Can you accept the children brought by your second marriage?

True love has a time limit, not to mention that you just found one to get rid of loneliness. Your loneliness is that you lack a woman, not a child. You are someone else's child. Your motives don't match the results you bear. It depends on how you improve yourself. Fall in love with her and tolerate her children! Put her down. Give up her baby! There is also whether it is worth it, and you can measure it yourself.

I'm glad to accept the invitation and answer this question. First of all, I can tell you for sure that I can accept it, completely.

First of all, we are both married for the second time. Generally speaking, a married family will involve children more or less. If two people can get together, it won't be easy. On the contrary, if there is a contradiction because of the children's affairs and the relationship between husband and wife is affected, I think it is really not worth the candle.

I'm a divorced family myself. The reason why children were not allowed to follow their ex-wife was because her ex-wife liked playing mahjong. I'm afraid she can't take care of the children, so I resolutely choose to take care of the children alone. In the past few years, I have experienced many hardships, but I am more glad that I have made a wise choice.

I haven't found a suitable partner myself at present. If I find the right partner, I won't care about her children at all. On the contrary, I will take care of her children more seriously than my own children and let them know that I really like their mother and son. It is also very important that a mother who can take care of her children after divorce is a very responsible mother to a certain extent, because if she is not a responsible mother, she can leave her children with her ex-husband. In this respect, I will admire these women even more.

On the contrary, if you can't really accept each other's children, it is impossible for you to form a family with each other. If you want the other person to accept you, the first thing is that you must accept the other person's children. If you can't even accept each other's children, you can't make them accept you. I hope my simple answer can help the landlord.

You are not your own child, but you should love me, love my dog, and treat me as your own? This requires breaking the shackles of human nature, which requires men to be broad-minded and kind. This is really a bit overwhelming. Some people also say that it is selfish not to accept the children brought by the other party. For this kind of evaluation, the essence of the problem is ignored, which comes up to moral kidnapping. I really don't agree.

First, face up to the problem, not black and white. Second marriage, money and children are the two biggest problems that couples face. How to treat children, if not handled well, it is difficult to have happiness in the second marriage.

Love me, love my dog is certainly a good thing. Properly handled, the conflict between husband and wife can be reduced by half. However, how high is this requirement for the other party? A person's love is limited, not infinite and free. Marrying you not only loves you, but also loves my family, my dog, your children, your family, your family. Men are not perpetual motion machines for love. He doesn't have that kind of love. Just loving you has given him everything.

If you don't love me, love me, love my dog, and treat me as one of your own, that's selfish? Don't label it so casually. If you are not your own child and have no natural feelings, how difficult it is to treat yourself as your own.

Can do it, very good. If you can't do it, you should also show understanding. Don't do such black-and-white things as the former sending flowers and the latter sending sticks.

Second, the family is running-in, and it is still necessary to run-in the three-story first marriage family. This is especially true for second-marriage families. After getting the marriage certificate, not all problems have been solved. The running-in problem still needs a process. The same is true of the other child before marriage.

According to your description, you should get married soon. At different stages, the main aspects of the problem are different. Before you get married, your question is how to marry her. After marriage, the former problem was solved, and the main aspect of the problem became the children before marriage. It takes time and running-in to solve these problems. According to the degree of running-in and acceptance, the attitude towards children can be divided into three levels:

Third, a happy life needs more tolerance. Since you have chosen the second marriage, you need to be patient, careful and persistent, and try to solve this problem. Don't give up just because you encounter setbacks halfway.

In the face of children before marriage, when one party says that there is a gap in his heart and there is a contradiction between husband and wife, he often sees two kinds of statements. Here I state my views:

For the sake of marriage stability and family happiness, I suggest you have a child of your own. In addition, give yourself some time, adjust your mentality and actively run in. I am already on the way to my second marriage, and I want to find a way to live a happy life.

Don't play dumb, don't stay at home. If you want to live a happy life, you need more consideration and tolerance.

Finally, combining my thoughts and experiences, I will answer your questions comprehensively. Can you accept the children brought by your second marriage? To be honest, it's hard to accept psychologically. However, if I love my wife deeply, I will try to adjust myself. Even if I can't reach the level of loving me, loving my dog and treating me as my own, I will do my duty as a stepmother.

So, can you love me, love my dog and treat me as one of your own?

Selfish people can't live well I'm afraid your divorce is selfish. You are married for the second time, and you want to find an unmarried woman. Obviously, the woman's condition is the same as yours, and you can't accept other people's children. Why do people accept your children? You can't be happy after several marriages.

If you really love this man or woman, you can accept, love me, love my dog, after all, the blood of the person you love flows in the child.

A man who marries normally will not find a woman who marries twice and has children, especially a woman who marries twice and has boys, because there are too many problems.

1, in general, a second-married woman is more acceptable to men when she has a girl, because the girl is diligent and obedient and spends relatively little money and material on her. After marriage, she will be carefree and get a bride price if she is lucky.

Women and boys who get married for the second time are different. The boy is naughty and unruly, not his own. He looks very upset every day and feels that he is raising a son for others, which is easy to cause psychological imbalance. More importantly, he will spend money to marry him, have children, buy a car and buy a house. In the end, he may not be grateful to you, but he has a baiwenhang.

3. In addition, the second marriage, whether it is a boy or a girl, even a bowl of water is impossible. For example, it is normal to go out to buy clothes at low prices and high prices, but it is unfair to married couples who care about this matter and it is discrimination against their children. After a long time, it will cause other problems, not to mention the second marriage family, even the first marriage family.

