How to get along with your mother-in-law after quarreling?

I may be the kind of cruel daughter-in-law If you are kind to me, I will associate with you. If you treat me badly, I will make your family have to settle down, and I will not associate with you. When I first married my in-laws, I wanted a bride price of 60,000 yuan, but my in-laws refused to give it to me, saying that only one son was mine. I said if I want 30 thousand, I'll give it to 30 thousand Well, I didn't say anything. Who made me fall in love with my husband? I got pregnant after two months of marriage, but I stopped working for physical reasons. My mother-in-law came back to take care of me. She said I couldn't ask for leave or resign. After I went back to my mother's house for two months, my mother-in-law said she had something to go to Chengde, but she stayed for a month. A month later, she went to my daughter's house in Tianjin for another week, and then she came back. She didn't say that she would visit my pregnant daughter-in-law at my mother's house. I endured it until she gave birth to the baby. After giving birth, she finally went home with my mother-in-law After taking care of my children and me for two months, the conflict finally broke out, saying that my parents raised me in the last life and couldn't let her raise me in the next life (because she thought I enjoyed it). Just two months later, I was taking care of my children, so a fierce quarrel broke out. After the quarrel, I moved out decisively. I don't want to associate with my in-laws, and I don't want my husband and children to associate with my in-laws and sisters-in-law. My sister-in-law acted as a stirring rod in the middle. I don't know if they contacted me privately. As soon as I know, I quarrel with my husband. After a long time, my husband stopped seeing each other and called his parents. On vacation, I don't know. In this way, two years have passed and my child is two years old. Watching my husband bring home the bacon, I also want to go out to work. In this way, I directly asked my husband to call my in-laws and ask them to look after the children. Although they have no obligation, it is not easy for my husband to earn money to support his family alone. It is also a mortgage and a life. I felt sorry for him, too, so I let my in-laws look after the children. My father-in-law realized that I was not joking and tried to talk to me privately several times, but he didn't want to. I didn't give him a chance. I'm determined not to see it. Later, in front of our relatives, his father said that he would let me babysit for another year this year and buy us a car at the end of the year, so I would babysit at home again. In fact, my purpose is not to ask for money, because I really feel sorry for my husband, who is a filial person. Every time his parents ask him what difficulties he has, he never says yes. In fact, we are difficult to get along with. Actually, it was his father. Now we bought a car and gave it to120,000. It's not much, but I don't want to care. After all, we are still a family. After that, my father-in-law also said that I will meet my grandson next year, and I don't want them to take my own children. Now that our conditions are good, it doesn't matter whether he takes it or not. What I want to say is that people are good at being deceived and horses are good at being ridden. Love yourself and others will love you.

The contradiction between my mother-in-law and me started with having children. The second day after giving birth, the contractions were particularly painful, and the caesarean section wound was also very painful. I married my husband, and my mother came to take care of me before I gave birth. Because my mother can't speak dialect, I asked my mother-in-law if she could ask the bed nurse for a painkiller. I said it three times, but my mother-in-law didn't move. Finally, my mother felt sorry for me. At that time, my husband went home to get something. My mother ran to the drugstore and bought me a box of ibuprofen. On the fourth day after the child was born, my mother-in-law took my husband's brother's child to the ward. At that time, the child had a cold and cough, and her husband politely asked her to go back, worried about infecting the newborn. My mother-in-law also ignored me, and later said that I was too hypocritical to take care of the children. Before giving birth to the baby, my father-in-law promised to give us money for confinement, but I didn't see a penny for a month. My mother-in-law bought two trotters for a whole month to sweep the floor three times. My mother sweeps the floor every morning. Every time she comes to sweep the floor, my husband says that my mother-in-law has just finished cleaning, but she still doesn't talk. She cleaned up and left to help me with my work. When the child was six months old, she came to my house to quarrel with me, scolded my parents and said that my mother and I bullied her. Later, she told her sisters that no matter how bad she was, I was still rushing to marry them. When the child is more than eight months old, he cries at night and goes to the hospital to see everything. Later, I couldn't ask my father-in-law to be superstitious and help me find a superstitious person to look after the children. I'm worried that the child will be frightened. My father-in-law said he didn't know such a person and then closed the door and left. He doesn't even want to help find it. He's still his grandson. Really, I am desperate for them. My husband and I got married in Hebei, Inner Mongolia. The bride price was given by her husband himself. Buy clothes and fruits for parents-in-law before and after marriage. When I quarrel with the baby in my arms, I have no idea to get along with them at all. Now, I pretend my parents-in-law don't exist. My husband sometimes says that I don't respect his parents. I really want to reply to him. What did your parents do that deserves my respect? Should I respect you just because I gave birth to you and raised you? I won't go to their house on holidays, and I won't go if my husband asks me to. Holidays are a happy thing, and people who don't want to see them will be in a bad mood. For those who treat children so coldly, I think I hope I will never see them again.

