How important is entertainment in China?

Entertainment is a major feature of China, or rather a "bad habit".

To test its origin, it can be traced back to the gene of social hunting in primitive society. At that time, a group of people had to get together in order to survive. Later, due to the infiltration of Confucian culture, China people developed their social activities to a certain extent, paying attention to reciprocity, conformity and face-saving projects, and gradually became social parties. Entertainment is a group of people alone in the noise, talking about irrelevant scenes, just to prove that they are gregarious. Sometimes, I will take part in some competitions that I don't want to go to, just for fear that I will always refuse others and be considered unsociable.

In developed countries, there is no such word as entertainment.

My master classmate went abroad with his family to Singapore. After living for a while, according to her, her relationship with her husband has improved. Because there is no entertainment, talking about work is at the desk, not at the dinner table. So her husband can go home after work, go out for an outing with his family on weekends, and sometimes have a happy babique with his neighbors. Although Singaporeans are a little anti-Chinese, students will not regret not socializing. She said, "I didn't realize what life is until I came to Singapore."

The same is true in China, where the economy is relatively developed and the entertainment phenomenon is relatively few. The more backward the area, the more prosperous the entertainment customs are. The older you get, the more backward you are, and the more obsessed you are with social ideas. In fact, if we look at the young people around us, there are not many people who are keen on socializing after 80 s and 90 s, and the main force of socialization is often after 50 s, 60 s and 70 s.

I have a female classmate who works in a state-owned enterprise. She is beautiful and cheerful. Since work, she has followed the leader out to socialize every day. I have been socializing a lot and I am really familiar with the unit leaders. However, in the past few years, I have not gained any substantial benefits except being able to move freely between several departments by virtue of my relationship. Nowadays, when people reach middle age, they wander around like "fan Mei Sheng".

She paid a lot for socializing.

Not only do I have no time to spend with my children, but also because men are always indispensable in social occasions, some people with ulterior motives at work begin to spread rumors, and some words are very unbearable. After a long time, it will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife. Her husband didn't trust her at first, and now they are getting divorced.

If you ask me, I'm not a bad lesbian, but my values are wrong and I put the cart before the horse. She wants to be strong and do a good job in her career, but she doesn't see clearly: those who are really good never get ahead by socializing, but by their ability. If you are very capable, you will naturally have more opportunities to accept entertainment. So it looks as if they are climbing up by entertainment. Actually, it's not. First of all, your character and working ability have been recognized by the leaders. In this case, the so-called entertainment is valuable. (Those hidden rules are beyond the scope of the text discussion, because they are "transactions" accurately, not entertainment)

I feel sorry for my female classmate. If she spends all these years with the leaders for entertainment on herself, she may be promoted with her own skills or extraordinary abilities; If she puts time into her children and husband, she will surely get a warm and harmonious home. After all, husband and wife are college classmates and have a good emotional foundation.

The disadvantages of entertainment are the same for men: firstly, it is harmful to health, and a bad habit inseparable from entertainment is China's "wine culture". Many men always drink when they are socializing, and get drunk when they drink. The ancients paid attention to "no food in the afternoon". They ate one or two game. Big fish and big meat fill the stomach, and then there are all kinds of "horse urine". In the long run, their stomachs are full and their health is gone!

The second harm is to hurt the feelings of husband and wife; The third hazard is to delay children's education; Fourth, those who are keen on socializing are actually promoting a bad atmosphere of everything, regardless of fairness; Fifth, it is detrimental to your own image. Socialists can easily give people the impression of being flashy, vain and clingy. Therefore, if your ability is not enough, instead of putting the cart before the horse and going out to socialize, it is better to spend more time improving your ability; People with strong ability also try to go out for entertainment as little as possible, because you have more entertainment, and others will blame your success on entertainment and relationships.

Some people will ask, are you making everyone lonely?

Of course not. I think the gathering of friends is an emotional exchange and relaxation. Everyone sits together and laughs freely, even if they have a drink once in a while.

What I object to is that "entertainment" refers to all kinds of "games" and "venues" that ordinary people say.

In this kind of "game", no matter whether you are familiar with it or not, you will start to call each other brothers after three rounds of drinking. In fact, if you go out, you may not know anyone tomorrow. Sitting for hours is more tiring than going to work. Lumbago, leg cramps, sitting upright and guarding a table of delicious food, I can't eat anything.

Between flowers, we should make three rules like children playing house. There are clear rules about who sits in what position, how many mouthfuls of wine to drink and who to worship first. Obviously, they are all the most formalistic things, but everyone has to act emotionally and everyone has to propose a toast. That kind of affectation is like ending a man's promise to a woman before marriage.

Everyone acts in an appropriate way.

However, after rest and noise, my mind is actually empty. None of those emotional words and warm words on the wine table just now remain in your heart.

How ironic! No wonder, we call him "Chang" and "Ju". In fact, we just built a venue where you can sing and I can perform on stage. From this point of view, China's language is really profound, and the words "bureau" and "field" have vividly revealed the essence of entertainment.

Isn't it funny to think so? But some people are just trapped in the "game" and enjoy it.

Why on earth is this?

Perhaps, we are all too impetuous and impatient.

Originally, feelings should be taken slowly, but now it is "all in the wine." Everyone is eager to have fun at the wine table and get friends with deep feelings. Originally, we should do our work seriously, but now we are eager to get through several bureaus and get on well with the leaders.

In fact, a real friend doesn't need you to socialize, and socializing can't change a real friend.

People, or be honest, do things seriously, relax yourself, others also relax, why not? As the saying goes, everyone has a steelyard in his heart. It is obvious how much work you have done and how much ability you have. No one is a fool.

Entertainment is really not as important as you think! On the contrary, your problem is just too much entertainment! Spend more time with your loved ones around you!

If you are a leader, please arrange less entertainment and don't let employees work overtime at the dinner table after work. Give them some time to spend with their families, let them drink less and take care of themselves, so as to reflect the warmth and grace of the leaders!

If you are a husband, please take less part in social activities. When drunk as a fiddler, my wife and children are worried that they can't sleep!

If you are a wife, please be less social. It is really unsafe for a woman to drink too much wine outside, and it is also a lady's demeanor!

If you are brothers, don't persuade your buddies to drink in social situations. You know, they are old and young! I hate people who say they can't drink when they are clearly unwell. He also says that "you should drink more when you are sick". I just stared at them when I saw them. What is your intention? Such people don't deserve to be friends. Perhaps, when people no longer regard entertainment as a normal state, but as a low-level social behavior, it shows that our society has really made progress.

May our life be less entertaining and more sincere companionship!

If there is such a person in your family who regards entertainment as a job and entertainment as a life, show him! Let him argue with me!

Hey, man, tell me about your place! You are too lazy to say so many toasts. You might as well go home and read a few pages and tell a story to your child!

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