How to talk when you meet your in-laws for the first time (if you are also visiting your in-laws' home for the first time)

I have more, you have stories, I have more.

Some time ago, some netizens asked if they had ever experienced the event that the other parent invited you to meet their parents. Many readers also asked me privately, I don't know what details I should pay attention to when I meet my parents for the first time.

Most friends are nervous about what they can and shouldn't do. After all, this is the first time, and the first impression is particularly important, which is likely to affect their later life.

Some people say that you should talk as little as possible when you meet for the first time. You can ask your boyfriend for help if you don't understand.

If the other parents invite you, at least they admit your girlfriend's identity, they just need to behave normally, and they can also restrain some habits of young people in the past, show more respect and understanding to their elders, and their elders will not be too harsh on you.

But when you go to your parents' house for the first time, the most important thing is to look at your husband's or your boyfriend's attitude, because his attitude directly determines your position in the other family.

After all, the other party is his parents, and as a son, he will know better. A good boyfriend will play around in it, so that you won't be as embarrassed as you think.

Because some people say they can go, but don't lower your profile. I picked out some of his important topics for your reference.

First: pay attention to gfd. I have met many girls, and it is grand to meet my future mother-in-law. Of course, they paid special attention to this meeting.

Therefore, you should pay special attention to your gfd, especially dressing, makeup and jewelry matching, and it takes more than half of your thoughts.

To know the word "extremes meet", many things are not suitable by themselves, and there are often more mistakes when they are not in your professional field.

One of the girls I knew before was a cool reader, although the boy didn't look as fashionable as I thought.

But at least compared with girls, the first time I went to my mother-in-law's house, a very big anecdote happened.

Accustomed to wearing dark clothes, I put on a beautiful skirt for the first time and stepped on high-heeled shoes that looked very delicate. Hardly had I entered the room when I fell down.

This is embarrassing for everyone. After her boyfriend came to help her get up, he helped to tidy her clothes. Fortunately, the other parents didn't look at the joke as expected, but comforted her and asked her if she was hurt.

The girl said that although the meeting was not very pleasant, fortunately, the warmth of the other parents made her feel recognized by others, and then they were happily together.

But some people's attitude at home is not as gentle as they think, especially when you step into their home and start looking at you up and down.

Your every move, smile and sentence are extremely harsh, just like an interview in an exam.

But in fact, you are not so nervous, just showing your most ordinary and normal side.

Second: Modest and courteous attitude "When I meet my parents for the first time and go to my future mother-in-law's house, do you want to take the initiative to help wash the dishes?" People also have different views on this issue.

Everyone has their own ideas. Many mothers-in-law feel that it is a good thing to help themselves on the first day when they are daughters-in-law, and they will get extra points. More mothers believe that as a daughter, when she is at home for the first time, her attitude must be in place, and there is not necessarily an imaginary action.

To put it simply, a husband who goes to the future for the first time should behave appropriately and take the initiative to help with housework, but only pay lip service and then help with some small things.

If there is no need to get involved completely, just try to keep your attitude and choose to take the initiative to help, but there is no practical action.

Because you need to know whether to do it or not, it is also related to your future marriage life.

If the other person's parents-in-law let you go to work as soon as they come up, it can only show that their character is not so good, but at this time your boyfriend chooses to help you, which means that your boyfriend is not bad for you.

If you say you want a hug, but your parents say no, let your boyfriend do the dishes or they do them themselves, you can sit on the sofa and watch TV and chat like a guest. This is the most basic respect.

Your current experience does not necessarily determine that you will definitely get married in the future. So since you haven't confirmed your identity, it's just an ordinary relationship between men and women. Boyfriend and marriage are two completely different concepts.

When you go to your parents-in-law's house, you must put your attitude right. We must be modest, polite and educated in front of our elders. We must never be arrogant and pampered.

But you can't be too humble in your husband's family, which means you will lower your status in their minds, and so do your parents-in-law.

Since you have to choose a job when you come up, you may be under the command of your son after you get married in the future.

Third: the posture should be correct. Many people think that mother-in-law will like this kind of daughter-in-law. In fact, many mother-in-law are jealous when they meet their daughter-in-law for the first time.

Women's natural hostility is vividly expressed. At this time, she must pose and don't hold her head high. Second, she must understand that you and your mother-in-law are evenly matched, and you are willing to take care of your mother-in-law for your son.

But also tell your mother-in-law that you take care of her and are willing to respect her because of her son. Lowering your status may not please your mother-in-law, but you will be bullied by others.

But not too strong. Your mother-in-law can kill you with a stick and put your boyfriend in a dilemma.

That is to break into a good posture and have your own basic principles and bottom line.

Xiao Geng said: Actually, I want to tell all girls not to be too afraid when they meet their mother-in-law for the first time, because after all, there are many kind-hearted mother-in-law in the world.

Nowadays, the society is developing all the time. Many mother-in-law have come from their youth and can better understand the hardships of being a woman.

Respect your mother-in-law as a last resort. If you really meet the so-called evil mother-in-law, don't be too nervous. You know, there are more men in this world than your boyfriend.

Don't try to be brave in front of your mother-in-law Never try to be brave from hair to toes, thinking that you can support the whole world by yourself, and you can't get carried away.

On the contrary, in front of your mother-in-law, you should "lean on the small and sell the big" and show weakness in due course.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a struggle between two women. Never treat your mother-in-law as your own mother. Always keep a distance and keep a good balance, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be handled well.