What do you think of some rural post-90 s leftover men who can't even get a second wife?

This is caused by bad habits, concepts and more men than women in rural areas;

Men have average family conditions, no education, no skills and are not good at mixing. Coupled with the general appearance, introverted personality, working outside, are doing low-end industries, income is not high, it is difficult to stand on;

In this case, men are not smart, excellent, diligent, do not know how to please girls, and it is difficult to find an object outside;

The women who meet outside come from all over the country and cities, and women usually want to find men in cities; Most women from rural areas will eventually go back to their hometown to get married, or like to find a fellow villager, a man from other provinces and cities, and marry far away, but most of them are unwilling;

Unless this man has something worthy of women's liking and has his own bright spots, women can be desperate for this man and are willing to marry him, go to the countryside with him or let the man live in the city by himself;

This phenomenon exists, not everyone is so lucky;

If a man works outside and can't stand it outside, he will eventually return to the countryside. He can't find a woman outside, so he can only find one in the countryside. Conversely, women are the same;

At present, there is a strange phenomenon. Some young men and women have no education and skills. They are engaged in low-end industries such as sales and waiters all year round. They are used to city life and look down on rural people.

It has become a city that can't stay and a rural area that can't go back;

It is always difficult to find someone who is suspected, chosen and old.

Some men and women who work outside the home, even if they are lucky enough to fall in love, often have to break up in the face of cruel reality and geography, only sad and helpless;

Rural men and women get married early, especially women, so there are few marriageable women, and those they are looking for have already found marriage;

Most of the rest are selected lamps that think they have a little capital, and they are not fuel-efficient. In particular, some people work outside for a few days and are carried away by the world of flowers and flowers, becoming materialistic and greedy for pleasure;

If you can't stay in the city, you are used to the life in the city, and when you return to the countryside, you feel like a lighthouse, worth a hundred times;

Now the rural conditions are not bad, and the renovation of the gas field of the house, cement road, street lamp, running water, bathing and sweat toilet is also in progress. All kinds of electrical appliances are basically available, well-informed and rich in materials;

Some families spend a lot of money to build houses, but also pay a huge bride price, and even let the city buy a car. This has cost generations of hard-earned money, and some of them are heavily in debt.

After marriage, this debt will still be paid. Can life be happy and marriage last?

Because a woman is heavily in debt and runs out of money after she gets married, isn't it a dead end when her family gets seriously ill unexpectedly? Can you take risks?

I am from the countryside, but men are forced and forced to have an RV in the city;

If you can buy a car in the city, you are not a city dweller;

That man has a wide range of choices and high requirements. Can he have two? Married woman? Can I ask you to be a rural woman without education, skills or just a little superficial?

Therefore, women should also have self-knowledge. Looking for an object mainly depends on a man's character, personality, habits, filial piety, love, kindness and self-motivation, followed by others.

No matter how good the conditions are, people will get through, be unhappy, be defeated by men, or get divorced sooner or later;

Happiness comes from the joint efforts of both sides, not coming;

It has been suggested that under this abnormal custom and environment:

First of all, men should work hard, learn more skills while they are young, improve their academic qualifications and make themselves better. If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. Once there is love, women forget everything;

Second, men and families who can't find women can change their minds;

Let men get married and live in a woman's house with good conditions for recruiting men.

If there is no suitable one locally, you can go to other places or other provinces;

Make up for the imbalance between men and women in different regions;

New era, new ideas, equality between men and women, also live in that house; Children share the same surname;

There is no need to dwell on these forms and external things, especially the rural elderly who have never seen the feudal traditional thoughts of the world;

As long as both men and women live happily, honor their parents, live a down-to-earth life and raise their children, everything is not a problem!

In China, the most difficult woman is the second married woman. They understand life, economy, the world, people's thoughts, interests, temptations and the value of youth. They want a decent life. That son of a bitch didn't get what he wanted. She left the land with no development prospect, studied in the Western Heaven and communicated on the Internet. They became old drivers and fishing experts. Never married girl, naive, romantic, full of dreams for life, romantic for love, and youthful vitality, she found a handsome guy to live with. A poor bird silk, even a little girl can't handle it, can't get her heart, and still goes to the old master to play tricks. It's strange that you don't touch your head. Sometimes a few baked wheat cakes are fed to dogs, and you don't know what is going on.

Let me talk about my point of view. Don't spray if you don't like it. Thank you!

First, everyone has the right to enjoy life, whether she is married for the first time, for the second time, or even for the third or fourth time. I don't think it is necessary for a woman to lower her social status because of divorce. On the contrary, many divorced women are more considerate and tolerant, but they can live a down-to-earth life. Therefore, women who get married for the second time should not and have no reason to lower their requirements for bride price. I think this is their right, too.

Therefore, I feel that this is a very obvious discrimination against second-married women.

