Marriage is a mutual business partnership

Marriage is a partner who operates each other

Marriage is a partner who operates each other. People are very complex creatures, whether it is family, love, friendship, life or work. It varies from person to person because each person's emotions and moods are affected by many factors. The marriages shared below are partners in mutual business. Marriage is a mutual business partner 1

A good marriage is a partner to each other

The relationship between husband and wife should not be a relationship of mutual running-in, but a relationship of mutual training. , appreciate each other and achieve each other.

Everyone longs for a good marriage, but a good marriage may not always exist from the beginning.

There is a magnetic field in the relationship between people. Some couples act as trainers and partners for both parties, activating and supporting each other, always complimenting each other, and eventually surpassing each other. Get better and have a happy marriage.

The marriage of business and real estate tycoons Pan Shiyi and Zhang Xin first went from dire straits to a model of love in the business world.

One "turtle" has lived abroad for many years and wants to integrate into China as soon as possible, while the other is a "country turtle" who was born and raised in China and is the most down-to-earth old man.

In this way, the veteran Pan Shiyi became Zhang Xin’s Chinese teacher, and the two quickly confirmed their relationship and received the certificate.

Zhang Xin said that their marriage in the first two years was in dire straits because they had different concepts, styles, and methods of handling things, and both of them were very ambitious people who could not convince anyone. They quarrel when they can't help each other.

She said that they were arguing almost every day at that time, and one time they even had such a bad fight that she flew directly to Europe for vacation. At that moment, it felt like the marriage had come to an end.

Later, she said that a marriage had been running in for 2 years, but the running-in period was such a waste of time and energy. Even if someone else got married, the process would still be so torturous.

She decided to adjust her role first and return to the family temporarily. Later, she thought that the best way for husband and wife partners to deal with problems is to use their strengths and divide labor and cooperate.

For example, Pan Shiyi is good at business negotiations, sales, and dealing with the government, while she is good at architecture and space design, so she is responsible for this herself.

In future career cooperation, each of them will be responsible for what they are good at, and both parties will appreciate each other's talents more and more, and the relationship between husband and wife will gradually become harmonious.

Just like Zhang Xin said: Now that we have been married for more than 20 years, we are far less different than our same-sex partners. When making decisions, we can quickly reach a consensus decision. Because we have assimilated, and over time we have assimilated. "

When Pan Shiyi encountered external scandals or bad problems, Zhang Xin always gave him trust and support. Just as Pan Shiyi said: "When I fell, Zhang Xin always helped me It was Zhang Xin who helped me become who I am now."

In fact, couples do not have to have one party defeat the other, nor does one have to sacrifice to fulfill the other, but should be partners, or with strength. Equally, moving forward together, or advancing and retreating, supporting each other and achieving each other's achievements.

Only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife achieve continuous happiness and joy, and can also achieve greater achievements.

Husbands and wives are each other's partners. Not only Pan Shiyi and Zhang Xin, but Bill Gates and Robin Li both believe that in marriage, couples should support each other and achieve each other's achievements in a partnership.

Regarding the model of married life, Bo Yang has long said: "Married people live with half-open eyes and half-closed eyes. There are no perfect men and women in the world." If you keep your eyes open for too long, or look into the mirror for too long, you may be able to find something wrong with even God. "

Everyone has strengths and characteristics worthy of appreciation. As a trainer, you should be good at discovering each other's strengths and encourage and support each other to achieve each other.

Just like Hayao Miyazaki said : “Love is not about finding a perfect person, but learning to appreciate the imperfect person with perfect eyes. ”

This has to be talked about Mr. Hu Shi, a trainer in the Republic of China.

Hu Shi, a famous male god in the Republic of China, married a wife with small feet, Jiang Dongxiu, who is known to be illiterate.

Looking at it from a secular perspective, they are really not a good match. One is a turtle professor studying abroad; the other is an illiterate village girl with small feet.

Although Jiang Dongxiu and Hu Shi had different interests, she understood her husband after all. She wrote in the preface to Hu Shi's posthumous works: Everything in front of Hu Shi was blurred, but he was extremely serious about learning at his desk.