I had no direct conflict with my mother-in-law, but I had a quarrel with my father-in-law!

I had two fiercest quarrels with my father-in-law. Once, we bought a car in our first year of marriage, which cost him 6000 yuan. During the Spring Festival, I was eight months pregnant. We were sleeping in the morning when he suddenly called for money. We really don't have the money to think about buying a car and doing something to improve our life. I am pregnant, and I dare not rest before going to work. I called and said, Dad, we have no money now, and we have no money to have children. Can we wait? He said it was natural for me to pay my debts unreasonably. I know I have to pay back the money I owe, and I didn't want to blame him. So I had a quarrel on the phone on July 28! Later, I did what I had to do. On another occasion, I went back to my hometown after ten days of abortion and there was a conflict. He hit me, but I was not satisfied. I had a fight, but my husband refused to fight. One is a daughter-in-law, and the other is a father and husband. I just sat on the side of the road and cried. I called all the neighbors out and told them everything! It ended with us leaving home overnight. After that, he didn't call me dad or treat me like a child, otherwise he wouldn't have miscarried and hit me for more than ten days. He didn't buy me anything when I had an abortion. Even if he said something nice, my mother and my sister still put the pork ribs and trotters on his side. My husband says we can't finish eating, so let him eat. I said eat them! At that time, I thought it was nothing. The older you get, the more you regret it. It won't be the last straw to crush a camel, so be it!

It's good to be a familiar stranger. Maybe the experience they summed up here will be better for their next daughter-in-law! At least my heart won't get hot. People used to say forget it. It really doesn't matter. I just don't want to talk about it anymore!

It is normal to have conflicts and quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It is easy to solve everything by pointing them out. Some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law don't sulk if they have contradictions. They all talked to the man and said that if the man knew both sides of persuasion and communication, the contradiction would escalate.

Peng Jie, my neighbor upstairs, quarreled with her daughter-in-law. The reason is that her daughter-in-law's relatives came to her house and stayed for more than ten days. My mother-in-law cooks all three meals, and she has to look after the children. When leaving, this relative said that her mother-in-law looked pale and was very angry. That's why women fight. The next morning, my mother-in-law still got up early to cook. I didn't expect her son and daughter-in-law to go to work without eating or saying hello. My mother-in-law is so angry that my daughter-in-law won't eat or ignore it. I didn't expect my son to be like this. She just wants to pack up and go back to her hometown and never come back. Seeing that grandchildren don't want to go back, my mother-in-law wants to see them come back for dinner at night. A meal was cooked in the morning, and my mother-in-law was angry and didn't eat for a day. Come back together in the evening, without talking, eating the rice cooked in the morning. The next day, my mother-in-law didn't get up early to cook, and my daughter-in-law didn't say hello to work. My son told my mother that she had gone to work, and my mother-in-law planned not to cook dinner. In the afternoon, my daughter-in-law called and asked her mother-in-law what to eat for dinner. What kind of food to buy home, my mother-in-law simply replied, buy whatever she wants and do whatever she wants. When my daughter-in-law came back from shopping at night, she asked her mother if she had cooked porridge, what food she bought and what to say. Let the mother-in-law eat the rice first, and it will be fine slowly. It's a long story, don't compete with your family, especially the gay men who use their brains in the middle.

It's a little bad to tear your face! Your husband must be embarrassed.

There is no need to worry about this situation. Because as long as you don't leave your husband. You're still her daughter-in-law She is still your only mother-in-law Your life will go on as usual Wait until the Spring Festival. You can take this opportunity to show it. For example, wrap some zongzi in your hand during the Dragon Boat Festival. Buy a beautiful gift for Mid-Autumn Festival with moon cakes and call her on your own initiative. Or a business trip or something. Bring her a present. Even give them some warmth. I believe my mother-in-law will let bygones be bygones.

The average mother-in-law is not too much, and it is not good for us as younger generations to dispute with them. After all, she raised and trained your favorite husband. Without them, how can you have your husband! We should help our husbands to be filial to them. If they are in a good mood, won't their husbands appreciate you? Cherish you more. This is my humble opinion.