How can I overcome my shyness?

I guess you are introverted, inarticulate and not confident enough. This knowledge is just my guess, not necessarily correct. Don't know how to deal with people. And normal, so do many people. How to overcome it? I'm here to express my opinion.

1, build up confidence and believe that you can do everything well and speak it out in front of the public, no matter what others think.

When dealing with others, think about the general idea first. Then open your mouth and say, whatever it is. And it's not good for its appropriateness. As long as you can express yourself accurately, you don't have to pursue flowery rhetoric.

3. Observe how others do it. Find someone around you who is good at dealing with people and imitate him. There are some pleasantries that can be written down.

4. Many things are practiced, not born. With more practice, language is spoken. If you talk too much, you will get used to it and won't feel any difficulty. That's what I'm talking about.

In life, many people and books advise people not to disagree with others. This view and action is actually very one-sided and superficial, and it is also a manifestation of dishonesty.

On the contrary, there is another kind of person in life. They have almost become a habit and want to oppose others in everything. No matter what others say, even if there is no mature opinion in this regard, we should refute it as usual. If you say "yes", he must say "no"; When you say no, he must say yes. This is a terrible bad habit, and many people still have this bad habit. They often offend many colleagues or friends because they like to play the devil's advocate with others, and they know nothing about it.

Why do some people like to go against others? Because he only has himself in his heart and doesn't like to listen to other people's opinions.

In addition, such people think that they are better than others and should have the upper hand in everything. People who have this habit are often isolated by colleagues and friends. No one is willing to give him some useful suggestions, and no one dares to put forward his shortcomings and give him some suggestions. To say the least, even if we really have better knowledge than others, we can't pretend to show off and grandstanding; Even if others are wrong, we don't leave any room for each other at all, as if we want to embarrass others until they have no choice but to feel satisfied. That's also a very bad attitude.

So, how can we change this stubborn temper? The best way is to form the habit of respecting others.

We must understand that a considerable part of what we talk about every day is not standardized, not absolute; Our opinions are not necessarily right, nor are others necessarily wrong. As long as we think carefully and repeatedly, what reason do we have to refute others in everything?

Of course, we can't express ourselves by disagreeing with others' opinions, but we don't express our true opinions and listen to others' suggestions. If we talk to people and echo every word of others, we may make a good impression at the first meeting, but over time, we will inevitably be regarded as diaosi. No one thinks highly of that man who goes with the flow and has no opinion.

So, how can we express our opinions in good faith without offending others? First of all, we must understand that it is not necessarily our views that offend people, but our attitude towards others.

If we carefully observe society and life, we will find that as long as we express our different opinions to others in an appropriate way, it will not offend others, but it may also be very popular, making people feel that "it is better to study for ten years than to chat with you." On the contrary, when expressing different opinions, if you regard your own opinions as absolutely correct and others' opinions as stupid, naive and absurd, you will seriously hurt others.

Secondly, when we express our views, we should admit that our views may be wrong. We can't force others to accept and believe our opinions immediately, but we should allow others enough time to consider our opinions and provide them with a basis for considering our opinions. If others want to believe our views like themselves, they must give each other sufficient information so that people have sufficient reasons to believe our views, neither blindly following nor arbitrarily.

Thirdly, we also want to show that we are willing to consider other people's opinions different from ours and ask them to provide more explanations, explanations and proofs. If others can make us agree with him, then we will immediately abandon our original views. In this way, on the one hand, we can honestly express our true views, on the other hand, we can sincerely respect the thinking ability of others. This is the ideal way to exchange different opinions with each other.