There is a "smelly girl" at home. How can it be broken?

This 5-year-old cutie looks in the mirror every day to match her clothes. Her mother bought her a mini wardrobe. She tidies her clothes every day and can change clothes three times a day! It's common to look in the mirror for ten minutes ... and turn out my mother's hidden cosmetics without looking! ! ! She is very sensitive to beautiful clothes. The first time I saw other children wearing snow boots, she remembered it until she bought it, and then she couldn't put it down ... I'm still young, and I'm worried about it when I grow up. Now we don't have a good education method! Sometimes it goes too far. If I tell her not to flatter herself, she will be disgusted and even cry. I am mainly worried that when she grows up, she loves beauty too much and ignores other things that are more meaningful to life!

How to write? Just like chatting between friends, as a father, I understand your efforts for the children's heart!

What is the impact on children's future love of beauty? Let's tell a story around me first.

Speaking of "smelly beauty", the classic case that comes to my mind first is my colleague Molly, whose makeup has always been exquisite. It's not that she is full of big names, but that every time she matches it properly, from style to color matching, it always gives people the feeling of unconventional.

She is also the fashion vane of the company, and all the ladies around want to enter a new lipstick number. When they can't make up their minds about the new fashion, they always ask Molly for advice. Molly will share her experience seriously and patiently, without cold airs.

Don't think that Molly is just a flowery "vase", she does things with great efficiency. Every project has been completed beautifully, and the small details are unambiguous. Take the trivial matter of binding a report as an example. Staples are always obliquely nailed at 45 degrees in the upper left corner, which is particularly neat and beautiful.

Later, I became familiar with it. I sometimes joked with her: "Are you such a perfectionist very tired?"

Molly didn't answer directly, but told me the story of her childhood:

Molly's mother just happened to be laid off, and suddenly there was no iron rice bowl in the middle, which had a great impact on her life. In order to earn more income for the family, mother began to learn to set up stalls. In order to save a few dollars in moving freight, a thin woman carries several bags of goods between the wholesale market and the small booth every day. The hardest thing is winter, and she really experienced the biting cold wind. The heavy down jacket couldn't stop the howling cold wind, and my mother was shivering with cold, and her hands were too stiff to hold the bicycle handle. . . . It's particularly difficult.

Even if life is no longer easy, my mother always puts on lipstick, combs her hair carefully and washes our clothes clean. At that time, although there was little money at home, it was neat and clean so that we didn't have the dilemma of the sky falling. I also asked my mother why it was so delicate when it was so difficult. Mother replied faintly: "Although it is not easy, people feel less bitter when they are refreshed, and they are also angry with themselves."

At that moment, I really felt that "living beautifully" was not for others, but for myself.

Now, Molly's daughter perfectly inherits her mother's love for beauty. In terms of clothing, she has her own aesthetics at a young age. "Now when I buy clothes and shoes, I basically take her with me and let her pick and choose." Molly told me.

Don't ask why it's so troublesome, because who knows if she likes my choice? If she doesn't like it ... well, she won't wear it! Before going out last time, I suddenly had an idea to try on the newly bought A-line skirt for her. She was particularly satisfied after wearing it. She shook her skirt on the spot and sang, "I shook my little skirt, hmm ~ it's beautiful!" "

Beautiful women don't dress up as adults and are not vulgar. For example, many TV stations engage in children's model dance competitions to make children wear heavy makeup, dress coquettish and make sexy moves. That's a great misunderstanding of beauty. Instead of letting children sneak around, why not generously share their feelings about beauty with their daughters? Cultivate children's aesthetics and taste early and learn to appreciate the beauty in life. Why not?

What do you think of Molly's view on parenting? Beauty is everywhere. Instead of worrying that the children's path is getting narrower and narrower, it is better to open the beautiful door with the children.

In fact, I especially understand this father. I can see my appreciation and love for children between the lines. As a father, my baby daughter is the cleverest little princess and the most beautiful little fairy in the world! It is precisely because of this fear of love in the mouth and loss in the hand that there are all kinds of worries: will children only pay attention to the outside and go astray?

Let's talk about the method again!

Protect children's aesthetic sensitive period.

The aesthetic sensitive period often occurs in children aged 2.5 5. They began to have aesthetic requirements for themselves and the environment. If a biscuit is broken, they will cry. If the toilet is a little dirty, they will pee their pants. Especially girls will have a strong interest in their own clothes and costumes. Be sure to dress according to your own ideas, but also be meticulous and neat, like a princess dress, like a mother's high heels, like looking in the mirror, etc ... In fact, this is a normal phenomenon in the development of children. Patiently understand the child's mind, respect the child's pursuit of beauty, care for the child to get through this stage, and help him or her lay the foundation of beauty consciousness.

Increase opportunities to get in touch with all kinds of beautiful things.

When children establish the concept of "beauty", we can guide them to discover a bigger world. Beauty is everywhere, but not everyone can find and appreciate it. Only those who can find beauty will have more beautiful experiences and more fun in life. Primary school students' understanding and observation are limited, so parents should point out beautiful things in time to attract their attention.

Is the change of clouds in the sky beautiful? Are those two children studying hard in the shade beautiful? Is volley a beautiful high jumper? ..... Under this long-term guidance, children will be more sensitive to beauty. Children gradually know that beauty is not only the blooming flowers, but also the green leaves that set them off. Not only the heroes on TV are beautiful, but many ordinary people in life are also beautiful; Art is beautiful, so is sports. Even climbing mountains in the suburbs, having fun on the grass and watching flowers in the park are all opportunities for children to get close to beautiful things.

It is also beautiful to have a clean family environment. Lead children to clean and decorate their homes, so that children can beautify themselves while beautifying the environment.

When the children are older, you can take them to libraries, museums, concerts and art exhibitions. Don't think that children don't understand that the so-called listening is close to Zhu Zhechi. Seeds planted in spring will naturally break ground and germinate.

Cultivate a hobby that has nothing to do with interest but is related to beauty.

Whether it is painting, calligraphy, musical instruments or dancing, children can be guided to give it a try, but parents should have a healthy attitude, and don't "force" their children to study, take exams for certificates, get extra points for further studies or increase their income. The ultimate essence of art education is to make people have fun, but the thing itself is attractive, not what I can do after I do it. The pleasure brought by art is lasting. With the continuous improvement of self-cultivation, we will feel its beauty more and more.

Parents should have aesthetics and spirit.

I have a friend who is good at home decoration. Going to her house is a great enjoyment for us. Once we traveled together and stayed in an expensive resort hotel. As soon as my daughter entered the hotel, she said, this is like my home.

That is to say, my friend bought suitable and beautiful things through his own taste, and made his home beautiful and comfortable, as good as a high-class hotel. And I want to emphasize that this friend didn't spend much money. So, how much is her labor worth? If their home is transformed into a hotel, that is to say, they have five-star hotel suites worth thousands of dollars every day.

If you live with your heart, life will treat her gently.

Having said that, I think the father should have his own judgment in his heart.

However, I am especially determined to instill a sense of beauty in the details of the child's growth, cultivate his feelings of beauty, and make it easier for him to contact and create a better life when he grows up.

I believe that sentence even more, "The hand that pushes the cradle is the hand that pushes the world." Parents raising children, your beliefs and choices are the future of this world.