Make peace with her, but don't let her be the boss.

You are the master of your body, your kitchen and your garden. How can you let the guests make decisions? "Hospitality" cookbook

Sister Na doesn't play WeChat, so I can't see her information in the circle of friends. However, whenever I see all kinds of sunbathing in my circle of friends, showing love, happiness, food and gardening, I still think of Sister Na. Sister Na's real life show kills a lot of micro-friends, but it won't make me feel disgusting.

Sister Na is very capable and feminine at the same time. She often criticizes me for not praising my husband and being too casual in dressing. She recommended me to read fashion magazines and Korean dramas and taught me various life tips such as cooking, sorting and storage. When she said these things, it was inevitable to take herself as an example, but she did not boast, but shared her failure lessons and successful experiences with others in a teasing and self-deprecating way.

We used to be colleagues, and I still remember that when I had my period, people were uncomfortable. Sister Na only glanced at me and knew my situation well. She gave me a small package of Yimu brown sugar and told me to drink it quickly. Every two days, she copied a recipe and steamed it with grass chicken, salt, ginger and rice wine as a tonic after menstruation.

She said, "My period comes once a month, so treat her well."

Sister Na has copied this "hospitality" recipe to almost all female colleagues, but it seems that only Sister Fang and I followed suit and exchanged details with Sister Na on the selection of materials, cooking time and ingredients.

Maybe the friendship between women is due to such a simple thing. Sister Fang, Sister Na and I left that company one after another. It has been ten years in a blink of an eye, and the irregular gathering during these ten years has made the three of us become deep-rooted good friends.

At a small gathering in a cafe, Sister Na heard me talk about the past, but she laughed and sighed.

"Sister Fang has been very busy since she moved, and the three of us don't get together much. I'm afraid I can't cook this' hospitality' dish for several times. I have already said hello to my husband and son. It's very unexpected and my mood is unstable. You'd better not mess with me. "

I was shocked, and then I thought, Sister Na is 47 years old, and she is really in an extraordinary period for women. After the "distinguished guest" arrived

, every time she met Sister Na, she would mention all kinds of discomfort during menopause. She said that at this stage, she will change from a woman to an old lady, and she must have the dignity of an old man, and she can't be tender or willful. She has to seize the last chance and enjoy the benefits of being a woman.

I just thought Sister Na was joking and said something in support of her idea. As time went on, I found that Sister Na was not just talking, but practicing.

for example, when we go shopping, she stops shopping in the adult ladies' section and goes straight to the girls' section. She said that she was thin and could wear those fluffy skirts and shorts. Compared with her peers, Sister Na really keeps a good figure. However, in spring, summer, autumn and winter, everything grows according to its own rules. Women look younger again, and the actual age is there. Eyes and neck lines will betray the secret of age. Is it appropriate for Sister Na to wear these little women's clothes?

Sister Na calmly bought a pile of pink clothes, and said to me after buying the bill, "It's easy for you to stand and talk! When you get to this stage, you may be dressed more tender than me! "

I felt a little guilty when I thought that Sister Na was in an "unusual period". I quickly picked up some shopping bags, warmly praised her figure and appearance, and invited her to eat in a newly opened dessert shop. I was relieved until the smile reappeared on her face.

The world is big and small. I saw Minnie as soon as I entered the dessert shop. Mini is Na Jie's current colleague and my classmate's relative. I happily greeted her and exchanged a few commonplaces. When I turned around, Na Jie was out of the store. I hurried out, and Sister Na explained airily, "It's too stuffy in the shop, and I don't want to eat."

Just now in the dessert shop, Minnie's face was quite uncomfortable when she saw Sister Na. Are they quarrelling?

Sure enough, Sister Na complained to me about Minnie: "Her client is a mistress, so why should she put on airs in front of Minnie?" I can't stand Minnie's bow and scrape. What's wrong with throwing a few words at her? Minnie didn't appreciate it, so she argued with me for such a person, blaming me for talking nonsense and offending people. It' s really unclear! "

I'm a little depressed. It's not Sister Na's usual way to cross the border and make trouble! Before I could speak, Sister Na turned to comfort me and said, "My colleagues all know that I am in an extraordinary period, even if I do something bad with good intentions, I should understand. I finally understand that people who don't understand me at this time are not true friends. "

I vaguely felt that something was wrong, but Sister Na's words blocked all my persuasion.

On the winter solstice, I went to the suburbs to visit Sister Fang, who was accompanying my mother, and talked about all kinds of menopausal symptoms that happened to Sister Na. Sister Fang laughed. "I always talk about' unusual period'. Nana treats this guy as a distinguished guest."

Sister Fang is older. She passed the menopause safely a few years ago. I asked Sister Fang to persuade Sister Na to teach me the experience of entertaining this "unexpected" guest. Sister Fang said with a smile, "Just be normal."

people who have experienced it have to pass on their experience. Sister Fang and I discussed it and decided to invite Sister Na, our three old colleagues, to get together next weekend. Peace with "guests"

On the day of the party, Sister Na was late. Wide sunglasses covered half of her face and refused to take it off after taking a seat. It turned out that Sister Na had a big fight with her husband last night, and her eyes were swollen with tears. She made her husband swear that he would treat her wholeheartedly after menopause and never fool around. Although her brother-in-law swore as she said, she sighed, apparently reluctantly.

"You see, I'm in an emergency, and he always has this attitude when I ask him to say something nice to comfort me. God only knows what he will do to me in the future! "

I apologised as usual and advised her a lot of good things. Sister Fang also advised Sister Na not to have a hard time with people around her. She could distract her attention, take photos, travel, grow flowers, dance and do anything, and don't take menopause too seriously.

"How can you take it lightly? Sister Fang, you know better than me! In the past, my period visited once a month. Recently, she came whenever she wanted, but she didn't want to come, which made people feel anxious. A woman's body is like a garden. After this period of time, old friends will not come at all, and the garden will completely wither. "

"according to what you say, menopausal women simply don't want to live." Fang Jie was smiling, but her tone was somewhat harsh.

Sister Na looked at Sister Fang. "That's not what I meant. I'm just afraid. By the way, sister, you look good. Did you take any special supplements? "

That's right. Sister Fang has a smooth complexion and is full of energy. She looks better than in previous years.

"where are the special supplements? The key is mentality. If you are an old friend during your period, menopause is an unwelcome long-term guest. In a woman's life, this guest only comes once, but she always leaves when she comes. You must learn to live in peace with her, don't spoil her, and don't neglect her. I have read Hemingway's The Old Man and the Sea, and there is a very reasonable saying: A man can be destroyed, but he cannot be defeated. Like you, I was defeated by the guest of menopause first. "

Sister Fang said a lot, criticizing Sister Na for being arrogant and too headstrong.

"menopause will always end, and the days have to go on. Like you, you haven't finished this stage, and your character value has been brushed away. Do you think it's appropriate for everyone to stay away from you? Nana, what are you afraid of? You are the master of your body, your kitchen and your garden. How can you let the guests be the masters? "

Sister Na cried, and I was so upset that I kept handing her tissues to wipe my tears. An unusual woman needs the understanding and care of people around her, but I really think that Sister Fang should also listen to her words.

After that party, Sister Na didn't contact us for several days.

It was spring when we met again. Sister Fang and I made an appointment to enjoy the flowers in the Botanical Garden. The crowd was bustling, and Na Jie and I collided head-on. The three people were surprised and hugged with excitement. What makes me even more happy is that Minnie, who broke up with her, came to the botanical garden to enjoy the flowers with Sister Na.

I think everything is going well. Sister Na and her "unexpected" guests must have reached an understanding.