I am 28 years old. I have no car or house. I only have one job, and my annual income is about 70,000 to 80,000. I don't have a girlfriend yet. I feel great now.

What is the age difference between men and women at marriage?

Speaking of which age is the best to get married? When is the best age to get married? There is no definite answer to these questions, at least with the development of society, the progress of the times and the difference of living areas, this answer will change. For example, when the ancient population was small, the rulers encouraged early childbearing in order to increase the population, enhance national strength. At that time, girls got married and had children at the age of 65,438+06, or even earlier. Those who are unmarried after the age of 20 are considered to be older girls. At that time, boys got married when they were about seventeen or eighteen. However, it's different now. With the development of society and the huge population, it is too late to carry out family planning, let alone have children early. Generally speaking, the more large and medium-sized cities, the later they get married. It is normal for men to be 34 or 35 years old, and many women are unmarried at the age of 30. Moreover, the more developed countries get married, the later Britain and the United States get married, and more and more people choose not to get married. The more backward areas or countries, such as rural areas, get married relatively early. As far as we know, most rural boys 18 years old get married and like to find a 20-year-old girl to marry, so they can help with farm work. It can be seen that different regions, different countries and different times have different requirements for the age of marriage.

Considering that the readers of this article are mostly urban people, let's discuss today: At what age is it appropriate for young people in contemporary China to get married? What is the best age to choose a partner? Speaking of this problem, perhaps the traditional view is that men and women are 25 and 26 years old respectively, and it is better for men to be 1, which is two years older than women. In fact, the traditional view may not be correct, just as thousands of years ago, everyone thought that the earth was flat and was carried on the back of a turtle. Whether a thing is right or not can only be known after careful consideration and practice. The survey shows that in modern times, it is more appropriate for a girl to marry a man aged 32 to 35 at the age of 24 to 25 in large and medium-sized cities in China. In other words, it is better for girls to get married before the age of 25, and it is more appropriate to marry a man who is 5 to 14 years older than you. If a girl reaches the age of 25 (26 at the latest) and doesn't marry herself as soon as possible, it will be even more difficult to get married later. But that boy is very good. As the saying goes, "a man is 40 flowers" and "a woman is 40 years old". Now there are more and more boys in big cities, and they don't get married until they are 30 years old. Why do you say that? There are many reasons. Let me go further:

Reason 1: Judging from the changes in the appearance and posture of men and women, girls are generally over 25 years old, and they are declining day by day, and the speed is very fast. At the age of 30, they look a little old. A woman is like the moon. It will be full at the age of 25. Why do girls age so fast? In addition to the genetic effect, it is also because women have menstruation every month and have lost body elements for many years. Boys are different. Boys grow slower than girls from childhood, and they begin to decline around the age of 30, much slower than girls. An elder sister in her fifties said that when she was 20 years old, she fell in love with a man 16 years older than her. Later, her parents said that the age gap was too big, and 30 years later, she said that the man was younger than she looked. As the saying goes, "women don't live to be old, men don't live to be old", which fully illustrates the physiological differences between men and women. We say that boys are at least five years older than girls. This is a fact. The maximum difference 14 years old is a psychologically acceptable range, but it is best to have a difference of about 9 years. Let me continue to talk about the reasons.

Reason 2: From the perspective of heredity and the birth of offspring, whether the offspring are healthy mainly depends on the mother, because the baby needs to grow up in the mother, and whether the offspring are smart mainly depends on the father. This is heredity. Young mothers can ensure the health of their offspring, while only older fathers are more likely to be smart. Because of the physiological differences between men and women. Women's IQ basically stopped growing at the age of 18, so many very old women still look naive. Men are different, men develop later than women, but men's IQ development is constantly growing, a bit like endless. The older they get, the smarter they get. When we say smart, we don't mean good memory, but strong ability to solve problems. Modern scientific research believes that the IQ of future generations is mainly inherited by the father.

Give a few examples:

Confucius: The age difference between parents is 54 years. He is the founder of Confucianism and the greatest philosopher, thinker and educator in China. His thoughts have influenced China for more than 3,000 years, and are still the code of conduct of China people.

