Manipulate people's hearts

Let's see what the so-called "manipulating people's minds" really means. The premise is to manipulate other people's hearts, not your own. To put it bluntly, let others act according to their own ideas.

So how is this manipulation achieved? In other words, what can I do to make others listen to me?

Here, I need to distinguish my relationship with others, because different relationships will lead to different manipulation methods.

These behaviors are based on the understanding and evaluation of the situation of both parties, and then operate according to certain common sense. However, if one of them doesn't play by common sense, the result will often be unexpected. Of course, accidents may also be in the opposite direction. One is better than expected, and the other is not playing well.

To give a simple example, in the workplace, there are many things that superiors bully subordinates. The so-called "first-degree murder" is not a phenomenon that exists only now. It is also a fine tradition handed down by our ancestors, which shows human nature to the fullest. The operation of an organization needs some systems and some rules. This leads to the relationship between the superior and the subordinate, and how to perform the corresponding duties.

But has no one thought about it? Why should we follow this rule? Rules can be explicit rules or implicit rules. Everyone chooses his own way of doing things according to his own interests. Some people think that survival is a big problem. Not hungry is the primary factor in our work. There is nothing wrong with this, but if two jobs with the same treatment offer you an olive branch, that is to say, you have the right to choose. In this case, the choice made by an individual can better reflect the essence of this person.

I remember once I made a joke, which directly made me think about how this superior and subordinate power was given. It turned out that all the rules were my imagination. This may also be the reason why young people can maintain their individuality in the workplace now. They have this kind of consciousness since childhood, and they don't have to go through all kinds of experiences to think about it. Although the concept of right and wrong comes from their own hearts, it is normal for some people to embody this concept in their own behavior.

In real life, we will meet many people, including ourselves, living in a tangled state. In other words, there are some things we obviously don't want to do, but on the whole, this thing we don't want to do is often our best choice.

Writing here, I think, when we consider whether a choice is our current optimal solution, what factors do we consider? Is it just your own survival? Have to consider others? I understand that there are old people and young people in the world. When a person has a great responsibility, he is likely to do something against his will, just to ensure the quality of life of his family. But is this really the right thing to do?

Some people say that if you are not a family and don't enter a house, will there be such a family? No matter what you choose, your family will support you unconditionally. I believe there are, and I don't know how many. I hope the more such families, the better.

When we make a choice, if we can choose what we like best under some conditions that can satisfy our life, more extreme and satisfy our survival, is this normal behavior?

Maybe, maybe not, maybe appropriate, maybe inappropriate.

When our desires are reasonably regulated to a level, will there be a lot less people who can manipulate us? Pessimistically speaking, maybe not, because when you adjust from one level to another, there should be similar people to manipulate you.

Needless to say, life is a process of constant choice. We can accept the truth, but don't go into a dead end. "Young people with ideas can't get along well anywhere until ... they find similar people."

Manipulating people's minds may be divided into good and evil in terms of motivation. Manipulating people's thoughts can also be said to guide people's way of thinking, which is somewhat similar to our current educational feeling, including our family background. Although this manipulation period is very long, the effect is often achieved imperceptibly.

When the child's way of thinking is still unstable, it is very necessary to guide him with our common sense. This is to let the children stand on the shoulders of giants. The experience of the predecessor has made the next generation take less detours, and the advantages of people have been accumulated from generation to generation. I believe that although such behavior can also be regarded as a kind of manipulation, it is also a situation recognized by most people. It should be well-intentioned.

What is the premise of manipulating psychology? It's dependence. Without this relationship, manipulation can't be achieved anyway, unless the manipulated person is really a fool. What is the method? There is a very common word called "PUA" in these years, which appears in many fields. Basically, it makes a person lose the ability to control himself and be at the mercy of others. If you look carefully, you will find that in this case, the manipulated party must have a certain degree of dependence on the manipulated party.

Is there any way to avoid it? The most important thing is not to distort yourself. Don't do what you don't want to do. Unless you don't do it, it will affect your own survival. I can understand that everything I do is to survive (not necessarily recognized, and others don't need my approval), at least there is a bottom line, and I don't defend "darkness". Moreover, when you are in the dark, your heart turns to the light, and you have to endure hard days. After all, no one wants to struggle all the time.

I can really be independent of my will, or I may choose to be a "silent majority". Of course, it all depends on the individual. Some people are willing to go the other way, and we can't keep pulling. What should we do when we encounter so-called manipulation? Sometimes I think it's interesting. Let's make it clear. Since we have considered the avoidance method, we can basically see each other's intentions. Only by putting all your energy into each other can you find this control in time. Because everyone is not a fool, since we have found the clue, we will play with them if we are interested, and play with them if we are not interested.

Here are some questions:

What is the way of deliberate manipulation or even malicious manipulation?

If you don't accept malice and absorb negative energy, will energy still stay where it is?

So do you want to consider the pain of that energy-bursting person? When he spreads activities, if no one receives them, it will accumulate more and more. Is there anything wrong with this person?

The greater the ability, the greater the responsibility? Do I have the responsibility or obligation to accept these negative energies?

In addition:

How wonderful it is, it is a very interesting thing. Ordinary people may have a strong ability to produce negative energy, but they do not have the corresponding ability to digest the corresponding negative energy.

I am an ordinary person, which may be my characteristic. I can't represent all ordinary people at all.