Is it really difficult for people who have been single for a long time to find a partner?

When it comes to love, everyone has different feelings. Some people have been in love several times and have tasted the ups and downs of love, while some people are still single when they are over 28 years old. Love is like a luxury product and is out of reach.

In real life, there is a type of people who obviously have good conditions and are not celibate, but they have been single for many years and cannot find a partner. Why is this? There are no more than these five reasons:

1. They are used to being single and do not take the initiative to look for love

Many people are busy studying and working when they are young, and do not pay attention to finding a partner. Take it to heart. Over time, I got used to living alone.

Being single for a long time can really make you addicted. When you are alone, you can make your own money and spend your own money without any restrictions. You don't need to consider the thoughts of your partner, and you don't have to suffer the pain of love. It's very free and unrestrained.

After work, I read, watch movies, exercise, and learn musical instruments. My life is very fulfilling. The life of a single nobleman feels very good, and it seems that there is no need for another person to join.

Although I have also longed for love, I am accustomed to single life and do not take the initiative to look for love. Whether love knocks on the door is left to chance.

2. Having been hurt, I no longer believe in love

Many people expect a sweet and beautiful love, but the reality is not as good as expected. They did not meet the right person at the right time, and their relationship I was hurt once and haven't come out of it for a long time.

It’s not scary to talk about failed relationships. What’s scary is that it leaves scars and shadows. I still miss that person, or I don’t dare to love anymore, or I don’t want to open my heart easily again. Even if you meet someone who wants to be nice to you, you still shut them out.

I don’t believe in love anymore, I don’t believe that someone will be sincere to me, so I close myself off and miss the happiness I should have. This is a very sad thing.

3. Too picky and dissatisfied with everyone

Some girls have a dream of Prince Charming because they are good-looking and have good conditions in all aspects. In reality, All the suitors were dissatisfied.

But no one is perfect, and no one is tailor-made for one person. If you are too picky, it will be difficult to find happiness.

There are also girls who, when they were young, missed out on an excellent boy because they didn’t know how to cherish it. From then on, they just want to find a better one. That boy used to be the lowest standard.

But as a girl grows older, her competitiveness in the marriage market gradually decreases, and it is very difficult to find a better boy. I couldn't achieve high or low, and it was difficult to find a suitable husband, so I stayed single.

4. Lack of self-confidence and giving up too easily

Some people cannot find a partner, not because of poor conditions, but because of lack of self-confidence. Confident people have their own halo, but if they lack self-confidence, it is easy to miss the happiness they should have.

Due to lack of self-confidence, during the blind date, if the other party does not clearly indicate that they want to continue to get to know each other, they will think that the other party is rejecting, and they will stop contacting you without asking the inappropriate reasons.

Such people have a very fragile heart and always think that the other person looks down on them. Even if the other party really wants to refuse, you should ask clearly why. This will help you understand yourself better and make improvements in future blind dates.

5. Lazy and lazy

Some people want to find a partner, but they only talk about it and never take any actual action. I didn't seize the opportunity when I was young, but now that I'm older, it's getting harder and harder to find a partner, so I just stopped looking.

Finding a partner, especially a satisfactory partner, is really not an easy task. Because it’s difficult, some people shrink back and stay at home. It’s so comfortable to watch dramas and play games alone. Why do you have to work so hard to make others like you?

There are also people who are just lazy and waiting for the partner to come to their door, but that is just a fantasy. Although I want to have a sweet relationship, in reality I am too lazy to meet people and pursue others, so it is not surprising that I have been single for so many years.

In fact, any normal person can find a partner. The key is what kind of mentality he has. Everyone should first know themselves, know what kind of person they want to find, what kind of people they can get in touch with, and then spend time and energy to find them.

Finding a partner is a very important matter, related to one's happiness for the rest of life, but many people don't take it seriously. Let time pass by, and when you get older, you start to worry, but it’s hard to find, so why bother?

You should look for a partner as early as possible, don’t be afraid of trouble, and don’t have low self-esteem. Think more about the sweetness after falling in love, and improve yourself more, and you will definitely be able to get out of singles.