A good natal family can improve the happiness index of marriage

Shen Chenlin/Text

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A good natal home is a warm harbor for a woman. For example, when a woman enters a marriage and is wronged by her husband’s family, she can go back to her natal family to help her. My mother talked about it, and my mother persuaded and adjusted things in the middle. The two of them reconciled and their relationship was even better than before. For example, if you are not happy in daily life and it is inconvenient to talk to your mother-in-law, you can also go back to your parents' home to talk about it to your parents. Another example is that when you are pregnant, you are afraid that your mother-in-law cannot take care of you well, so you can go back to your parents' home and let your mother take care of you.

Anyone who has given birth to a child knows how important confinement is for a woman's physical recovery, and it would be more considerate to go back to her mother's home to take care of her after giving birth. It can be said that having a good natal family can greatly improve a woman's happiness index.

And if you don’t have a good natal family, you will be really bad at major events such as pregnancy, childbirth, confinement, etc.

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After Xiuya’s parents divorced, her father remarried soon, and Xiuya lived with her mother. Her father was very alienated from Xiuya’s mother and daughter, and never interfered with Xiuya’s life. Xiuya and her mother depended on each other. , the year Xiuya was pregnant with the child, her mother passed away.

Although her husband has always wanted her mother-in-law to come and take care of her, she is very worried about her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and is afraid that her life will become even more chaotic, so she takes care of herself during the entire pregnancy, including what fruits, supplements, and nutrition to eat. Make all meals yourself.

Several pregnant women Xiuya knows are all taken care of by their mothers at their parents’ homes. They post all kinds of delicious pictures in their WeChat Moments. They stay in a very happy mood every day. Xiuya is particularly envious, thinking about her mother. Even when she was alive, she would take care of herself with such thoughtfulness. During the entire pregnancy, my father and stepmother basically didn't even call to care about her.

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Half a month before the due date, my husband bought a ticket for my mother-in-law to take care of her without her consent. Although she was very unhappy, her mother-in-law was already on her way, and she could no longer change this fact.

Her mother-in-law took good care of her, but some of her living habits and frugal personality still made her uncomfortable. For example, she would drink the soup without finishing it, picking up the soup bowl and spoon and drinking it without eating. After finishing the dishes, I pick up the plate and eat them. If I don't finish the dishes, I fry them the next day and eat them. After repeated cycles, the dishes I eat every day are yesterday's leftovers.

After her husband went on a business trip, she and her mother-in-law were left alone at home. Her mother-in-law especially liked to complain about the hardships of her previous life, which was full of negative energy. She was in a particularly bad mood every day and had insomnia all night. She hasn't had a good night's sleep since her mother-in-law came.

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One day before the due date, her stomach began to hurt. Her husband was on a business trip, and her mother-in-law was helpless. She was in so much pain that she could not call her husband. The husband asked her mother-in-law to call 120. She was sent to the hospital. Her mother-in-law was not familiar with the hospital. The two stretcher-carrying men kept cursing when they were looking for the inpatient department. They finally found the inpatient department. As soon as the two masters left, the mother-in-law came over and said that she just spent 200 yuan. She couldn't bear it. During labor pains, she took out her wallet and gave all the money she had withdrawn before to her mother-in-law.

When going through the hospitalization procedures, her mother-in-law did not know how to do it. The hospital said she should pay a hospitalization deposit first and asked Xiuya, who was enduring the pain for fetal heart rate monitoring, to ask for the hospital money. Xiuya took out her savings card and gave it to the doctor to ask her mother-in-law to go. After a while, the message was conveyed that her mother-in-law would not handle it. Several other mothers who came in together had successfully completed the hospitalization procedures. She could only endure the labor pain and wait for her husband to come and handle it.

The hospital nurse kept urging her when she could go through the hospitalization procedures. She kept calling her husband to urge her. The injection could have been painless, but because the admission procedures were completed too late, she continued to have labor pains until the child gave birth naturally.

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There were two mothers who had just given birth in the delivery room where she was hospitalized. The mothers who came to take care of them were all mothers, and the mother-in-law also came to help, but there were more The mother is still taking care of her daughter.

But Xiuya was the only one who was busy with her husband running around, feeding the baby all night, and her mother-in-law making meals every day. Her father didn't even come over to see her, and only asked her stepmother to buy a few clothes for the child. He put it down and said he had something to do and left in a hurry.

When her husband is busy and tired, he will complain that there is no one at home to help. Xiuya and her mother-in-law also have many different views, and everyone feels a little uncomfortable psychologically. Xiuya suffered a lot to give birth to a child, but the psychological pain at this moment was much greater than the pain of giving birth.

Because she had to determine the time of discharge so that she could arrange a car to take them back to her hometown for confinement, her husband asked her to ask the doctor every day when she would be discharged from the hospital on the third day after giving birth. Her mother-in-law even directly said that she had no mother. The interpersonal relationship behind the family affects the whole body, so she should consider the overall situation more.

Giving birth to a child felt like a chaotic battle, and the emotions in her heart finally poured out at night, and she couldn't help crying.

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After Xiuya was discharged from the hospital, she went back to her husband’s house. When they invited her for a full moon drink, Xiuya’s husband called and invited Xiuya’s father to come for a full moon drink. Xiuya’s father said that he would not come to the toilet. After hanging up the phone, Xiuya’s husband didn’t know why. He went to Xiuya’s grandma to deliver red eggs and found out that Xiuya’s stepmother visited Xiuya from the hospital. After she came back, she told everyone that when she went to visit Xiuya, not only did no one come to receive her, she even gave her a sip of water. Didn't drink, which means they didn't treat me well.

Xiuya had just given birth to a child and was so weak that she needed someone to take care of her. If her own mother had come to take care of her, she would not care about her child at all. Moreover, at that time, only my husband and mother-in-law took care of the baby after giving birth. The husband became a father for the first time, which was like disturbing his husband. It is reasonable to be neglected for a while, and the stepmother's behavior was to fan the flames of the relationship between the two parties.

A good natal family is a strong support for a woman after she gets married, and the existence of a stepmother is undoubtedly the catalyst for a bad natal family, which is extremely lethal.

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The daughter of Xiuya’s cousin and Xiuya’s husband’s cousin also gave birth at about this time. Not only did Aunt Xiuya take care of her cousin throughout the pregnancy, but she also stayed with her after her cousin was hospitalized early. She was always there to take care of her. When her husband's cousin's daughter was due to give birth, his cousin and her husband immediately rushed over to take care of her. The relationship between the two parents' families was handled very well.

On Xiuya’s side, her parents divorced and her mother passed away. Xiuya and her husband always didn’t know how to deal with the relationship between the two families, and her husband was caught in the middle.

Xiuya now deeply understands that healthy parents are the prerequisite for a good natal family, parental love is the warm harbor of a good natal family, and a good natal family can improve the marital happiness index of a married daughter at critical moments.

Xiuya appeals: Only after we have children do we understand how difficult it is to be a parent. When our parents are healthy, we must spend more time with them and be filial to them. Even if we are not at home due to work, we must take time to call and greet them frequently. , care about them.

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