How to get rid of the habit of lying

When children are found lying, most parents will fly into a rage and beat and scold them, but this is not the solution, not to scold the children, but to improve the situation of lying. Parents can learn from the following practices:

(1) Set an example and be honest with others

Parents are the first teachers of their children, and their children's imitation ability is very strong. Adults may think that they are nothing when they tell lies, which may become a model for children to lie. If someone calls his father and he doesn't want to listen, ask the child to tell him that "Dad is not at home". In order to let the children finish their homework carefully, mother casually said that she would take you to the park to play after the completion. As a result, after the children finished their homework with great interest, mother said that she was not available and would not go. After children are exposed to it, they will gradually get into the habit of lying Perhaps parents don't realize that the initial reason why children lie is mostly on their parents. Many studies have shown that children's bad qualities are gradually cultivated by parents who break their promises. If parents want to cultivate their children's honesty and trustworthiness, they must never lie in front of their children. It is immoral and harmful to others to teach their children to be dishonest under any circumstances. Parents should encourage and reward their children's honesty in time, so that their children can become a person who treats others with sincerity!

(2) Respect and understand children

Parents should strive to create a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere and respect their children's reasonable privacy. Children's feasible opinions can be adopted in life and study. If they object, they should patiently explain the reasons, so that children can realize their parents' trust in them and treat their parents as friends. If there are problems that they can't figure out in the future, children will take the initiative to discuss and solve them with their parents. Some parents may think that their children are raised by themselves, and they are still so young. What other opinions can be made? Is there anything to hide? Therefore, I arranged everything by myself, and I didn't < P > discuss with my children or ask for their opinions, which would weaken my children's self-confidence and seriously hurt my children's self-esteem. In order to avoid unfair treatment by my parents again, my children had to choose to lie.

As the saying goes, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black if you are near Mexico." Parents can usually get to know their children's friends by talking with their children and teachers, observing their children's activities and ideological trends, and inviting their friends to play at home. As children grow up, their friends will have more and more influence on them, and the "Three Movements to Meng Mu" is a good inspiration. Therefore, parents should put forward appropriate suggestions for their children to make friends, but they should never criticize them subjectively, so as to avoid the children's rebellious psychology being counterproductive. If a child's friend is found to have bad behavior, such as lying or stealing, he should try to separate the child from his friend in time; Can communicate with teachers and guide them; Pick up and drop off children on time for a period of time; Introduce some good new friends to children; Tell more relevant stories and take the opportunity to carry out ideological education.

(3) Follow the lead and prescribe the right medicine

Once a child is found to be lying, parents should not go on the rampage, force the child to confess, or severely criticize or punish him. Kinat, a British psychologist, once said, "Lying is a psychological relief for children who are reprimanded for telling the truth." Implementing domestic violence will only be counterproductive, making children go from one extreme to the other, and continuing to choose to lie in order to protect themselves from harm. Parents should not even know that their children are lying, but they don't stop it because it is a trivial matter. Instead, they find it interesting. This attitude will only strengthen their children's lying behavior.