Second, a person will be left behind passively. There must be a reason for being left behind. There is no cause and effect for no reason in this world. The result of being dumped is nothing more than his own internal and external factors, whether it is temper, work, economy, family and other reasons. In a word, his family conditions are average, but his personal conditions are not necessarily outstanding. So, what can he give another girl? Now, it is unrealistic to expect a girl to accompany you to suffer.

You said that many parents are willing to spend their life savings to marry their sons, which sounds so touching. The word "lifetime savings" is quite tempting, but a rational person will understand the absolute value of this "lifetime savings". A thousand? Ten thousand? A hundred thousand? Millions? Ten million?

This is very important. Only concrete figures make sense. It's simple. If the parents of an elderly man have a lifetime savings of only 1 1,000 yuan, his parents express their willingness to give this 1 1,000 yuan "lifetime savings" to their son to marry. Excuse me, did you hear that it was "his parents' life savings"? Touched! However, aside from this extra emotional factor, in the face of this real 1000 yuan, if you were a girl, would you marry him as your wife? I think there may be such girls, but most of them are not women. Because, this is the psychology of normal people, why get married? It is everyone's right to pursue a better material life. You can say that she is superficial about material life, but she is not wrong.

Fourth, I can't marry a daughter-in-law because there are more men than women. I think it's too much to throw the pot at others. In my opinion, as long as you are good enough, even if there is only one woman, what about having a hundred suitors around you? Is it your life or your life? In this case, I think you will still be worried about not getting a wife?

On the contrary, if you are not good, even if there are a hundred women, you are the only suitor around them, so what? You may not get a wife.

So, it's not who wants the bride price, but what you have. What can you give this lady? Otherwise, even if the bride only wants 1 100 as a bride price, you will still berate the bride price you want because your parents' "life savings" are only 1000, but in fact, it is this 100 that makes you lose.

Then, if the consequence of this situation is that in addition to his parents' "life and all savings" 1 000 yuan, why doesn't he earn that 1 000 yuan by himself? But here, I accuse the woman of asking for such a high bride price that you can't grab it.

I think this is very suitable to be explained by the "law of the jungle", that is, the survival of the fittest and the survival of the fittest.

-I am a mandarin duck pot, and you talk to me about emotional problems ~ May my existence be your blessing!

Let me answer: The post-90s generation is the most strict era of family planning in China. Many people in rural areas prefer boys to girls and choose to get pregnant ... this has caused a serious imbalance between men and women. In addition, now rural girls have been admitted to universities and moved to cities, and even girls who have not been admitted to universities have gone to cities to work and stayed in cities ... So it is difficult for rural boys after 90 to find a partner, and it is even more difficult for leftover men to find a partner ... So rural women who are second-married have become hot items and very picky.

Lazy, unprofessional, observant, thinking more and doing less, ...

I have a say in this. There are many people in my hometown who can't marry a rural daughter-in-law around 30. Last year, when I came home for the Spring Festival, I saw a girl rob several houses. Because of the influence of this environment, my aunt forced my cousin to take the children home for a second marriage, saying that he got married too late. For this reason, his cousin is about to collapse. He graduated from college and worked in Shanghai, so he was not worried about his partner at all. The point is that he doesn't like being older than himself.

1, left over from history

These post-80s and post-90s children are catching up with family planning. Many families are fined for having boys and avoiding having girls. After pregnancy, they will try their best to find out whether it is a man or a woman. If they are pregnant with a girl, they will all be aborted. Even if it is formed, it will never be soft, which will directly lead to the imbalance between men and women in this generation of children in rural areas, and it is difficult to find a matching object.

2. Women's self-awakening.

With the development of society, more rural women have seen the wonderful world outside. They see more life possibilities by entering universities or working in big cities. It is human instinct to yearn for a better life. More girls choose to stay in the city, and naturally fewer women stay in the countryside.

It's not that girls don't want to go back. Mainly because of my own experience and growth, I have improved my horizons. Going back to the countryside does not meet the three views of ordinary young people, and it does not meet the concept of marriage and love.

3, conditional ability has limitations.

As I said, he is a guy with average conditions. Finding a partner to get married is a lifetime thing. Since there are good ones and excellent ones, who will go to see the general ones or the bad ones?

Just like the conditions mentioned in the question can't even get a second marriage, doesn't that mean you can marry an unmarried person? Who cares about second marriage? Of course, it doesn't mean that second marriage is not good. Social values are inherently unfavorable to women, and getting married is like devaluation.

Therefore, no matter whether men or women have good ones, they will definitely not choose bad ones. It's just human instinct. Only girls choose the good ones, and the general ones can only stay.

In fact, there are many reasons why many older men in rural areas can't marry their wives, most of which are caused by long-term social factors. This situation cannot be reversed by individuals alone, nor can it change the overall environment, but it can only change itself. Good boys who work hard really don't have to worry about finding someone. Instead of complaining that you can't marry a good daughter-in-law, you might as well try to improve your self-cultivation and economic conditions, at least let the other half feel that he is promising to marry you!

