? Do you swear?

In an experience class of mind coach, Alen, the sales director from a company, used his work pressure and anger as an excuse to say that the people in his company's marketing department were "dead" and hinted that his boss was SB, because only SB would let such "dead" mix in the company! What is this boss who is not an idiot? In our daily life, we can't help saying such dirty words as Cao and shit. Did you show similar complaints and anger? Swearing is the satisfaction of attacking desire. Our society is becoming more and more elite. People are trying to get close to the elite in all aspects, such as dress, words and deeds. It seems that only reserved and elegant people can be trusted. In the process of catching up with elite culture, elites, or quasi-elites and those of us who are destined to become elites, as human instinct, are suppressed layer by layer. This includes Freud's attack instinct. From this point of view, it is easy to understand that swearing is to satisfy those repressed attack desires. In this regard, American psychologist and swearing expert Dimonser? Jay explained: "Curse is the primitive instinct of human beings, even the painkiller of human soul, because curse can set our brains free."

The more depressed you are, the more you need to vent immediately. Among the ways we can vent, swearing is undoubtedly the simplest, quickest and most direct choice. If you want to vent, you have to have an exit. In fact, people have been making full use of their exits to express their attacks: glaring, revealing anger and resentment through their eyes; Others like to spit on people, and the same is true. "I admit that sometimes I swear intentionally on some occasions," Rona, a teacher, described herself as follows: "At other times, I try my best to stop swearing from coming out of my mouth. I've had enough in front of students! Some people think I'm being cool. The fact is that only swearing can make me feel real at some point. " Swearing also has its own unique function. We have to admit, sometimes we really want to hit some people. But in fact, most of the time you haven't touched them, and at most you just scold them and get out of here-most of the time you scold them behind their backs. At this point, these dirty words replace your fist. Because swearing itself has a lot of dirty and violent meanings, and when people think of swearing, the following words must be negative words such as bottom, grumpy and dangerous. Beating a person is to make the other person suffer, so isn't it also a purpose to hurt him/her and make him/her suffer by sending him/her bad words as negative and dirty information (even if he/she talks to himself, the subconscious will think so)? Thus, through the venting of curses, the desire to hit people disappeared. So everything is beneficial, including swearing, otherwise people would have died in constant fighting. In addition, in some special occasions, swearing can help us integrate into the group more quickly. If a group of friends invite you to a party and everyone present is smoking, it's hard for you not to smoke, even if you really hate smoking. Similarly, when everyone is swearing, if you are alone, it will be a bit different, because a dirty word with shit can't be said in a "decent occasion". Once you also expose swearing, it immediately means that you are "one of us" and the dialogue between you is "our dialogue". Therefore, the psychological gap between friends is instantly leveled, and a relaxed and happy atmosphere is immediately formed. Do women swear less than men? In the absence of any empirical support, gender is the factor that determines how much swearing to say. American linguist Thomas? After recording the conversations of 4,000 male and female students, Murray found that the proportion of time when swearing came out of their mouths was the same for both men and women. In fact, the idea that women don't swear in our minds only comes from the image of women who shuttle through the office and have received higher education. In some remote rural areas, women who are not * * * can swear across the street, and their proficiency in using swearing often makes men stunned and have to give up. Most modern women try to control their words and deeds in public, which is mainly influenced by social education. Usually, the public is more tolerant of men who swear, thinking that they are informal and even masculine. If women swear in public, they have to bear much higher pressure than men and need more courage to face the evaluation and vision of people around them.

This may be because men are naturally more active in sexual activities, and sex itself is offensive to men. Therefore, many swearing words against women come out of men's mouths, which means more and stronger attacks. Because of women's accepting role in sexual activities, sex itself makes women think that offensive color is weaker than that of men, so swearing is relatively seldom used by women in general. Nowadays, the lethality of swearing is fading day by day-many people swear just to be fashionable and "cool", and many swearing words are even less than one tenth of what they were 20 years ago. For example, the word "fuck" has basically evolved into a modal particle, which can be used to express "surprise", "sigh", "joy" and "sadness" in any case where no suitable words can be found to express feelings. In fact, swearing is a word that can be given any meaning at any time, because everyone can swear, everyone has their own understanding, and their understanding can be understood by others. There is a plot in the movie Sunny Days: Ma Xiaojun happened to see the history teacher using a telescope to go to the toilet. His lines were only "I am Cao" and he said it six times before and after. Every time it comes out of his mouth, the tone, stress and long and short sounds are different, but it is more exciting than more languages, because the audience can understand the emotional and psychological changes of the role. If you swear, it's basically not dirty. There is even a clothing brand that simply uses "FCUK" because the company's name is French Connection United Kingdom (literally translated as "French-British Union"). People who name names are purely intentional, but when you appear in front of everyone in this company's clothes, will the insider have a disgusting reaction besides smiling?

Therefore, swearing should be based on different occasions and opportunities, and occasionally expressing it is also beneficial to physical and mental health.