Wei Yihang said

Some readers left a message asking me, is it that the older people get, the more tacky they become?

She said that she had just worked for two years, and her colleagues around her bowed to the leaders one by one. When she was scolded, she was too scared to talk back. Female colleagues discuss all day whose husband makes more money and which vegetable shop offers discounts. ...

In such an environment, she is getting more and more depressed, and she is afraid that she will fall into a stereotype one day.

Perhaps, every fledgling young man has had such a stage:

Despise money, fame and fortune, even if my life is embarrassing, I am still full of pride and don't bend my back for five buckets of rice;

I hate the way of the world, and even if I am besieged on all sides, I don't intend to "go along with the laity."

I am eager to stay away from the triviality of daily necessities and always keep the elegance of drinking coffee and listening to music.

However, the ideal is full, and the reality is often skinny.

You never know what life will show you.

I don't know what dreams and feelings those seemingly tacky people once had, and what responsibilities and helplessness they bear now.

But you will gradually understand that only by learning to live a vulgar life can you have a good life.

There is an impressive scene in the movie A Little Red Flower:

When Wei Yihang, a teenager with brain cancer, and his mother left the parking lot, in order to save five yuan for parking, they fought with the security guard:

"How to calculate after more than 5 minutes?"

"Hey, tell me about this, I forgot to bring cash."

"Hey, WeChat can't scan. Why, you have no net here. "

Until the security guard got bored, waved and left quickly.

Wei Yihang is impatient with his mother's haggling over every ounce: it takes a few minutes for a few dollars.

What he doesn't know is that nothing has changed at home since he was treated for illness;

As the father of an ordinary employee in the system, he went to drive a special car on weekends without telling his family, suffering from severe gastric ulcer, but he was reluctant to have a gastroscope.

Think about it, such a middle-aged man was scolded by the leader in the unit, dare to leave without cutting?

They also had their own feelings and dreams, but they were polished a little by reality.

Because of the increasing responsibility, if they want to continue their lives, they must put down their so-called face and even self-esteem.

Their tacky appearance is admirable courage and responsibility.

Everyone wants to live gracefully and calmly, away from vulgarity.

But the real advanced, never blindly against the secular, lofty and unscrupulous, but gradually learn to regard secular rules as a ladder of self-growth.

Jiang in "The Last Romance" lived a comfortable life since childhood, with a house to live in and a nanny, and was spoiled as a princess by her family.

She has never worried about money, and she doesn't understand that her boyfriend bothered to move to save some money.

However, when her father lost his family in the stock market and committed suicide with a debt, she instantly understood the meaning of money.

In order to pay off her father's debts, she gave up studying for a PhD and even went to a big company where she could display her ambitions, but went to a small company with long working hours and great pressure, but high income.

Moreover, talk openly about money with your boss and accept the rewards you deserve for doing things for your friends generously.

At that moment, I believe no one thought she was vulgar, but was impressed by her growth posture.

Everyone yearns for a well-fed and quiet life, but the reality is that it is not easy to get through the journey to the west and the 81 difficulty.

The unit is full of pride and never bows its head. Only after the promotion and salary increase did I realize that leaders always only look at achievements.

Family members are ill in hospital, so they borrow money everywhere. Finally, they understand that talking about money is good, and having no money to give the best treatment to their families makes people collapse.

When children reach school age, they have to ask for help modestly in order to go to a good school, and then they start to be afraid. Some relationships are not well maintained.

Those tacky things you hate will eventually become monsters on the road to learning from the scriptures. If you can't get around them and destroy them, you will beat yourself back to the foot of Wuzhishan and give up all your efforts.

All growth must go through vulgarity, all the way to exorcise demons, and finally reach the realm of seeing mountains or mountains and water.

In life, we often meet such people:

After reading for several years, I don't like ordinary people who are not rich in knowledge and vulgar in speech, thinking that they are short-sighted and only care about the present;

After studying for several years, I speak a few foreign languages from time to time, and I can't speak Chinese fluently.

After watching several high-end performances, I felt that other people in the troupe were dirty and disdained others to go to see them. ...

Some things you don't like may be really vulgar, but they are definitely not all.

Sometimes, there is no obvious boundary between elegance and vulgarity, but they cross each other. Even elegance means vulgarity.

As a medical expert admired by countless people during the epidemic, Zhang Wenhong said in an interview that his favorite way to relax after work is to watch soap operas because he doesn't have to think.

Writer Xue Xiaochan's words in Chun Xue have fascinated countless people. However, she said that she likes visiting rural markets best, and she likes tacky stimulation.

Dancer Yang li Ping likes to wear bright red and green embroidered clothes, and even walks down the red carpet with a bamboo basket.

Most of the time, we are talking about being refined, and we don't like this vulgarity and that is not advanced. In fact, it is a kind of immature and unconfident performance.

Really good, from acceptance and tolerance, really excellent people, no matter where they go, can find beauty and use it for me.

Cha Ren Wei, a poet in the Qing Dynasty, said in his Poems on Lian Po: Painting, calligraphy, piano, chess, poetry and hops were all inseparable from it in those days; Now seven things have changed, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea.

Many times, elegance is not only a mountain stream, but also Chun Xue. True elegance often comes from ordinary secular life.

Therefore, before we can change anything, we must learn to live in the secular world, experience wind, frost, rain and snow, enrich our life experience and sublimate our ideological realm, so that we can have a bright future.

* * * Encourage.