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After 90, I am now in an awkward position. The census shows that there are more men than women. If the family conditions are not good, the appearance is plain, and there is no ability to make money, it is a bit difficult for society to marry a wife now! In fact, marrying a wife is not because your current conditions are not good, so you must lower your standards, or you must see the present situation clearly, give full play to your potential, create conditions, change yourself, give people a feeling of being completely transformed, give people a different feeling, find yourself again and enhance your value. Most importantly!

Isn't it good to love for one hundred dollars?

In rural areas, it is really common and normal for leftover men not to get married. Ten years ago, there were more women than men. Ten years later, there were more men than women. I can only say that I am helpless.

Why did you become a leftover man after 90?

I really feel sorry for this group of post-90 s boys here. They are stuck in the middle and can't get up or down. They have no resources and no choice. They are willing but unable to do so.

Girls born after 80s like 80s, while girls born after 90s still like 80s. The former likes people of the same age and have the same language. The latter likes a mature and steady little brother. So the embarrassing scene appeared: the post-80 s were very popular, but no one asked after the 90 s!

Without resources, everyone can accept it. After all, there are so many single people, and I am just one of them. What's so sad, right? The big deal is that we are alone together ~

I am proud of being single, and I save money for my country! Here comes the problem again. You want to laugh at life and be happy, but the bride price has skyrocketed, and you really can't laugh. You have a crying heart, okay?

Bridal gift100000, there is one at home and one in the city. How can rural people have so much money? Generally, people who can get married are well-off and real money. As long as you are beautiful, you can give whatever you want, which is so domineering! Just ask which girl is willing to have a hard time with money

1. Those with high face value and good figure were picked away by the rich;

2. Those with average looks, medium build and good working conditions are either picked away by middle-class families or have agreed with their sweetheart for life.

In the end, the short, poor, ugly and fat girl was left, and no man wanted to marry her. The most important thing is that you compromise, and other girls still take you with them. They simply look down on you.

Obviously, you are not a bad person, but also a good person, but the competitiveness around you is too strong. In the end, even the matchmaker was worried about you. How about a second marriage? There are so few girls now that everything is fine except marriage.

After being single for 30 years, big boys are always unwilling to be unbalanced when they want to marry second-hand women.

But think about it. What's there? If you don't marry, someone will. Getting married is good for you and your family, and you will have a child with you. Are you happy?

The problem is that the family keeps doing ideological work, and when you finally convince yourself to accept it, the second married person begins to put on airs. There are as many bride price as ordinary families, and there must be a series of conditions such as a house and a car.

Not that we don't want to get married, but that we really can't afford it!

Summary:

The society is developing, the bride price is progressing, the banknotes are shrinking, and it is necessary to transfer ownership when buying a house. There are more men than women in China, and the soaring bride price is the fundamental reason for not getting a wife.

In fact, it doesn't matter what you think, because you will still be single when you wake up tomorrow. So relax. Getting is luck, getting is fate. What can you do?

What's behind the words:

Indus has its own phoenix habitat, and being yourself is the key.

? Since ancient times, there has been a custom of "marrying a Han Chinese and dressing for dinner". As a woman, whether she is a flower-like prostitute or a remarried woman who has experienced the baptism of marriage, the most fundamental purpose of finding her other half and getting married and starting a family is to have a happy dependence and a good destination for her soul. If you are a duckweed, with no fixed address and no worries about food and clothing, will that woman be willing to entrust her life to you?

In the question, I accidentally caught a key? This is the age-after 90. Of course, I am not here to make a fuss about the social contribution of the post-zero generation, or the value created. It's just that I think this is the golden age of my life. Why can't I make some radical changes and let the old man help you get married with money? /kloc-you were born in 0/990, and now you are only 30 years old. People born after 60' s and 70' s are struggling in society. Why not?

Also, actually think that there are fewer girls and "insufficient resources"? Only at the age of 30, my girlfriend hasn't talked yet. I didn't make a detailed analysis of the population survey, but I dare say that the male-female ratio in China is not so unbalanced at present. However, I am curious that even if the family conditions are average, parents are still willing to take out their life savings to help you accomplish lifelong events. So what can you do for yourself?

? To say that women in the world worship money more, maybe I will drown the saliva of my female compatriots when I go out, and I can't generalize. Because, this is the social status quo, no matter where men and women get married, the woman must mention economic conditions, as much as possible. In fact, as long as it is reasonable, I think it is beyond reproach. No matter how beautiful love is, it must be guaranteed by material foundation, otherwise it will not last long and is inevitable.

Therefore, in view of this actual situation, I think the best solution is that as a man, you should take out the blood and courage that men should have, be down-to-earth, capture your heart with your hard hands, and get a down-to-earth life through your own efforts. The level has been significantly improved and the conditions have been greatly improved. At this time, you will not passively find a girlfriend, but all the good women in the world will sit up and take the initiative to be nice to you. !

From this point of view, what the leftover men in their hometown after 1990 lack is not that they have no girlfriends to find, but that they are not fully prepared to take responsibility for life and build a family. With superior material conditions, it is natural to find the right person.