Your problem can be solved by good communication.

Yesterday, a friend gave me a big fish, weighing about 10 kilograms, and I was worried about how to deal with it.

The husband said: "There is an aunt who sells aquatic products in the convenience market. She is very nice and helps people butcher fish for free. It doesn't matter if you buy it at her house."

I held it in my arms. With a try mentality, I went to the convenience market and found the aunt. Just when I was about to call her aunt, when she looked up, I realized that she was obviously an "eldest sister"! Not a few years older than me. But the gentleman was clearly talking about an aunt, and it was this stall.

I felt puzzled and didn’t dare to call her aunt.

I asked: "Can you help me pack a fish?" She said: "Is it alive or frozen?" I said: "It is frozen, but it has thawed naturally." She said He said: "It's too cold. Even if it melts, the fish scales are already stuck to the body and cannot be scraped off." When I heard this, I had to give up.

I called my husband in disappointment, and he told me: "You talk to me, let's give him money, but you said you really can't take care of it at home, please help me take care of it." I said : "Where is the aunt? I look quite young, fair and fair, and wears glasses." The husband said, "That's a replacement. It turns out to be an aunt. Then you can say something nice to the eldest sister."

The eldest sister said: "Bring it here, but because it has been frozen, some skin may come off when scaling the fish." I quickly said: "It's okay, thank you very much."

Soon, the fish was finished, and I asked the elder sister to chop the fish into four pieces. I said, "Thank you so much. You have helped me a lot. How much will I give you?" The eldest sister said, "Just give me 5 yuan." I scanned the WeChat account and gave the eldest sister 5 yuan, took the fish and went home.

I sent a message to my husband saying: The fish has been packed and it cost 5 yuan.

Sir replied: This is the art of communication, you are getting better and better! I said: Mr. taught well. He replied with an emoticon of tears of joy.

Not only strangers need to communicate, but relatives and friends also need to pay attention to language communication and communication methods.

I remember when my daughter was in her third year of high school, she would call me every weekend. What she said the most was: “Mom, it’s so hard for me, Mom, I’m so tired.”

And I would tell her every time: "Child, who do you think is not tired? Look at dad, he’s so busy at work, isn’t he more tired than you? He didn’t cry tired all day! If you look at your younger brother at such a young age, isn’t he studying nervously every day? Now is the time for you to endure hardships..."

After saying these truths, I would like to remind you again: study hard and don't relax...

Until I was at home for a holiday, The topic of study came up again during the meal. I started to reason with her again, but my daughter stopped talking and started to cry. I realized something was wrong, so I stopped talking.

After dinner, I sat down in my daughter's room and asked her why she was crying. Did I say something wrong? She remained silent. I asked her again: "What are you thinking?" Tell mom, if I made a mistake, I will correct it. If you have any ideas or questions, can you tell us and we can solve them together? "

She then wiped her tears and said, "Mom, actually I know that I should study hard, and I also know that it is not easy for everyone. Every time I call you, I just want to get your understanding and comfort, and I want to draw more strength from you to move forward. ”

I suddenly realized that I didn’t really understand my daughter. I only expressed my thoughts and requests unilaterally. I didn’t know the true thoughts of my daughter until today.

I said to my daughter: "I will never talk like that again after mom understands. ”

From then on, whenever my daughter called me, I would listen to what she had to say, and then take the initiative to ask her if she was tired from studying, if she had any problems that were difficult to solve, etc.

I also told her not to put too much pressure on her studies, but to pay attention to the balance between work and rest, and to communicate with teachers and classmates if she has any questions.

My daughter rarely complains. Sometimes when she is under great pressure, she will talk to her classmates or teachers. She can solve many problems in life and study by herself.

I am glad that I had that communication with my daughter, otherwise I still would not be able to understand her true inner thoughts.