Tchaikovsky: His parents are 18 years old, and he is the greatest musician. Famous for Swan Lake and Nutcracker.

Nikolai Gogol: The age difference between parents is 14 years old. He is the pioneer of satirical literature school, the founder of critical realism literature and the father of prose. Representative works include Diary of a Madman, Coat, Imperial Envoy, Dead Soul, etc.

Beethoven: The age difference between parents is 14 years old. He is one of the representatives of Vienna classical music school and the king of symphony. Representative works include the Third Symphony (Hero), the Fifth Symphony (Destiny) and the Ninth Symphony.

Madame Curie: The age difference between parents is 1 1 year. She is the most outstanding female scientist in Poland. She studied radioactive phenomena and discovered two radioactive elements, radium and polonium, and won the Nobel Prize twice in her life.

Einstein: By far the smartest person in the world. The age difference between his parents is 1 1 year. He was the greatest natural scientist in the 20th century, and his theory of relativity became the cornerstone of modern physics. Won the 1998 Nobel Prize in Physics.

Reason 3: The combination of old husband and few wives is more conducive to the career of men and the health of future generations. For many successful people, such as,, and so on, the age gap between husband and wife is very large. Sun Yat-sen and Soong Ching Ling, Wang, Lu Xun and Xu Guangping, Xu Beihong and Liao are all people in their twenties. Fate and Suha are 34 years old, Zhang Xueliang and 12 years old, Joe and Zhang are 22 years old, and Chen Yun is older than his wife 14 years old. Chen Yun lived with his wife for 57 years until his death.

Reason 4: From an economic point of view, men in their thirties are much better at supporting their families. Many of them have money and cars, and at least a certain number of wives, which is unmatched by boys aged 24 or 25. 24, 25-year-old boy, just graduated from college, no money, no children at all, can I use a screwdriver in my life? It's all unknown. Can you find a job? When will the work settle down? Again, even if I find a job right away, my salary is not high at first, so it's good to be able to support myself. Nowadays, it's too difficult to find a job. Many college students offer free probation and no salary. Therefore, when a girl aged 23-25 marries a man in her thirties, she basically does not have to suffer from poverty, and her life is very easy, and she immediately leads a stable life, even a good life. There is at least one man in his thirties, with beautiful and ugly appearance, fat and thin body, young and old, and adult Jackie Chan in his career.

Reason 5: Men generally have a feeling of caring for the weak, so there is a big age gap, and women will be loved very much, at least sharing a lot of housework. There is an example on the Internet. After graduating from college, a girl married a boy in her class. At the class reunion three years later, she said that she regretted it and should marry a man several years older than her, because that boy didn't know how to hurt her. She was too tired to work, so he read the newspaper. Such examples abound, showing that men generally like to love the weak. We are the same age, do we still need love?

Reason 6: Older men are mature and tolerant, and rarely quarrel with you fiercely, so the marriage will be more stable. Little boys, on the other hand, have no choice. Everyone is young and energetic, and no one will let anyone and no one will obey anyone.

Reason 7: According to popular statistics on the Internet, 85% of college lovers break up after graduation, and only 15% will get married. The year of graduation is the year of breaking up. According to the data in a newspaper we read, the breakup rate is 95%. Whether 85% or 95% is correct, it accounts for about 90% anyway. Why did you break up after graduation? The reason is also very simple, forced by harsh realistic pressure. Everyone has no job, no money and no children. It is very likely that their homes are not in the same city and they will not break up.

Reason 8: According to statistics, in recent years, "the smaller the age gap between husband and wife, the higher the divorce rate", and divorce is quite common within three years. According to Wuhan Evening News, the Civil Affairs Bureau of Hanyang District in Wuhan conducted a survey of divorced couples in 2000 and found that couples of the same age became the high-risk group with the highest divorce rate. At the same time, the marital status in Yichang also points out that the divorce rate of couples with age difference of 1 year in Xiling District is the highest, reaching 19.85%, and the divorce rate with age difference of 2 years is 17.44%. Three years apart, same age. The reasons are as follows. First, everyone is young, naive, impatient and tolerant. Second, because of economic reasons, the economy is not good, and giving birth to children is relatively tense, which is easy to cause quarrels. Third, both men and women are in their infancy. They are busy, physically and mentally exhausted, and have little or no communication time. Fourth, slaves and car slaves born out of men's and women's good faces, who pay off their loans every month, are not relaxed every day, and they are agitated when they encounter family problems. Fifth, the two sides have little income, lack of material foundation, and rely on the help of their parents, leading to various contradictions and conflicts.

