How to get rid of the downturn?

Share 6 ways to stop internal friction, so that you can get rid of mental bondage and get out of the downturn.

1 When you can't figure it out, change your mind.

I once read a story. Russian athlete Isinbayeva, known as the "Queen of Pole Vault", originally studied gymnastics. But with the growth of age, her height is getting higher and higher, and finally exceeds the standard of gymnasts. During that time, she suffered from insomnia every day, was depressed all day, and even thought about retiring in despair. Later, once, she went to the training hall and saw the pole vaulter training. Her eyes lit up and swept away her previous fatigue: I can learn pole vault instead of gymnastics. So Isinbayeva gave up gymnastics for 10 and went to learn pole vault instead.

Unexpectedly, this change not only eased her anxiety, but also made her set a new world record for women's pole vault in later competitions and became the world-famous pole vault queen.

Many times, we are all limited by our own way of thinking, thinking that the present predicament is desperate, and we are often anxious about it. But in fact, as long as we look at it from another angle, the original thorny problem may be solved.

I like a sentence very much: "only those who can't figure it out, there is no road that can't be taken."

If you can't see the way out when you encounter tangled things, you might as well change your mind and often have a bright future.

2 reduce excessive sensitivity and reduce mental burden.

There is a question and answer in Zhihu: "What is an oversensitive person?"

A high praise replied: "The outside world may be just an ordinary party and chat, but sensitive people have staged a series of ups and downs."

Some netizens once shared one of their own stories. Once when they went out to take a taxi, they closed the door too hard after getting on the bus and made a "bang". The driver turned around and stared at her, so she was always nervous for the rest of the trip. Whenever the car turns sharply, she thinks the driver is taking the opportunity to lose his temper. It was not until the driver enthusiastically helped her take out her luggage when she got off the bus that she found herself thinking too much.

There is a saying in Ordinary World:

"If you don't give yourself trouble, others will never give you trouble."

In life, most mental internal friction is caused by thinking too much. It's obviously a casual look from others. Obviously, this is a very simple question, and we must worry about it and guess at random. When a person falls into endless reverie, it is easy to have mental fatigue. As the saying goes: nothing is difficult in the world, but it is impossible for a willing mind. Only by giving up sensitivity, thinking bigger and thinking less can a person live freely.

Allocate time reasonably and focus on the right place.

I saw a short film on Saturday before: On Saturday morning, after getting up, men began to think about today's punch list. In his mind, he kept trying to think about what he would do today. Later, I have to wash dishes, wash clothes, pay bills, clean the bathroom, throw garbage, call my mother … and then find something interesting to do in the evening. Seeing so many things to do, he has been thinking about which one to start with. In this way, in his entanglement, the days passed quickly. On this day, he did nothing, but he felt exhausted. Without a reasonable time allocation, we are easily consumed by countless trivial matters and trapped in a square inch by our inner entanglements. In the end, things were not done, and time and energy were wasted.

When you feel that there are too many things to do, you might as well make a list of tasks for yourself in order of priority. Only concentrate on the most urgent and important things, solve the big things first, and then deal with the small things. Life can be orderly and the mood can be better and better.

What do you want to do, act at once.

Li Yanhong once said in his speech: "Too many young people think of thousands of roads at night and get up in the morning to take the original road." If you think too much and do too little, life will naturally be more troublesome. Many years ago, in an American newspaper, there was a young reporter Jones. Once, his boss asked him to make an appointment with Judge brandes. Jones thought he was just a nobody with little experience. The other party is a judge, and he may not take care of himself at all. At the thought of not finishing the task, he panicked, his face began to sweat, and the whole person was inexplicably nervous. He told his boss his worries with trepidation. The boss glanced at him, picked up the receiver and dialed the other party's phone: "hello, I'm Jones, a reporter from the Star." I was ordered to interview Judge brandes. I wonder when he will be free today? " Soon, a voice came from the other end of the phone: "1 pm 15, please arrive on time." After hearing this, Jones froze in place. He never imagined that the situation was so simple. Many times, before we do something, we will worry too much and guess the possible problems. As we all know, coyness will become the biggest obstacle to our actions, which will make us constantly consume our minds.

There is a good saying: when you are ready to act, it is better to act at once. When you are hesitating and struggling, don't think too much, do it first. All imaginary tragedies will collapse in action.

Accept yourself and don't have to compare with others.

Smith, an English writer, recorded the story of a lawyer in The Bad Things in Our Heart. Once, he got together with an old classmate. After meeting, he found that the other party was not only happy in his family, but also successful in his career, with more hair than him. During the whole party, the old classmates talked and laughed, but he fell into a deep sense of loss and frustration: "I was obviously better than him when I was a child." How can he surpass me in the blink of an eye and mix more successfully than me? " Even when I feel that I am not as good as the other party now, I secretly resent the injustice of this world: "Why can others live a happy and moist life, but I live like this?" After returning home, his heart is still bitter, and he looks sad and unhappy all day.

Before long, his career also began to decline, and his days went from bad to worse.