So she always persuaded her husband not to be an official. She was afraid that a certain atmosphere from officialdom would destroy her husband's original personality and thoughts.

In 1937, when the Anti-Japanese War broke out, Hu Shi became the ambassador to the United States. He had to write a letter to his wife to explain the situation and express his position. After success, he would definitely return to his study and continue his academic research.

There are always people who think that Jiang Dongxiu is very strict and loves money as much as life. She requires Hu Shi to hand over all his salary and royalties. As for what Hu Shi needs to buy, she must agree to it.

However, in fact, Hu Shi was a scholar and an all-around champion in terms of knowledge, but he knew nothing about daily affairs and financial management. However, although Jiang Dongxiu did not understand knowledge, he was very good at managing the household and finances. .

Mr. Hu Shi encouraged his little-footed wife to "not be disrespectful to other people's words" and to start "letting go". Under the gentle guidance of the male god, the wife learned about culture, read classical novels, and learned the names of the maids in "A Dream of Red Mansions" I recited all the family treasures and learned to write letters.

The husband and wife appreciate each other and help each other. He has made great literary achievements and is known as the "Father of the Chinese [Cultural] Revolution", while she has become the woman behind the successful man and has a happy life. life.

I saw a passage on the Internet: Life is still very long. Two people who get along day and night must appreciate each other and like to be with each other. Only in this way can they find happiness, otherwise why get married!

Marriage for the sake of marriage really becomes a siege.

In a happy marriage, even if it is the grave of love, you will be happy to be buried with the person you love.

To be each other’s trainers, you must have the ability to appreciate each other, be able to see the other person’s strengths and give strong support.

And a marriage that knows how to appreciate is happy. As time goes by, they always maintain a heart of appreciating their lover.

Let this appreciation become the skill of love, and you will still maintain your eager gaze after holding hands for decades.

Speaking of which, I have to talk about my father-in-law and mother-in-law. They have always been models of love in the "Zhu Family Courtyard". And their love made me strengthen Mr. Hu's determination, because the children of a loving couple will definitely not be any worse.

The two celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this year. Every time the family gathers, the two will spread the dog food and "compliment" each other.

My father-in-law said: "Our family is happy and healthy now, and you [mother] have contributed a lot. Your mother opened a shop to make money when she was young, and she also knew how to invest after making money."

My mother-in-law said: "This is all because your dad supported me. I was young and inexperienced at that time, but your dad dared to use all his wealth to support me in opening a store and starting a business. So without your dad, I wouldn't be where I am now."

Looking at the way the two of them complimented each other, the air was filled with deep love.

My father-in-law has always warned us:

“Remember, a husband and wife must know how to cooperate, be good at discovering each other’s bright spots, and then carry forward them.

Just like me I found that your mother has a cheerful personality and is very enthusiastic, so she is very suitable for opening a store and starting a business, so I thought about how to train her. You also need to support each other. If you fulfill his dream, he can fulfill yours. ”

< p> As Lin Yutang said in "My Country and My People": Marriage is like a carved ship, it depends on how you appreciate it and how you sail it.

Both husband and wife are in the same boat. You are at the same helm and moving towards the same goal. This requires the cooperation of both parties. You support me and I support you.

Jack Ma once said: "The relationship between husband and wife should not be a relationship of running into each other, but a relationship of mutual training, mutual appreciation and mutual achievement."

Here I have to thank Mr. Hu for his support.

One night before going to bed, Mr. Hu hugged me and said, "Honey, I want to adjust my schedule.

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"What's wrong? Isn’t the current arrangement good enough? "I wanted to get angry as soon as I heard that. I have worked so hard to take care of my baby, and I have to struggle to finish the two manuscripts every month, and yet you want to ask me to give in.

Unexpectedly, he said: "I see you take care of me every day. The baby can't do what he wants to do, so when I'm not at work, you can choose to write or play, and I'll take care of the gourd. ”

“This way I have time to take care of the baby alone, you have time to take care of the baby, we have time to spend with the baby together, and the most important thing is to set aside time for me to be alone with you. "

Listening to Mr. Hu's gentle voice, I couldn't help but secretly rejoice at my original decision. Fortunately, I made the decision early and was not preempted by others.

