Have you ever "screwed up"?

Recently, the word "rotten" has rushed to the hot search again, frequently appearing on the internet and in the words of people around you. If you lose the game, let it go bad; If you can't keep exercising, let it go bad; If you can't finish the work, let it rot; Tired, rolled, and began to rot.

The so-called corruption means that if things can no longer develop in a good direction, they simply stop taking measures to control them and let things continue to develop in a bad direction. From the initial banter to the present, this word is slowly eroding our motivation.

The word "rotten" originated from American NBA basketball. In order to better balance the strength of each team, the NBA often obtains higher draft distribution rights for some teams that do not perform well in the league. Now, in order to complete the reconstruction, many teams deliberately destroy or even trade some fighting players, so that the teams lose their competitiveness and get high rankings, so as to get some potential young rookies in the coming year.

The original strategic arrangement has now become a symbol of self-abandonment, and has become synonymous with mourning culture, salted fish and lying flat. There are many people who preach that life becomes suddenly enlightened after being destroyed. Is that really the case?

I'm having a hard time myself. When I see that my lessons are difficult to review and there is little hope of passing the exam, I don't want to review any more, but I hope to make up or review them carefully in the next exam.

When you see that promotion is difficult, wages are difficult, and you get the same salary as going to work, you lose the motivation to work hard and start muddling through;

When you see that emotional problems are difficult to solve, and the object is still the same as "death", simply stop paying attention to feelings and think, "That's it, talk about it if you can, and divide it if you can't."

But what did I get from this way of avoiding the problem and breaking the jar? I'm just denying myself and giving up on myself. My studies have been abandoned, and only failure awaits me; I stopped working and didn't get attention; My boyfriend thinks I'm careless and wants to break up with me. I have nothing. My life is a mess.

The above phenomenon is not only me, but also many people. So, how to put an end to bad mentality?

Anthony robbins said, "Focus on what you want to achieve, not what you are afraid of." Don't regret the past and don't be afraid of the future. Many times when we are doing something, we are often biased by some erratic and disturbing things, thus wasting a lot of time and energy to fight against negative emotions.

Have you ever thought that when negative emotions come, we can refocus ourselves, which is the key to training ourselves not to screw up. The essence of "unaccustomed" should be to actively reject any disturbing ideas in the real environment and persistently achieve the original goal.

Pretend to exercise after work every day. Not this time, but when you haven't finished it many times and are determined to make up for it. This is called self-discipline, but when you feel tired from work and should have a rest, you are still fighting with yourself. When you really encounter these difficulties, you choose the initial goal and give up indulging in negative emotions, so you have the trait of "don't screw up".

A person's self-discipline is not the self-discipline when you start making a plan, but the self-discipline when you choose to fight every time you have a tendency to fall. Toughness is not born. Always when you face the temptation of comfort and want to destroy, you choose to face difficulties and become stronger and stronger. A person who can persist in running in the morning for a long time is not naturally suitable for running, but when he hesitates again and again because he gets up early and catches a cold, he chooses to run and becomes good at running.

No matter where the sunflower grows, it is known that it should be born in the sun. Open your energy to the place where there is light, so that there are sunshine and flowers around you. Face life positively and you will feel that life is warm and bright.