What happened to the love that my parents opposed?

What happened to the love that my parents opposed?

0 1, the person worthy of love and the person worthy of love are two different things.

If the world stands on the opposite side of you, it may be that the whole world is wrong, and it is more likely that you are wrong. Love someone or do something. But later, I found that reality will always give you a slap in the face unexpectedly, and you have to admit that being with the right person who deserves love is two different things; What is worth doing and what is wrong are two different things.

What is worth loving is the condition of seeing each other. When I was young, I thought I was handsome enough. When I grow up, I think people who should be considered in many aspects are looking at each other's personality. Maybe parents know this better than you do.

Marrying a person also means marrying a family.

There are many reasons for the disagreement between parents, such as personality, external conditions, personality and temper. Of course, there are good and bad things, but for whatever reason, parents will always participate in your lifelong events from what they think is good. When we hate that they are used to posing as "I walk more than you eat salt" and trying to persuade you to turn back, maybe we should also reflect on whether this person is your so-called lover.

But often, strong love will dilute our understanding of parents and blindness to lovers. It is inevitable that the misunderstanding will escalate and finally cannot end. It is said that falling in love is a matter for two people, but marriage is not. This is about two families.

As long as we work together in Qi Xin, we love each other enough to share weal and woe. No one can stop us from being together. But then I gradually found out that all marriages without parents' blessing will have some problems in the future. In reality, there are too many couples who break up because of family, even couples. Maybe at the beginning, they may blame their parents and think that they are guilty of interfering with their happiness at will.

But later they found that some people can't get married even without the intervention of their parents. Even if you enter marriage, there will be many contradictions. Maybe you shouldn't blame your parents at all, but you should blame yourself for your misfortune. It's just that your parents found out earlier. Some marriages broken up by your parents may be painful at first. But later you will find that what suits you better in the end may really be what your parents think.

So, the key question is: Can you see who is more suitable for you?

03. Love is romance, and marriage is daily necessities.

If a person has no ambition at all, you think you love him enough. Because I love him, I feel that everything can be tolerated. So what if you have no money, no house and no car? As long as there is love, it is enough. However, your parents will tell you: no, you can't marry him. You can stand it for a while, how can you stand it for a lifetime?

Love is romantic, and marriage is daily necessities. If you live with such an unambitious man all your life, you can endure short-term poverty, but you can't endure long-term poverty. You didn't listen. You chose love. But in the end, my husband either plays games every day or mixes drinks every day; Children aside, I dislike you even more.

You work hard for your life, and your beautiful young face is gone. He blames you for not knowing how to protect yourself. At this time, you recall what your parents said to you and regret it. I sigh that if I had listened to them and thought about it again, I might be happier and better now than I am now. A person who cares only about herself and ignores her parents, you think it is enough that you love her. But your parents will tell you: No, you can't marry her.

Such a woman is too selfish. Now you can tolerate her because you love her and spoil her. However, have you ever thought that everyone who is loved has nothing to hide? Was the love tragedy between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman not just a real example? Their love was not accepted by their parents or blessed by their friends. They think that love is enough to overcome everything and throw themselves into marriage without hesitation. The good times didn't last long. Their marriage life is constantly in friction, and the gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a faint fuse.

Friction comes more from their gradually exposed personality differences. They are originally people from different worlds, and their personality differences are extremely obvious, so contradictions naturally arise. Shortly after marriage, Lu Xiaoman's status as a social butterfly made her irresistible to Shanghai, which was obsessed with money. She returned to her social circle like a duck to water, spending money like water, not like a wife at all. And Xu Zhimo's affection will be exhausted by more and more profligacy.

Finally, she had an affair. This marriage ended in a helpless tragedy. I don't know, has Xu Zhimo ever regretted a moment?

04. Don't lose your mind because of so-called love.

A person who has no opinion at all, you think it is enough that you love him. But parents will tell you: no, such people are too weak to make up their minds. It will break your heart if you follow him. You think what your parents say is unnecessary and mind your own business. In fact, these are all their difficulties.

Perhaps the older you get, the more open-minded you are and the more independent your feelings are, so you will inevitably go to extremes when you meet life choices. Don't lose your mind because of so-called love. Don't blame your parents for losing their minds. Of course, if some parents object just because they don't understand you enough, I hope you can be patient and communicate with the people you love more.

I believe you will fall in love with the right person. If not, I hope you can face it. If the world stands on the opposite side of you, it may be that the whole world is wrong, but it is more likely that you are wrong. Therefore, it is more important than anything to know whether this person is the one you should love and whether this matter is the one you should do. So don't blame your parents easily.