What should I do if my mother has no opinion, no confidence, and is vain?

When I saw this message, my mind went blank.

If a young friend of the same age encounters this problem, I will definitely analyze it with her from many angles and come up with a solution. But my mother is something I have never encountered before.

In fact, I have never encountered a situation where my own mother was lackadaisical, self-confident and vain.

My mother has never been opinionated, unsure or vain.

Perhaps from another perspective, she has never had the opportunity to be unassertive, self-confident and vain.

My mother is a very ordinary rural woman, the kind who grabs a lot of money in rural China.

Of course they discuss many things with each other before coming to a conclusion.

Lack of self-confidence and vanity seem to have never been found in her, and she never seems to have such a noble sense of fashion.

She never compares with others in food, drink and clothing.

When I was a child, my family’s economic conditions were not very good. She and her father were buried in the fields all day long, leaving early and returning late. Other parents of the same age were playing cards, playing mahjong, and gambling in the store. They ate a lot of snacks from morning to night. I don’t know how happy they were.

My mother said that she never felt that poverty and hard work were humble and shameful things. On the contrary, she felt that those who did nothing all day long and indulged in mahjong, playing cards, and gambling were the most shameful people. They not only had bad habits, but also did not think about future generations. And, is it useful to dress yourself nicely? My own child has no books to study all day, and wanders around the village all day, either stealing things from this house or this house, following his parents, learning to eat, drink and gamble. No matter how old or worn out my mother's clothes are, as long as she can save money to send us two siblings to school and make us successful, no matter how hard or tired she is, it will be worth it.

So, I never know how to play cards, mahjong or drink. This is due to the education of my parents.

Now, I am about to graduate from college. My younger brother is working in a state-owned enterprise. We have built a building and bought a car at home. Those who laughed at their parents back then had a lot of gambling debts. The children had no intention of studying and went out to work early. Some even went to jail for petty theft.

Facts prove how far-sighted my parents are.

In fact, it is not easy for my best friend’s mother. She has been divorced for many years and has never remarried because of her best friend. It is understandable that she has no opinion and self-confidence and is vain.

It is not easy for mothers all over the world. When we were young, our mother built up our confidence and taught us to be independent and not to compare ourselves with others. When we grow up, we should also support our mother along the way.