Reason 9: Couples of the same age will not get divorced within three years. Even after the running-in period, they will still live 10 to 20 years after marriage, and the possibility of divorce is increasing than that of couples of different ages. Why is this? The ancients saw through it long ago, saying, "Women care about erotic people, and women love the pool carelessly." In other words, women are not beautiful when they are old, and men don't like them when they feel uncomfortable. There is another saying: "Women don't grow old by living, and men don't grow old by living". In other words, women age faster than men. If it is a couple of the same age, after ten or twenty years, the woman looks old and the man looks young, and the man will be dissatisfied. Therefore, couples of the same age look well matched when they get married, but after ten years, women are getting older quickly, becoming more and more unsuitable, and the possibility of divorce is increasing. He can ignore the joys and sorrows that you accompanied him before, survive the initial difficulties and give him the best youth. What's more, what I think is: "promotion and wealth will kill my wife." On the other hand, girls in their twenties marry men in their thirties. Although it doesn't look like a good match when you first get married, after ten years or so, with the passage of time, women will age faster than men, their looks will become more and more suitable, and the stability of marriage will become greater and greater. So there is another statistic, "The greater the age gap, the lower the divorce rate", which is why.

Reason 10: Men generally don't like strong women, so don't make yourself too strong. Women who are too strong will put a lot of pressure on men, resulting in no one wanting them. Therefore, it is best for girls not to go to graduate school, not to study for a doctor, and not to be a big boss. There are countless young doctors, strong women and high-paid white-collar workers who can't find a partner. Even if they want to study, they must get married before studying. According to reliable data survey, the ratio of unmarried men and women with high education is 1: 10, what a terrible number! In Shanghai, the ratio of blind date between men and women is1:10; In Guangzhou, 70% of the older unmarried population are women; In Shenzhen, the ratio of blind date between men and women is1:8; And the ratio of blind date between men and women is 1: 7. Therefore, girls should not make themselves old or strong. Undergraduate course is just right. While you are young, you should find a man in his thirties with good conditions before the age of 25 (26 at the latest). Don't be too picky. No one is perfect. We know several examples. Originally, she was a beauty of a beauty queen. She is too picky. Everyone has shortcomings. She has chosen for five or six years, and she is almost thirty years old. No man is interested in her now. First, she is not very beautiful. Second, everyone knows that she is too picky. No one can stand it. Her family said she was insane. Another beautiful woman, in her thirties, was rejected and finally took the initiative to chase an old divorced man with a child. Why do you think this is? Therefore, female college students graduate only for two years, at most three years, so they must marry themselves as soon as possible. The more they choose, the worse the conditions will be, not the better. After the age of 26, life is almost hopeless. It is your misfortune to have too high a vision. Unfortunately, not many women understand these truths. Nowadays, more and more large and medium-sized cities are "three-high leftover women" with high age, high income and high consumption. It seems that they are never going to get married in their lives. There is another important reason why girls don't want to go to graduate school. The higher their education, the harder it is for them to find jobs. If their major is good, so much the better. If their major is not good, about 30% female master students can find jobs, and 10% female doctoral students can find jobs. To tell you the truth, don't be afraid. Last year, the signing rate of female doctors in our school was 0%, and the school dared not tell anyone. This is just the opposite of boys, who have high academic qualifications and are easy to find jobs. I can't help it Men and women are just different. They are different in every way. Therefore, the most important thing for people to live in this world is to recognize the situation clearly and not to make subjective assumptions. Some parents know nothing. They said to their daughters, Go, go as high as you can, go as high as you can. Finally, they are too old to find jobs or husbands. This life is over. It may be a good thing for national construction, but it is a tragedy for itself.