"How can I make such progress? , are you thinking about how to train me so that I can become a writing master faster so that I can earn money to support my family and my children? ”

“If you have a dream that needs to be realized, then I have to fulfill it for you. Besides, you have always supported me in doing what I like. ”

It is said that marriage is a grave, which will make women lose themselves and their dreams, but a good marriage is a good school. Both parties are each other’s trainers. You make my dreams come true, and I Fulfill yours.

Just like a good marriage has made me happy, I can do what I like and realize my dreams.

Mr. Hu supports me in learning yoga. I even complimented everyone I met: "She is very good at practicing yoga. She can lift her legs to my shoulders." "

When I was learning to draw, Mr. Hu looked at the pictures I drew and said, "Hulu, you have to learn like your mother. You see, your mother learns everything quickly and paints really well." "

I learned writing and signed up for various classes. Mr. Hu even took the initiative to sign up for me when he met a good one. Every time he saw my article, he would praise me: "You write so well, you Your writing dream is not far away either. ”

In fact, the total manuscript fee is less than a drop in the bucket compared to the registration fee, but his appreciation and encouragement made me more and more confident, confident that I will get better and better.

< p> There is a saying in "Listen Ear": "Love should be about both parties supporting each other and achieving their own goals together, rather than illusory thoughts, superficial materials, and a life of extravagant wealth. ”

Of course, the same is true for marriage.

A good marriage must appreciate each other’s goodness, encourage each other to realize his dreams, and work together for a happy family Work hard.

It is human nature to desire appreciation.

A smart woman looks up to her husband; a good man appreciates his woman. If one day you can't see the goodness of the other person, then you will turn a blind eye no matter how good he is, and you will feel dissatisfied no matter how good he is to you.

When there is no appreciation for each other, it will lead to more. Without quarrels and accusations, love gradually disappears.

Just like what was said in "Managing Marriage": Turn appreciating each other from reason to habit, from habit to nature, and in the end, you will If you don’t praise the other person, you won’t be able to adapt to it.

A good marriage is like Jack Ma saying, be each other’s trainer, appreciate each other, and achieve each other’s success. 2 < /p>

Indeed, when two people who love each other enter into marriage, they actually sign a contract.

They agree to be loyal to each other and trust each other, and they will never leave each other regardless of whether they are rich or poor. We grow old together.

Those who have the spirit of contract can often join hands with each other to build a happy career together.

As a saying goes. , In an enviable marriage, there is often a pair of excellent partners who are independent of each other and continue to grow.

Most happy marriages are independent of each other, growing together and flying together. < /p>

In the TV series "Chinese Style Divorce", Song Jianping, played by Chen Daoming, and Lin Xiaofeng, played by Jiang Wenli, are a couple.

Song Jianping is the chief surgeon of a public hospital. He has superb medical skills and is easy-going. .

My wife Lin Xiaofeng was not willing to accept her husband being in a public hospital. She saw that her husband was content with the status quo and did not care about his career and economy, and she was often filled with unwillingness and grievance.

So she encouraged her husband to change jobs. Song Jianping was unwilling to go to a foreign-funded hospital because he had his own medical dream.

Lin Xiaofeng scolded him harshly for not seeking to make progress, for being cowardly and incompetent.

After repeated quarrels and cold wars, Song Jianping finally gave in and entered a foreign-funded hospital.

After changing jobs, Song Jianping became busier and busier, so Lin Xiaofeng resigned to take care of his family.

However, seeing Song Jianping’s status in the hospital getting higher and higher and being lukewarm towards him, Lin Xiaofeng felt that he had paid too much for his family and was too aggrieved.

As a result, his mood was unstable, and he would often speak harshly to Song Jianping when they disagreed, which ultimately led to the failure of the marriage.

Zhou Guoping said:

"There is no possibility of one party being happy alone in a marriage. You must win, otherwise you will lose. This is The iron law of marriage. ”

Just like partners, if either party only wants to obtain and enjoy benefits, and does not want to contribute or develop, then they are destined to not go very far.

Complementing each other’s advantages

Mr. Zhong’s wife Li Shaofen is one of the first basketball players in New China.

