. For example, like Shanshan and her husband, the difference in working hours between husband and wife leads to a decrease in communication opportunities between them. In addition, differences in personality and interest value orientation will also occur between husband and wife? Nothing to say? Situation. Because there are few topics, they don't like communication. The less they love to communicate, the more alienated they are, which eventually leads to cracks in their feelings. This situation is very likely to happen between couples with great differences in working environment, family background and cultural literacy.

Although the communication between husband and wife after marriage is less and less an objective law, it will also be replaced by pots and pans. Especially after the birth of a child, not only the pace of life is chaotic, but also the quality of life is seriously reduced. However, as long as two people have a sense of communication, reasonably divide housework, pay attention to sharing their hearts, actively communicate and create a happy and happy marriage life, it is not a problem.

It should be pointed out that you should never analyze your spouse's inner world from a rational perspective. Not with? Strange, why do you have this idea? Or? You think this is wrong? , but use? Is that what you think? Get to know each other. Don't talk about right and wrong, right and wrong, but focus on understanding, listening and accepting. If you form this habit, over time, there will be endless words between husband and wife.

Couples can only feel happiness, love, security and intimacy by taking the initiative to pour out their feelings to their lovers and listening to their feelings carefully, and jointly create a happy marriage.

Women say, men love to hear (2)

Female speaking skills: being able to talk is a good sweetheart.

Nietzsche said: If you want to date a woman, please hold the whip in your hand.

I said: Do you want men to listen to you? Please pay attention to your language and tone.

Any woman who marries by playing music dreams that God can give herself a man who is good at home, obedient to a certain extent, and nourished when living with such a man.

However, whether a man behaves well depends entirely on whether a woman can speak. If you are a woman who can't talk, even if your man is very talented, you will force him to resist. If you are a talking woman, even if your man is stubborn by nature, he will become useful to you.

You don't believe me, do you? Then I will play back two tragic comedies of family scenes for you:

Situation: My wife came back from work and saw her husband cooking at home. She only made a braised pork ribs, but there was no dish, and her wife was not satisfied. But they are not satisfied either. Please look at the difference between talking and not talking. Family sitcom: talking wife and obedient husband;

Honey, is the braised pork ribs I cooked today delicious?

Wife: Honey, it's delicious. If you can match some vegetables, you will be a master of state banquet!

Husband: Honey, I'll do it now.

The end: the wife is waiting sweetly, and the husband is busy happily in the kitchen.

Tragedy of family scene: a wife who can't talk and a disobedient husband

Husband: Wife, is the braised pork ribs I made delicious today?

Wife: Nothing else?

Husband: It's gone.

Wife: Can't you make a green vegetable to go with it? How greasy the ribs are! You only eat meat, laity!

Husband: I've always been an amateur. Didn't you see it at first? Do you have to find me

The end: the wife was so angry that she lifted the table and the husband was so angry that he hit her.

If the family is compared to a company, the layout we women yearn for is undoubtedly like this: we are bosses and men are employees. Employees should listen to their boss, and my boss has risen and fallen.

However, no boss is completely satisfied with his employees. Some of them do not know much about nutrition when cooking. Make the home hygiene in a mess, don't know to take the initiative to clean up; Washing dishes is not clean; Clothes are not sorted, aired and ironed; Don't put the used things back; I don't know how expensive it is to buy gifts than to shop around. Forget the anniversary, lack of romantic expression?

In this case, bosses feel strikingly similar: dissatisfaction, anger and resentment. When most women feel desperate in marriage, according to their different personalities, they can be divided into two basic types: moaning and complaining and roaring and shrewish.

Resentment type: endless complaints day and night, although this kind of complaint is invalid, but they never tire of it. The result is that the more women complain, the more men resist. Bad relationship.

Bitch type: yelling at men, swearing, hurting each other, and even punching each other like a mother lecturing her children. The result is that the crazier a woman is, the more arrogant a man is. Both lose.

Both types of performance are not good. As we all know, an employee who is always picked on by his boss will resign because he feels hopeless in the future. Similarly, a husband who is always criticized and complained by his wife will be disappointed and sad because his self-esteem is hurt and his feelings are frustrated. No one wants to be blamed all day, especially those closest to him.

Therefore, the original fresh love died not in complaining, but suddenly in shouting.

When long-term insistence on the above two behaviors doesn't work, the dissatisfied wife and the shrew are unified into the same line: keep silent and refuse to communicate.

But this is not appropriate. There is a famous saying in the American infantry manual: you can't attack a bunker, but you have to take risks to get results. In marriage and love life, the same is true of the game between men and women. On the one hand, women want men's love, on the other hand, they defend themselves watertight. Sorry, men don't have fetishes.

So, what should we do?

Please remember: if a man wants to be obedient, he must first learn to speak. In normal life, you should not be temperamental, you should use your brain and mind, and the most important thing is to control your mouth.

A clever woman can always mobilize a man's initiative to build a marriage with appropriate expressions and listening language, so that he can be a soldier willingly, obey her orders and serve her like a princess.

As a woman, maybe you don't have an impressive appearance, maybe you don't have amazing talent, maybe you don't have enough luck to hunt for the right man, but you don't have to worry about it. You can change your destiny with your mouth through the practice of your heart.