Solution: No matter the first marriage or the second marriage, whether the other party has children or not, since you chose the second marriage. Be mentally prepared. Getting married means becoming a family. Husband and wife should understand each other, support each other, tolerate each other, treat each other's children as their own, be calm when things go wrong, and keep good communication between husband and wife at all times. Only in this way can the family be happy and the feelings will not be destroyed by trivial matters.

If I'm unmarried, first of all, I won't take the initiative to choose a second married woman. Second marriage means a failed life experience. I don't know why. She is inextricably linked with the past, and I don't think I can handle these complicated relationships.

Secondly, there is nothing wrong with an unmarried man choosing an unmarried woman. The experience of unmarried women is relatively simple and more recognized by relatives and friends. This is the general choice of the public. I am an ordinary person, and I will follow secular ideas and principles more often.

But everything can't be generalized. If I get divorced, what reason do I have to criticize others? Both sides have experienced a failed marriage, and they can better understand the difficulty of marriage and appreciate each other, so it should be easier to get along.

It's not that unmarried men can't accept divorced women, but that many women have married their first love men and lived happily. A failed marriage is not necessarily a fault, but we should learn from the failure and make our next marriage happy.

When an unmarried man accepts a divorced woman, he must find out the reasons for the divorce and understand the life of the woman. A good woman has experienced misfortune and deserves to be cared for. Let the past be the past. What is the relationship between divorce and non-divorce? Marriage wants happiness, not dwelling on the past.

If I identify this divorced woman, the child will definitely accept it. The child is naive and simple. If you love him, he will repay you with love and exchange his heart for his heart. Although I have more responsibility, I have also gained a relative, which is worth it.

The landlord divorced himself, so it is no problem for women to accept divorce. The essence of the problem is that he can't accept children. The landlord must think clearly about his acceptance. If you really can't accept the existence of children, I suggest you give up as soon as possible.

The child has been scarred in a broken family, and the young mind can't stand being hurt again. I don't ask you to be generous and selfless, but I also appreciate your frankness.

But children exist objectively and will exist for life. If you can't accept them all the time, children will definitely be an obstacle to your marital happiness.

Actually, there is really no truth in marriage. After all, feelings are the most unreasonable in the world. There's not that much back and forth. Many times when you fall in love, you fall in love. You don't care about each other's family background, and you don't care about each other's experiences.

When you fall in love with someone. You only see his good points, and all his shortcomings have been filtered out by you. Even some girls will lose their minds, have a heated discussion with their parents for one person, and even forget all their parents' advice.

So if it were you, would you be willing to accept a divorced man with children? These unmarried girls spoke their minds.

Ms. Yang, if it were me, I'd like to see if I am in tune with him.

As we all know, divorced men with children have a really bad reputation, and my heart is not that strong. I also care about what others think of me and my face. I know what kind of treatment will be given to a divorced man with children in our small county.

I have some psychological preparations for these. Therefore, under such circumstances, I dare not take risks easily. I will go and see if my relationship with him is really that good, and the three views are particularly consistent. If I am sure that he is really good to me, I may marry him. Apart from these circumstances, nothing is possible.

After all, my words are not so open, and there are still some traditional ideas in my mind. I really need some courage to break these traditional ideas and marry a divorced man with children.

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Ms. Wang, if it were me, I wouldn't marry.

I myself, an unmarried girl, have never been married, and the other party once had a marriage. I denied it from the beginning and didn't want to associate with him again.

No matter how suitable we are, these are my bottom line and my principles. Although people are equal, there is no difference between marriage and divorce. However, I can't accept it in my heart.

If you marry such a man, there will always be some estrangement in your heart. Under such circumstances, I believe I won't get along with them so happily.

Many people may think it's nothing, as long as two people really love each other, then anything can be done, but what I said, I can't accept it, this is really my truth.

I once had a friend who married a man who was married twice and had a child in the other family. Now, their family is actually quite happy, but even so, I can't change my opinion.

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Ms. Liu, if it were me, I would marry him if I loved him very much.

I am a decisive person, and I believe that people are people and will not change easily. So if I am satisfied with him, or he is good to me, then I will marry him under such circumstances.

Actually, getting married is very simple. Nothing more than meeting someone you love and he loves you back. If two people get married hand in hand, many people agree very much.

In the meantime, I don't care whether she is married or not. As long as we are happy when we are together, have a topic, have the same view and are suitable for each other, then I think we can combine.

I don't have so many rules and regulations in my heart, and I don't have so many bad intentions. What I hope to meet is a pure love, and I hope that the other party can treat me like a princess, and the two of us will create our own married life together.

I don't want too many disputes in our marriage. These words are not what I want to see.

For an unmarried girl, it is actually difficult to accept a divorced man with children. After all, he hasn't experienced many things personally. I don't know what it means to her to marry such a man with children. Coupled with the influence of parents, it is actually more difficult for her to make such a decision.

But in any case, there are exceptions to everything. I hope you can think about many things by yourself. If you really meet that very suitable person, then I also hope that you can abandon some current prejudices and marry him bravely.

After all, some people really miss it once and it's hard to meet it again. It's no use regretting it at that time.

This may be what kind of men can understand and do, but also accept; It all depends on what a man likes her best and wants her most. Only when he clearly knows that he loves you, can he happily accept everything about your child, so that good actions will soon begin to listen to the man who wants to love her. It's really beautiful.