After they got married, they spent less time together and more separation, because Li Shaofen had to train and compete, and Zhong Nanshan was also very busy at work.

Zhong Nanshan continues to travel in the medical field, and his wife Li Shaofen has a successful basketball career and has become the prototype of the protagonist of the movie "Women's Basketball Team No. 5".

After retiring, she followed Zhong Nanshan to Guangdong and served as the coach of the Guangdong women's basketball team.

They encourage each other in their careers. At home, Li Shaofen is Zhong Nanshan’s personal trainer, formulating fitness plans for him.

He also specially set aside a room at home for fitness, and Mr. Zhong is his wife’s health doctor. Even when he is on a business trip, he has to tell her to take medicine and measure her blood pressure every day.

84-year-old Zhong looks particularly healthy and energetic because of his long-term persistence in exercising.

Li Shaofen, also 84, continues to contribute to the basketball industry.

For more than half a century, Prime Minister Bai’s marriage has been filled with happiness.

Cai Shaofen and Zhang Jin have been married for more than ten years and are an enviable couple in the entertainment industry.

At first, everyone was not optimistic about them because women were strong and men were weak.

Cai Shaofen became famous at a young age. When he got married, Zhang Jin was still an unknown martial arts stand-in.

After getting married and having two daughters, Zhang Jin once admitted in an interview that he was the weakest one in the family. He could not beat his wife, and his two daughters could not beat him even more...

He pampered Cai Shaofen and his daughter into princesses.

After getting married, Cai Shaofen has been supporting Zhang Jin’s career. She praises everyone she meets. She is a well-known "husband show-off maniac" in the industry.

In 2016, Zhang Jin finally won the Best Supporting Actor at the Hong Kong Film Awards for his movie "The Grandmaster".

On the podium, he said:

"Others say that I will rely on my wife Cai Shaofen in this life. Yes, my happiness depends on her."

< p> You are proud of me, and I am proud of you. Whether the marriage is happy or not, we know ourselves.

As Xiao Tao Hong once said at the "Qi Pa Shuo" conference:

"Marriage is actually not terrible. What is terrible is that many people use the same standard to measure all marriages." < /p>

Husband and wife are actually lifelong partners. If they find a mutually recognized balance point in their marriage and each do their part, they can maintain the long-term stability of the marriage.

There is a classic line in "Partners in China" that says this:

The most important thing about the advantages of a partnership is that each other's strengths are complementary.

We are in the same boat and will never leave.

In the vast sea of ????people, from meeting each other to getting married, fate is hard-won, so we must know how to cherish it.

Husbands and wives not only understand and help each other, but more importantly, share the joys and sorrows and work together to overcome one difficulty after another.

In the TV series "Little Joy", Fangyuan and Tong Wenjie are the happiest couple.

At that time, the middle-aged Fangyuan was unfortunately laid off. Tong Wenjie did not complain, but stroked his back to comfort him:

"It's okay, if the old ones don't go, the new ones won't come. ! ”

In fact, she was also experiencing difficulties in her career at that time, but Tong Wenjie was afraid of putting pressure on Fang Yuan and did not say anything, gritting her teeth and silently supporting the family.

After Fangyuan lost his job, he became a house cook. Tong Wenjie always praised Fangyuan’s cooking skills and said to her best friend, "Fangyuan is a limited edition. There is no way I can be lucky."

It was not until later that Fangyuan got out of the unemployment trough and got a new job.

The best love is just that you married me when I was broke, and I tried my best to be your harbor in life;

You stayed with me when I was at the lowest point in my life. If you don't give up, I will use my life's accumulated efforts to protect you.

Cousin Jasmine suffered from leukemia a few years ago and was dying. She stayed in the sterile room for more than half a year. Many people thought she would not survive. There were even matchmakers waiting to come to propose marriage to her husband.

Her husband never left her, sold her property, raised money for medical treatment, and finally rescued her from death.

After she was discharged from the hospital, she was cared for carefully and her cousin gradually recovered to health.

Last year, my mother-in-law was hospitalized due to illness and could not take care of herself. My cousin, like a daughter, took care of her in the hospital for more than a month, until she was discharged.

