Husband and wife sleep in separate rooms. What should we pay attention to in order to make our relationship better?

Since having a baby, the originally warm and romantic two-person world has started to fly like a chicken and a dog. During the day, the baby sleeps soundly, but at night, he is full of energy: crying, feeding, changing diapers, and cycling. Many small families choose to sleep in separate rooms in order to take care of their newborn babies. There are different opinions about the allocation of rooms. Some people say that sleeping in separate rooms is good for taking care of children and for Bao Dad to rest. Some people say that the relationship between husband and wife will be cold when they are separated.

My best friend Lan Zhi just called and said it. Speaking of anger, she threatened to divorce. It is best to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau at once. After listening to her for a long time, it turned out to be for the couple to sleep in separate rooms. Lan Zhi is very kind, saying that the child is too young and always cries at night. She felt that her husband worked hard during the day, but he couldn't help at night and couldn't sleep well. In order to let him sleep well, she proposed to sleep in separate rooms and her husband to sleep in the study.

Such good advice, my husband is ungrateful and unwilling to sleep separately. But three days later, the two regiments deliberately found fault, saying that the child had not been taken care of, and that Lan Zhi's voice was too loud.

"He is a mental derangement. I take good care of him, but he is ungrateful and always bothers me. " "Ha ha, that's right. If I were your husband, I would also find fault with you. Maybe I will lose my temper even more. "

After having a baby, will couples sleep in separate rooms because of the baby? Is sleeping in separate rooms more beneficial or harmful? Is sleeping in separate rooms conducive to promoting the relationship between husband and wife or affecting the relationship between husband and wife?

? Why does sleeping in separate rooms affect the relationship between husband and wife? "Husband and wife quarrel at the end of the bed, and husband and wife have no one-night revenge." I believe these two sentences are familiar to everyone. Although it is simple, it has profound implications, because it tells the simplest but most useful way for couples to get along: no matter what unhappiness they have during the day, all dissatisfaction and resentment will disappear when they chat about their private lives at night.

This simplest proverb tells us the importance of sharing a bed with husband and wife. What my best friend Lan Zhi has done runs counter to this proverb. Strangely, the relationship between husband and wife is not bad. Then why does sleeping in separate rooms affect the relationship between husband and wife?

? Husband and wife are independent individuals, and they are busy during the day. The best time to communicate with each other is at night, and sleeping in separate rooms at night virtually breaks the communication time.

Besides lying comfortably in bed at night, what occasion and time are more convenient for couples to express their feelings?

? In the world of husband and wife, love and sex are always inseparable.

For Ma Bao, the body has never recovered during lactation, and she has not taken care of her baby day and night. As far as sex is concerned, her personal energy and interests are completely uninterested.

But for Bao Dad, one is that he has never experienced the pain of pregnancy and childbirth, and the other is that he needs love and sex as usual. Sleeping in separate rooms will inevitably bring inconvenience and confusion to Bao Dad.

? The baby is not the baby of the mother alone, and the baby's business is not just what the mother needs.

While taking care of their husbands, some treasure moms propose to sleep in separate rooms, but at the same time complain that their husbands have given up. Lan Zhi, their best friend, is a typical representative.

Sleeping in separate rooms not only affects the relationship between husband and wife, but also seriously hinders the parent-child relationship between Bao Dad and the baby.

There is no such thing as empathy. No matter how hard it is for Ma Bao to take care of the children alone, Bao Dad can't really appreciate the hardship of taking care of the children just by imagination. Ma Bao said how cute and interesting the baby was. Dad Bao didn't take part in taking care of the children himself, and he didn't feel all the cuteness and fun of the children.

Some people will say that sleeping in separate rooms can make Bao Dad sleep more stably, and sleeping together will affect Bao Dad's sleep quality. Upgrading from husband to husband and father, sleeping less at night and being busy at night, isn't it normal? Mom is not the only one who should be busier and harder!

Sleeping in separate rooms not only deprives the husband of the expectation of the couple's interest, but also deprives the father of the family happiness he longs for, and even deprives a man of the opportunity and experience to grow up, which is why too many marriages come to an end during pregnancy and lactation.

Having children and sleeping in separate rooms does more harm than good. However, everything cannot be generalized. It can't be said that at any time, couples are not suitable for sleeping in separate rooms. In some special cases, sleeping in separate rooms is conducive to solving problems and improving mood.

? Sleeping in separate rooms also depends on the specific situation. Under what circumstances are couples suitable for sleeping in separate rooms? 1. If one spouse has special circumstances, sharing a bed will seriously affect the rest of the other spouse.

For example, her husband's snoring is super loud; For another example, his wife especially likes to brush online dramas before going to bed, and likes to put them outside, which will affect the other party's rest; For another example, one spouse is afraid of cold and heat due to physical reasons, or one spouse can only sleep on a hard bed due to illness. In these special circumstances, sleeping in separate beds can better meet the individual needs of two people.

2. Husband and wife have different schedules, or their personal habits before marriage are very different, so they can't synchronize well and barely get along. It's best to rest separately and sleep in separate beds. In this case, sleeping in separate beds is also a good choice.

There are thousands of people, and there is never a fixed track and the so-called only correct model for husband and wife to get along. Whether to sleep in separate beds is not the focus of husband and wife's feelings. The most important thing between husband and wife is mutual understanding and tolerance in life and emotional harmony.

? Sleeping in separate rooms is not the key, but emotional harmony is the most important! What good methods does Bao Da have to promote the relationship between husband and wife during lactation? ? Take an active part in the journey of caring for newborn babies, so that Ma Bao can have more rest and relaxation.

Taking care of babies is not only a mental activity, but also a physical activity. Ma Bao will be exhausted by himself. With Bao's help, it will be much easier to take care of the baby. The affection between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper in your daily life.

? Give Ma Bao more love, patience and tolerance.

For lactating mothers, love and tolerance are what Ma Bao craves most, especially novice mothers. There are too many unknowns, too many maladjustments and too many worries, and it is inevitable that there will be bad things to do. Bao Da's understanding and tolerance is the best regulator for mothers to laugh at life.

? After taking good care of the baby, Bao Dad gave Ma Bao the companionship of love as much as possible.

Maybe Bao dads will have questions or even complain: after giving birth, Bao moms are completely focused on their children and indifferent to their husbands. Do they still need our company?

The answer is yes. Indeed, many novice mothers have children, and all their thoughts and attention are focused on them. The reason is simple, because they can't cope with it and have no spare capacity to take care of Bao Dad. The more such a treasure mother is, the more anxious she is, and the more she needs the gentle care and loving company of Bao Dad.

? If you live with your parents, Bao Dad should balance the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that Ma Bao will not be troubled by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Chinese-style mother-in-law relationship has always been a big killer of healthy marriage, and too many loving couples break up in tears because of the mother-in-law relationship. Ma Bao, who is nursing, needs Bao's support more than ever. Balancing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very important for maintaining a harmonious relationship between husband and wife.

Happy marriages have different modes of getting along, while unhappy marriages are mostly the same. Whether husband and wife sleep in separate beds depends entirely on communication and consultation between husband and wife. Happy and loving couples still love each other when they sleep separately, while loveless couples may quarrel when they sleep together.

Whether sleeping in separate beds or not, it is best for both husband and wife to communicate and negotiate. In the mental process of the baby's growth, both husband and wife are tolerant, frank and in love. No matter how difficult and thorny the process is, they are all affectionate and intentional. Every day will be warm and calm, and every day will last forever.