According to the Survey Report on Social Marriage in China jointly written and published by the School of Psychology of Beijing Normal University, Jishi Information and Lily Marriage Research Institute in, the report results are basically consistent with our views. The report shows that more than 90% of women over the age of 23 think that men between the ages of 23 and 26 are ideal marriage partners, while only half of men around the age of 30 are "optimistic"; However, in 2006, the result was fundamentally reversed. In the eyes of women, the ideal marriage age of men was postponed to 365,438+0 years old, and the goodwill of men aged 30 and 365,438+0 years old suddenly increased to 80%. In other words, about 80% of women think that a 30-year-old man is the most suitable for marriage. This shows that many girls have gradually understood that men around 25 years old are not suitable for marriage, but we have to say that understanding is not enough. The ideal age of 365,438+0 will actually be pushed back for two or three years, especially if a man wants to support his family and must reach a certain social status. No matter in ancient times or in modern times, it is "wife values husband, mother values son". With the rapid development of society, and the greater the pressure, more people choose not to get married. The report also shows that most (more than 65%) men think the ideal marriage partner is a 25-year-old woman, and their chances of getting married have plummeted since the age of 30: at the age of 30, 25.5% men think they can marry her; At the age of 35, only 12.5% of men can accept it. Men are much more relaxed. Even at the age of 35, one-third of women are willing to marry him. By the age of 40, 15.2% of women chose him. Although official statistics show that the total number of men in China is higher than that of women, it seems that there are always more "leftover women" than "leftover men" in reality. The report also said that people with similar personalities are more likely to fall in love, and "strong men and weak women" have high marital satisfaction. More than 20% couples "regret marriage" within three years of marriage, and income is not unrelated to the quality of marriage. The wife has a bachelor's degree or above, and the husband's marital satisfaction is significantly higher than that of the husband with a college degree or below. If the husband's education is higher than his wife's, the marital satisfaction is obviously higher than his wife's education.

The requirements for a good wife are: young, beautiful, pure and gentle; The requirements for a good husband are: a certain social status, the ability to earn money to support the family, parents, children and wife. Therefore, girls should never do anything that goes against these four requirements. As soon as girls grow up, these advantages disappear. Some girls talk about friends and even play house with boys, but they waste their feelings and damage their advantages. Those boys in their early twenties can only play with you. Do you really think they can give you any life security and happiness? He will only hurt you in a few years. Even if he doesn't want to get married before the age of 30, he doesn't have the basic conditions for marriage. But as a girl, you can't afford to play. At the age of 25, your end is coming, so you must plan your life from the age of 20, but you can't play like a boy. Speaking of love, don't have a rally. What should I do after five or six years and finally blow it? What if there is no life guarantee in the end? Girls are hurt. Exaggerated, two or three months is enough to see a person's basic essence, and girls can't afford it. If college girls really want to talk about friends, they can find master students or doctoral students, and unmarried university teachers are also good. In short, don't play emotional games with your classmates. It's impossible. The top ten reasons have been written in the front. But one thing should be noted, make sure that the other party has no wife, and don't be accidentally regarded as a mistress. Time is too cruel to women, and it is not good for women to choose their partners. There are only a few years between the ages of 20 and 25, but men are much more relaxed, and there are about 10 years between the ages of 28 and 38. I can't help it Men and women are different in every way. Therefore, you must not be too picky about women. Get married when the conditions are good, otherwise it will definitely get worse. Well, there are more and more leftover women in cities now, just because they are too picky. Boys in their twenties have no partners and are not worried. Study hard, work hard and earn more money. You won't reach your golden age until you are 30, your most valuable age.

Finally, it is good to get married when the conditions are almost the same. There is no complementarity and it is extremely inappropriate. Northerners had better not look for southerners, and urban people had better not look for rural people. Don't differ too much in academic qualifications. The more hobbies, the better. Different living habits and similar views on things. In short, the smaller the gap, the more stable the marriage. All divorces are caused by contradictions, and contradictions are caused by huge gaps in some aspects. Matching the right family is really the key to getting married.

All unmarried girls under the age of 25 and unmarried boys under the age of 30 who read this article are lucky. I wish everyone a happy family.