Any festival has nothing to do with me. Tell me (all festivals have nothing to do with you)

No one will get married because of a quarrel. The two people who decide to get married are either deeply in love or deeply in love. A deeply loved marriage will be exhausted or regretted with the ups and downs of feelings, and the deeply loved feelings will enter the heart and lungs, which is difficult to change easily and easy to grow old together.

The relationship between husband and wife is free and natural, and the relationship between husband and wife is artificial. A person's behavior permeates his heart, and his feelings are not based on promises, but on trivial matters.

Feelings are like two people drinking a pot of wine. If a person wants to leave, a person will not be so embarrassed. Life is not long, so it is better to let go early and be happy with each other than pestering and losing. When couples are destined, they often have the following three performances.

? No matter what the other party did, they ignored a message from Fan Xiaoping (a pseudonym) that she felt old. The whole person seems to have lost his heart, is no longer interested in anything, and has lost special joy, excitement and sadness. The whole person is like a stake, standing motionless in life.

Xiaoping was originally a lively and cheerful personality. After only three years of marriage, she became what she describes now. Xiaoping talked with her husband for four years before marriage, and they were never calm together. There are always endless words, even if they are all nonsense. However, after her husband's career was frustrated in the first year of marriage, her temperament changed greatly, and the pressure of life made her a little impatient. After they quarreled several times, the cold war began.

After having children, women's social role has changed and their mentality has gradually changed. Xiaoping has taken most of her experiences out to look after the children, and she is no longer as considerate to her husband as before, and she is also very calm in the face of the so-called cold war.

Later, she found that her husband seemed to be distracted by something, not work, but feelings. After discovering the clue, it did not take timely measures, but closed itself. Until now, she didn't know whether it was a misunderstanding or everything really changed with her husband.

? Her changes are eating away at her old feelings. Xiaoping said that even if her husband filed for divorce now, she would not be heartbroken and even had some expectations. Such ignorance and indifference made her clearly understand that she had unilaterally ended with her husband and wife.

I just don't know if my husband is equally indifferent, waiting for her to say goodbye.

In fact, marriage is not afraid of noise, but of peace beyond common sense. People who are always clamoring for divorce have been arguing all their lives. They still have each other in their hearts, so they are jealous and in love with each other, and those partners who are quiet enough to ignore whatever the other party has done are actually doomed in their hearts.

Silence is like a sword. Cut your throat as soon as you open your mouth What is really terrible in marriage is not quarreling, but having nothing to say. As the old saying goes, "wine is less intimate, but half a sentence is more." Couples who have nothing to say are harmonious and quiet to outsiders. In fact, no one knows how difficult it is for them to be together.

A middle-aged male fan once told me that he has established a family, the company is operating normally, and his wife and children have also been born. In the eyes of others, his daily life is to drive to the company to supervise the work, and then drive home to enjoy the "wife and children fever" life that most men yearn for.

? In fact, he is not as successful as outsiders seem, and even feels like a complete failure. It is difficult to start a business. After becoming a boss, he is worried about the company's business development direction and market conditions every day. He even envies his employees a little, preferring to work overtime rather than risk bankruptcy at any time.

Besides, his marriage is not as harmonious as it seems. His wife is an emotional person. When they were poor before, the two of them still had endless words and endless expectations for the future. Now, his wife just looks at him suspiciously, and then easily blames him. She thinks that a man will go bad if he has money, so many unwarranted charges are put on him.

They come home every day and can't speak at all. It's not that they don't have time, but they will quarrel whenever they open their mouths. No matter what tone or expression they say, even a casual sigh will lead to a quarrel. He felt very tired, and the husband and wife became silent, like a sword between his neck, and his throat would be cut when he opened his mouth.

Finally, he said: "There are 24 hours a day, others think I am a free man, but in fact, the most relaxing time is only the time to smoke a cigarette in the car before going home from the company."

? It is more difficult to talk about more than half a sentence than a marriage with nothing to say. Couples who don't talk can make do with it. A marriage that is injured from the beginning is simply a torture from the soul.

? All festivals have nothing to do with you. Maybe not everyone has a sense of ritual about life, but even a person without a sense of ritual will involuntarily "pay attention" to those who care.

Humanity is the easiest and hardest thing to hide. A person can pretend to love or not, but he can't control the details of conditioned reflex and subconscious.

Last week, my friend Ye complained to me that marriage was meaningless. The reason is that she had a quarrel with her husband. They had a fierce quarrel. Her husband thinks she is neurotic. She thinks her husband doesn't care about her at all. I finally found out that the real reason for their quarrel was not that her husband didn't wash his feet at night, but that he didn't say anything on her birthday.

? Ye Zi said that she had never received a gift since she got married. In the first year, her husband said "Happy Birthday" to her, but this year she completely forgot. So the more she thought about it, the more sad she became. She can't help but hang her emotions on her face, and then hint at her husband by finding fault. As a result, they had a quarrel, and her husband called her melodramatic and unreasonable. Up to now, her husband hasn't figured out why leaves have emotions.

Ye Zi said that when two people have no feelings, it is true that all festivals have nothing to do with you. I never thought that he could spend every holiday with me as before, but I just hope to remember my birthday and our wedding anniversary. But now he doesn't remember anything, only me. There is no love in my marriage.

Today's topic: Do you still need love in marriage? I look forward to your comments.

Chen Wei said: I hope your life will be better after listening to me.