My mother-in-law always praises her cousin when she meets everyone, and her husband treats her more gently and considerately, even washing her feet and beating her back at night.

A good couple will not be sarcastic because of temporary frustrations and failures. On the contrary, support and encouragement to the partner during the trough period is the secret to nourishing the marriage relationship.

Compared with romantic love, perhaps the mutual affection that passes by over the years is more reassuring.

The moment every couple enters the marriage hall, they hold the hand of their son and hope to grow old together with him.

Life is long. If you want to realize this dream, you must not only have a love foundation of never getting tired of each other, but also have the same goals and wishes, as well as the spirit of contract that is implemented in daily life.

Some psychologists have said that running a marriage is like running a business. Enthusiasm is part of it, but more importantly, you need to have a win-win spirit.

In the river of marriage, scenery and risks coexist. Only by working together and in step can we reach the harbor of happiness.

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I would like to write a white-headed promise to Hong Jian, so that the red leaf alliance can be recorded clearly. Marriage is a mutual business partner 3

Marriage is essentially a transaction, cooperation and management

The essence of modern marriage is a transaction, which is based on the birth of children and the The cooperation established for the purpose of resisting the risks of life has nothing to do with love.

A man looking for a woman to marry is actually equivalent to renting a fertility machine. You all know that people like and are accustomed to using nice terms to conceal the essence of use, so as to deceive others and gain more benefits for themselves. (For example, the beautiful name of giving birth to a child is the selfless dedication of parents to carry on the family line, but the essence is to raise children and provide for old age.) Marriage is just a beautiful name. In fact, marriage has essentially become equivalent exchange and leasing.

But why did I say it was renting instead of buying? Because that little money is not enough to buy out but only enough to rent. Do you think that a few hundred thousand is enough to buy out a person now? Now is the era when the monthly income is several thousand, how much can a few hundred thousand make?

The current gift money used to be called betrothal gift. What is betrothal gift? Hire, hire. Why is it called betrothal gift? It means that the man hires a woman to come to your home to help you give birth to a child, and the bride price is the reward the man gives to the woman. This is the same principle as hiring an employee and a lawyer now. It's just that some people in modern times have changed the name of betrothal gift to betrothal gift in order to conceal the nature of their use. In fact, the inner meaning has not changed at all. It is that you help our family breed surrogates and I will pay you accordingly.

Otherwise, how could there be so many makeshift marriages and widowed marriages in China? How come there are so many marriages in China that end up getting divorced as soon as the children grow up? It is because both parties have no value and need to continue the transaction, so this cooperative relationship called marriage cannot continue.

As a woman, you must know clearly that you will bring value to your husband after getting married. How much are you worth in real money? Let me calculate it for you

[Surrogacy] The value of a pregnant mother

[Surrogacy] According to the market price of 800,000, one person can pay half of it, and the man should pay 400,000.

The value of the right to carry the surname

The person with the highest auction price for the right to carry the surname will win, and all proceeds from the auction will be compensated to the party who does not have the right to carry the surname.

The value of a nanny who does housework and takes care of the children

For a direct servant who does half of the housework and does not do half of the housework, the monthly market price of 6,000 is 3,000 and half of the market price is given to the other party. The person who takes care of the child will get half of it, and the nanny who doesn’t take care of the child will get half of the monthly market price of 6,000, which is 3,000, for the one who takes care of the child.

Physiological needs value

Calculate who needs money according to the number of times

Value of being with the elderly

If you need care when you are old, according to the number of times There is a fee: 100 RMB per time for delivering water and 200 RMB for each time you help someone go to the toilet.

These women like you can earn a lot of money when they go out to work as [surrogate] pregnant mothers or nannies and servants. It is precisely because you are valuable that you have something to bargain with. Ability and leverage, coupled with the fact that there are many girls and boys in a society, there are a lot of men who are willing to suffer and give you more and cheaper.

It is inherently untenable to talk about relationships and marriage apart from value itself. This kind of relationship and this kind of marriage will only bring you nothing but chicken feathers. A marriage without material security is just a hooliganism and a waste of money.